Me and my wife are invited to one of her friends wedding next month and on Friday we are invited to a pre wedding dinner/shower. Its at their house, its BYOB and we are all chipping in money for a Indian Takeaway. I have already purchased a present for them via the registry which cost me close to 200 quid but on top of that they want us to bring money for a "money tree" at the pre wedding dinner which I think is outrageous and have told my wife that they are not getting a penny for this tree (especially when they suggested we bring 50 pounds) however she thinks I'm being tight with out money and is going to put money on the tree regardless.
We have to pay for food and booze already for this "party" and on top of that they are demanding money????? I talked to my friends who are also going they don't have a problem with it and some even suggested that this is normal. I am going mad???? Already spent money on a new suit for the wedding, babysitter for the night, hotel room, wedding present and now they want me to give them money ahead of time just because I'm attending a party which they invited me too and want me to provide my own refreshments lol.
I told the wife that I don't want to go to the party anymore and its become a bit of an issue with her because its her best friend and she doesn't want to have to explain why I'm not going etc. Am I being a grumpy tight fisted bloke or do I have a valid point here?
Me and my wife are invited to one of her friends wedding next month and on Friday we are invited to a pre wedding dinner/shower. Its at their house, its BYOB and we are all chipping in money for a Indian Takeaway. I have already purchased a present for them via the registry which cost me close to 200 quid but on top of that they want us to bring money for a "money tree" at the pre wedding dinner which I think is outrageous and have told my wife that they are not getting a penny for this tree (especially when they suggested we bring 50 pounds) however she thinks I'm being tight with out money and is going to put money on the tree regardless.
We have to pay for food and booze already for this "party" and on top of that they are demanding money????? I talked to my friends who are also going they don't have a problem with it and some even suggested that this is normal. I am going mad???? Already spent money on a new suit for the wedding, babysitter for the night, hotel room, wedding present and now they want me to give them money ahead of time just because I'm attending a party which they invited me too and want me to provide my own refreshments lol.
I told the wife that I don't want to go to the party anymore and its become a bit of an issue with her because its her best friend and she doesn't want to have to explain why I'm not going etc. Am I being a grumpy tight fisted bloke or do I have a valid point here?
Me and my wife are invited to one of her friends wedding next month and on Friday we are invited to a pre wedding dinner/shower. Its at their house, its BYOB and we are all chipping in money for a Indian Takeaway. I have already purchased a present for them via the registry which cost me close to 200 quid but on top of that they want us to bring money for a "money tree" at the pre wedding dinner which I think is outrageous and have told my wife that they are not getting a penny for this tree (especially when they suggested we bring 50 pounds) however she thinks I'm being tight with out money and is going to put money on the tree regardless.
We have to pay for food and booze already for this "party" and on top of that they are demanding money????? I talked to my friends who are also going they don't have a problem with it and some even suggested that this is normal. I am going mad???? Already spent money on a new suit for the wedding, babysitter for the night, hotel room, wedding present and now they want me to give them money ahead of time just because I'm attending a party which they invited me too and want me to provide my own refreshments lol.
I told the wife that I don't want to go to the party anymore and its become a bit of an issue with her because its her best friend and she doesn't want to have to explain why I'm not going etc. Am I being a grumpy tight fisted bloke or do I have a valid point here?
You have a valid point, but I would suggest that you suck that **** up for your wife, LOL.Me and my wife are invited to one of her friends wedding next month and on Friday we are invited to a pre wedding dinner/shower. Its at their house, its BYOB and we are all chipping in money for a Indian Takeaway. I have already purchased a present for them via the registry which cost me close to 200 quid but on top of that they want us to bring money for a "money tree" at the pre wedding dinner which I think is outrageous and have told my wife that they are not getting a penny for this tree (especially when they suggested we bring 50 pounds) however she thinks I'm being tight with our money and is going to put money on the tree regardless.
We have to pay for food and booze already for this "party" and on top of that they are demanding money????? I talked to my friends who are also going they don't have a problem with it and some even suggested that this is normal. I am going mad???? Already spent money on a new suit for the wedding, babysitter for the night, hotel room, wedding present and now they want me to give them money ahead of time just because I'm attending a party which they invited me too and want me to provide my own refreshments lol.
I told the wife that I don't want to go to the party anymore and its become a bit of an issue with her because its her best friend and she doesn't want to have to explain why I'm not going etc. Am I being a grumpy tight fisted bloke or do I have a valid point here?
Me and my wife are invited to one of her friends wedding next month and on Friday we are invited to a pre wedding dinner/shower. Its at their house, its BYOB and we are all chipping in money for a Indian Takeaway. I have already purchased a present for them via the registry which cost me close to 200 quid but on top of that they want us to bring money for a "money tree" at the pre wedding dinner which I think is outrageous and have told my wife that they are not getting a penny for this tree (especially when they suggested we bring 50 pounds) however she thinks I'm being tight with our money and is going to put money on the tree regardless.
We have to pay for food and booze already for this "party" and on top of that they are demanding money????? I talked to my friends who are also going they don't have a problem with it and some even suggested that this is normal. I am going mad???? Already spent money on a new suit for the wedding, babysitter for the night, hotel room, wedding present and now they want me to give them money ahead of time just because I'm attending a party which they invited me too and want me to provide my own refreshments lol.
I told the wife that I don't want to go to the party anymore and its become a bit of an issue with her because its her best friend and she doesn't want to have to explain why I'm not going etc. Am I being a grumpy tight fisted bloke or do I have a valid point here?
Me and my wife are invited to one of her friends wedding next month and on Friday we are invited to a pre wedding dinner/shower. Its at their house, its BYOB and we are all chipping in money for a Indian Takeaway. I have already purchased a present for them via the registry which cost me close to 200 quid but on top of that they want us to bring money for a "money tree" at the pre wedding dinner which I think is outrageous and have told my wife that they are not getting a penny for this tree (especially when they suggested we bring 50 pounds) however she thinks I'm being tight with our money and is going to put money on the tree regardless.
We have to pay for food and booze already for this "party" and on top of that they are demanding money????? I talked to my friends who are also going they don't have a problem with it and some even suggested that this is normal. I am going mad???? Already spent money on a new suit for the wedding, babysitter for the night, hotel room, wedding present and now they want me to give them money ahead of time just because I'm attending a party which they invited me too and want me to provide my own refreshments lol.
I told the wife that I don't want to go to the party anymore and its become a bit of an issue with her because its her best friend and she doesn't want to have to explain why I'm not going etc. Am I being a grumpy tight fisted bloke or do I have a valid point here?
Me and my wife are invited to one of her friends wedding next month and on Friday we are invited to a pre wedding dinner/shower. Its at their house, its BYOB and we are all chipping in money for a Indian Takeaway. I have already purchased a present for them via the registry which cost me close to 200 quid but on top of that they want us to bring money for a "money tree" at the pre wedding dinner which I think is outrageous and have told my wife that they are not getting a penny for this tree (especially when they suggested we bring 50 pounds) however she thinks I'm being tight with our money and is going to put money on the tree regardless.
We have to pay for food and booze already for this "party" and on top of that they are demanding money????? I talked to my friends who are also going they don't have a problem with it and some even suggested that this is normal. I am going mad???? Already spent money on a new suit for the wedding, babysitter for the night, hotel room, wedding present and now they want me to give them money ahead of time just because I'm attending a party which they invited me too and want me to provide my own refreshments lol.
I told the wife that I don't want to go to the party anymore and its become a bit of an issue with her because its her best friend and she doesn't want to have to explain why I'm not going etc. Am I being a grumpy tight fisted bloke or do I have a valid point here?
You have a valid point, but I would suggest that you suck that **** up for your wife, LOL.
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IMO, being tight fisted or not tight fisted has to do with how much you make to begin with. If that 50 quid represents the recompense for a few minutes of your working time, it's no big deal. If it represents hours, then it is.
In any case, it seems pretty cheeky tome. Is it to celebrate a marriage or just to shake down the guests for as much as they can get?
When all's said and done, you are entitled to your feelings.
Personally, I've never heard of that custom. A pre-wedding dinner and a money tree, that is. Your reluctance seems reasonable to me. But, again, when all's said and done? That's not the question.
The real question is:
Do you want wifey to be happy? 'Cause you know what happens when wifey ain't happy. In case you were absent for that lesson, "When wifey ain't happy, ain't nobody happy.
Yeh no doubt I will cough up the money and stick it on the stupid tree, just glad to read some of your reactions to this because it makes me feel better and I don't feel like I'm going crazy lol.
No, you're not going crazy. The world at large is going crazy, and you're stuck in the crossfire.
No kidding! We had an outside wedding and the only request we made was that no one bought gifts instead they could bring some firewood and booze for the after wedding bonfire...
No kidding! We had an outside wedding and the only request we made was that no one bought gifts instead they could bring some firewood and booze for the after wedding bonfire...
Perhaps you are being tight, but I'm with you on the issue. Imo, gifts should be given out of thoughtfulness, and not because the recipient is demanding of it.
Me and my wife are invited to one of her friends wedding next month and on Friday we are invited to a pre wedding dinner/shower. Its at their house, its BYOB and we are all chipping in money for a Indian Takeaway. I have already purchased a present for them via the registry which cost me close to 200 quid but on top of that they want us to bring money for a "money tree" at the pre wedding dinner which I think is outrageous and have told my wife that they are not getting a penny for this tree (especially when they suggested we bring 50 pounds) however she thinks I'm being tight with our money and is going to put money on the tree regardless.
We have to pay for food and booze already for this "party" and on top of that they are demanding money????? I talked to my friends who are also going they don't have a problem with it and some even suggested that this is normal. I am going mad???? Already spent money on a new suit for the wedding, babysitter for the night, hotel room, wedding present and now they want me to give them money ahead of time just because I'm attending a party which they invited me too and want me to provide my own refreshments lol.
I told the wife that I don't want to go to the party anymore and its become a bit of an issue with her because its her best friend and she doesn't want to have to explain why I'm not going etc. Am I being a grumpy tight fisted bloke or do I have a valid point here?
Maybe it is because it is her friend and not yours, so you do not feel as emotionally committed to making their affair nicer or helping them pay for things the way your wife does. I know I have a different attitude about it when I am helping out a member of my family as opposed to one of hers. :unsure13:
Me and my wife are invited to one of her friends wedding next month and on Friday we are invited to a pre wedding dinner/shower. Its at their house, its BYOB and we are all chipping in money for a Indian Takeaway. I have already purchased a present for them via the registry which cost me close to 200 quid but on top of that they want us to bring money for a "money tree" at the pre wedding dinner which I think is outrageous and have told my wife that they are not getting a penny for this tree (especially when they suggested we bring 50 pounds) however she thinks I'm being tight with our money and is going to put money on the tree regardless.
We have to pay for food and booze already for this "party" and on top of that they are demanding money????? I talked to my friends who are also going they don't have a problem with it and some even suggested that this is normal. I am going mad???? Already spent money on a new suit for the wedding, babysitter for the night, hotel room, wedding present and now they want me to give them money ahead of time just because I'm attending a party which they invited me too and want me to provide my own refreshments lol.
I told the wife that I don't want to go to the party anymore and its become a bit of an issue with her because its her best friend and she doesn't want to have to explain why I'm not going etc. Am I being a grumpy tight fisted bloke or do I have a valid point here?
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