Political Belief Deal-breakers

[Pinkie]

Being in committed relationship/marriage, I'll shift it to friendships and acquaintancy. There are certain levels of militancy and radicalism I would not tolerate being around. Our house literally has a sign stating that discussing religion is not allowed. In terms of social/political topics, I've demanded, shoved and even thrown people out of our house.

Maybe ironic, but I would have almost zero patience with people who discuss politics and social issues at the level they do on this forum.

WTH do you guys find to talk about?

Me and mine yammer on about these subjects just as we do here -- but we actually listen and show respect. At least face to face.

You must laugh with your hand over your mouth, for example.

My brother, whom I dearly love, is still a devout Catholic, whereas I would like to take a flamethrower to the Vatican. His best friend is an atheist. Every now and again, the best friend and I have coffee just to LOL at my poor brother -- and I know he and my daughter have done the very same about my foibles.

:2funny:

 

[Kandahar]

Are there any political beliefs or viewpoints that you would consider deal-breakers in a potential significant other? Is there any belief that would keep you from dating someone even if he/she were insanely hot and had a great personality?

1. If she's a racist, homophobe, or a sexist (against either gender) then it's a deal-breaker.

2. If she thinks abortion and/or contraception is wrong, then it's not going to work (not because I find that viewpoint so offensive, but because it's also a practical relationship issue that we might have to confront at some point).

Other than that, I don't think there are any real deal-breakers. Although if she's uber-conservative or uber-religious, she probably won't be the best match for me because our lifestyles and outlooks will just be too different. I mean...I live in Washington DC and hang out with an almost exclusively secular, urban liberal group of friends. I don't think I even know any conservatives, and I can count the number of religious people I know on one hand. So even though I don't really have any other beliefs that I'd consider deal-breakers, I think that someone who was very conservative or very religious probably wouldn't "fit in" with my lifestyle very well.

 

[specklebang]

If I met someone who believed that politicians were honest, and were doing their best for America, I would be at a complete loss for words.

 

[Sarcogito]

There aren’t too many commonly held political beliefs that would make me not date someone. I’m not considering odd ball ones like Nazism. But I also think how strongly they hold a belief or if they are an activist in regards to that belief also matter. For example, if someone has a wishy washy belief that gays shouldn't be able to marry but haven’t really thought about it I might still date her. And I would most definitely try to change her mind. However, if she believes strongly in it, votes on propositions banning gay marriage, or is an activist against gay marriage, she is off my list.

Once again, if she is a pro-lifer I would probably be ok with that. If she goes out and protests abortion clinics I wouldn’t be ok with that. So how strongly she holds her belief and to what extent it defines her as a person plays a bigger role than the belief itself.

 

[TheGirlNextDoor]

Are there any political beliefs or viewpoints that you would consider deal-breakers in a potential significant other? Is there any belief that would keep you from dating someone even if he/she were insanely hot and had a great personality?

Not at all. But they had better like to talk/argue about politics. :mrgreen:

 

[Pinkie]

Not at all. But they had better like to talk/argue about politics. :mrgreen:

Conservative men are better in bed.

This counts for something with me.

LOL.

 

[NitroHangover]

Maybe outright, unabashed, serious racism. That's the only specific thing I can think of that I probably just couldn't stand to be around.

My GF and I are funny. We are totally opposite in that she's religious and I'm not, and she's pretty liberal while I'm pretty conservative on almost every issue. But in our day to day lives, we're like the same person. I dunno why, but the opposites thing just works for us. We talk about politics and stuff all the time, too, but it always stays playful and never really gets too heated. Even when we get frustrated with each other, we usually just end up laughing and shaking our heads at each other. Then we end up in the sack, which is where that frustration does come out... and how

 

[SmokeAndMirrors]

Are there any political beliefs or viewpoints that you would consider deal-breakers in a potential significant other? Is there any belief that would keep you from dating someone even if he/she were insanely hot and had a great personality?

Yup. Two.

1. Anti-choice.
2. Limiting or sexist gender definitions.

Those are two things that affect our relationship directly, since I'm primarily heterosexual, and we have to live with each other's gender attitudes (and I'm no Stepford wife). Absolute deal-breakers. Any interest I may have had dies immediately if I find out someone is either of those things.

Everything else is negotiable to various degrees. Some things are more likely to turn me off than others.

(I'm leaving out the obvious "this person is crazy/hateful" type beliefs because they're, well, obvious.)

 

[obvious Child]

Are there any political beliefs or viewpoints that you would consider deal-breakers in a potential significant other? Is there any belief that would keep you from dating someone even if he/she were insanely hot and had a great personality?

Nothing in particular if they could explain why they believed it in a reasonable fashion. Notice that eliminates crazy stuff like forced communal living and Nazism.

 

[hiswoman]

Nazism. I'm sorry, baby, but if you're goose-stepping around the house and toting your hitler youth knife, we better just stick to banging. I don't think you're my type.

Not really, so long as they kept an open mind about my views, as I would do with theirs.

 

[Slartibartfast]

Are there any political beliefs or viewpoints that you would consider deal-breakers in a potential significant other? Is there any belief that would keep you from dating someone even if he/she were insanely hot and had a great personality?

Political desires:

1. Increasing the military budget unless we are at war. We already have a military light years beyond the rest of the world.
2. Any tax plan that would increase the tax burden on the middle-middle and lower economic classes.
3. Significant increases in welfare spending or lowering of any barriers to join welfare (we should be a hand up, not a hand out, also we need to go back to workfare to teach people job skills)
4. Significantly decreasing welfare spending for any other reasons than budget considerations (people who are morally opposed to welfare for example turn me off)
5. Lowering funding for schools, streamlining is good though, but overall funding should stay the same.
6. Lessez faire economics in any form, it will kill people or cause massive poverty, I believe
7. Gold standard or any fixed asset based money system, I prefer to live in reality where central banks are good for the economy (not perfect, but better than the alternative)
8. Any candidate who is a conspiracy theorist (the media hates us, 911 was an inside job, etc)
9. Believers in antisocial philosophies such as libertarianism or objectivism are an immediate no.
10 Any hardset belief in gender based social roles (individual preferences while believing that everyone should make up their own minds is fine, my wife for example very much prefers the traditionally feminine role and I let her do it (meaning I don't complain or anything) even though I don't really care so long as the job gets done (taking care of family, cleaning house, etc))
11. Rapists, murderers, etc.
12. belonging to a cult or a chuch with cultist tendancies (some of the churches in this area are weird)

Those are my hot button issues at least.

I have a lot of preferences though, but these are the biggies for me.

My wife is way more liberal than I am though, even though she dislikes politics intensely. I tend to be much more moderate.

 

[rocket88]

Political desires:

1. Increasing the military budget unless we are at war. We already have a military light years beyond the rest of the world.
2. Any tax plan that would increase the tax burden on the middle-middle and lower economic classes.
3. Significant increases in welfare spending or lowering of any barriers to join welfare (we should be a hand up, not a hand out, also we need to go back to workfare to teach people job skills)
4. Significantly decreasing welfare spending for any other reasons than budget considerations (people who are morally opposed to welfare for example turn me off)
5. Lowering funding for schools, streamlining is good though, but overall funding should stay the same.
6. Lessez faire economics in any form, it will kill people or cause massive poverty, I believe
7. Gold standard or any fixed asset based money system, I prefer to live in reality where central banks are good for the economy (not perfect, but better than the alternative)
8. Any candidate who is a conspiracy theorist (the media hates us, 911 was an inside job, etc)
9. Believers in antisocial philosophies such as libertarianism or objectivism are an immediate no.
10 Any hardset belief in gender based social roles (individual preferences while believing that everyone should make up their own minds is fine, my wife for example very much prefers the traditionally feminine role and I let her do it (meaning I don't complain or anything) even though I don't really care so long as the job gets done (taking care of family, cleaning house, etc))
11. Rapists, murderers, etc.
12. belonging to a cult or a chuch with cultist tendancies (some of the churches in this area are weird)

Those are my hot button issues at least.

I have a lot of preferences though, but these are the biggies for me.

My wife is way more liberal than I am though, even though she dislikes politics intensely. I tend to be much more moderate.

So I guess you won't be ****ing Romney, then.

 

[Aunt Spiker]

Are there any political beliefs or viewpoints that you would consider deal-breakers in a potential significant other? Is there any belief that would keep you from dating someone even if he/she were insanely hot and had a great personality?

Since my husband's a strong conservative and I'm not - I'd have to say no.

But I hold to a rule not to discuss such things with people you're close to because I might not have problems but in my experience they always will.

Imagine my husband's reaction to finding out I fight for gay rights. LOL - yeap.

 

[Sarcogito]

Political desires:

1. Increasing the military budget unless we are at war. We already have a military light years beyond the rest of the world.
2. Any tax plan that would increase the tax burden on the middle-middle and lower economic classes.
3. Significant increases in welfare spending or lowering of any barriers to join welfare (we should be a hand up, not a hand out, also we need to go back to workfare to teach people job skills)
4. Significantly decreasing welfare spending for any other reasons than budget considerations (people who are morally opposed to welfare for example turn me off)
5. Lowering funding for schools, streamlining is good though, but overall funding should stay the same.
6. Lessez faire economics in any form, it will kill people or cause massive poverty, I believe
7. Gold standard or any fixed asset based money system, I prefer to live in reality where central banks are good for the economy (not perfect, but better than the alternative)
8. Any candidate who is a conspiracy theorist (the media hates us, 911 was an inside job, etc)
9. Believers in antisocial philosophies such as libertarianism or objectivism are an immediate no.
10 Any hardset belief in gender based social roles (individual preferences while believing that everyone should make up their own minds is fine, my wife for example very much prefers the traditionally feminine role and I let her do it (meaning I don't complain or anything) even though I don't really care so long as the job gets done (taking care of family, cleaning house, etc))
11. Rapists, murderers, etc.
12. belonging to a cult or a chuch with cultist tendancies (some of the churches in this area are weird)

Those are my hot button issues at least.

I have a lot of preferences though, but these are the biggies for me.

My wife is way more liberal than I am though, even though she dislikes politics intensely. I tend to be much more moderate.

megaprogram on a first date
megaprogram: You look look like a million dollars tonight.
Lovely Lady: Thanks. You look mighty dapper yourself.
megaprogram: Speaking of currency, what is your stance on a fixed asset based money system?
Lovely Lady: Uhhhhh....
megaprogram: I'm sorry. If you have to think about it then this just isn't going to work out. Check please!

 

[hikari]

A few things... Lack to acceptance of gender, and slightly related lack of acceptance of homosexuality.

As a transwoman generally only romantically interested in other women it would totally be a deal breaker for someone to try and rationalize thier own homosexuality by claiming my medical history somehow makes them not gay for being with me.

I would end any relationship right there, if you are a homosexual deal with it. Don't trivialize my identity to try and legitimize your own self hate.

Outside of that, racism, or overtly poltical relgious attitudes I can't think of anything. I don't mind the company of someone who is conservative who can deal with me.

 

[Fiddytree]

Racism, certain religious issues (say, if you are an atheist and can't stand to respect religion or the religious, or if you are a Baptist and hate us Papists or the agnostic). I need someone to be able to work with many youth, many of whom have little regard for religion, while others are staunch believers.


The basic premise of the Welfare state. Our family are dedicated advocates for resources and benefits to the disabled.
The ADA. If you don't agree with that, you will find every day to be a struggle to be in our family.
A general distaste of the disabled, if someone has eugenic propositions (even if you argue on the basis of "it's for their own good").
So pretty much. If you are a staunch libertarian or one of those eugenicist pro-choicers. No dice.

 

[ecofarm]

Pacifist, statist, social conservative or disrespectful of green = to the curb.

 

[Infinite Chaos]

Are there any political beliefs or viewpoints that you would consider deal-breakers in a potential significant other? Is there any belief that would keep you from dating someone even if he/she were insanely hot and had a great personality?

Having two mixed race kids, a nazi would be an obvious write off for me. Having a homosexual younger brother I can say the same about a homophobe. Having lived and worked among muslims in other countries, I wouldn't date a muslim for all the hassle it would create for the lady and I certainly wouldn't tolerate seeing my kids being force fed a religion.

I suppose I'd say the same for anyone who was deeply religious - my lifestyle and atheist views would just rub them up the wrong way as it did my christian ex wife.

 

[tessaesque]

I can't think of anything outside of gross extremism that would be a deal breaker for me.

 

[ecofarm]

I can't think of anything outside of gross extremism that would be a deal breaker for me.

I like to talk politics and philosophy a lot. If my teammate was constantly at odds with me, on things I hold dear, that would not be as nice. She must be supportive or at least tolerant of green, hawk and libertarian.

 

[Goshin]

Are there any political beliefs or viewpoints that you would consider deal-breakers in a potential significant other? Is there any belief that would keep you from dating someone even if he/she were insanely hot and had a great personality?

I'd be unlikely to stay hooked up with anyone who was anti-gun to any noticable degree. Vegan would likely spell trouble too... if she touches my NY Strip steak she's gonna lose a hand. :mrgreen:


If she's likely to appear on video marching with Occupy, you probably won't see her on my arm at the theater.

 

[molten_dragon]

It isn't what they believe as much as it is how strongly they believe it and how much they need to talk about that belief around me. I could be with a Republican just fine. I couldn't be with someone who was constantly sending me the latest anti-Obama chain letter, telling me about what Glenn Beck said today, and watching Fox News.

 

[Omgitsme]

Are there any political beliefs or viewpoints that you would consider deal-breakers in a potential significant other? Is there any belief that would keep you from dating someone even if he/she were insanely hot and had a great personality?

I generally dont talk about politics outside of this forum. So I really dont care what their views are as long as they arnt racist, homophobes, or sexists. I do however care if they are pushy in their views.

 

[American]

I could date a liberal as long as she doesn't get militant about her beliefs. It also depends on what kind of activism she participates in.

 

[Slartibartfast]

So I guess you won't be ****ing Romney, then.

His hair isn't nice enough for me.