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Why are you in the relationship you are in?

katiegrrl0

katiegrrl0

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I was going to ask why are you married to the person you are but since it would exclude those who are not married I asked it this way.

I married my wife because she is my best friend and I would not to be in life without her. She brings me joy and life. Her care and concern brings me joy. I thought she was beautiful but when I got to know her she became so much more beautiful.
 
I married my wife because I want to be around her for the rest of my life.
 
I got married for the sex, because we all know "gay"marriage is only about the sex. :mrgreen:
 
no one else would put up with me
 
I haven't been in a relationship for quite some time, simply because I'm done with it all. My fiance cheated on me, and my last serious relationship was an emotional cluster****. Just taking it easy, not committing to **** right now until I feel like playing the game again. I'm actually a lot happier this way.
 
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I married my wife because I loved her and wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. She's funny, she's smart, she's beautiful, and she's my best friend. She's everything I could hope for in a partner.
 
Oh man, I could write a book....

We love each other.
We respect each other.
We can talk to each other (if I can get him away from SWTOR!)
We can "sync" to one another in thought and action
Even when we've had rough spots, there was always a realization that we're better together than we are apart, and that kept us going.

And in 4 years we've never had a heated, screaming, insult kind of fight with one another.

The worst disagreement we ever had was really a rather calm talk that ended up playing on my anxiety (which was peaking at that particular time), which resulted in me having to flee the situation temporarily. He, of course, thought I was leaving for other reasons (it's hard to explain a panic attack during a panic attack), so he was worried and upset when I finally got myself under control a few hours later. If it hadn't been for an untimely panic attack even that disagreement would have been fairly miniscule.
 
to have emotional satisfaction....
 
My very first date with my wife almost ended in the hospital when she had a severe allergic reaction to something she ate. It was by far the best date I've ever had. The next day I moved 250 miles away, happy in the knowledge I had just met the woman I was going to marry but rather worried as I wasn't yet sure if I was the man she wanted to marry me (250 miles is pretty far). Turns out she felt same as me, I couldn't ask for a better partner.
 
Lokiate said:
I haven't been in a relationship for quite some time, simply because I'm done with it all. My fiance cheated on me, and my last serious relationship was an emotional cluster****. Just taking it easy, not committing to **** right now until I feel like playing the game again. I'm actually a lot happier this way.
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i've also been single since a failed engagement a few years back. i'm not much for fighting, and i haven't found someone who is willing to accept the reality that the first six months' lust and infatuation transforms into comfort, peace, and a lifelong partnership. i have gone on some dates since, but i am so careful now that it just isn't as much fun. plus the dating pool in my immediate area has evaporated into a puddle. if i do it again, plentyoffish, here i come.

at this point in my life, it's going well. i have become institutionalized into my routine somewhat, and am hesitant to try again. on the other hand, the idea of getting old with no one there to share it with me is somewhat scary. what i don't want to do is get into another bad situation that i stay in out of love. and it's hard to know which women will turn abusive when the infatuation fades. i've found that most people project their own internal dissatisfaction and boredom on their partner, and i don't really want to bear the brunt of that. i also don't want the verbally abusive cheaters that i seem to attract or create.
 
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i've also been single since a failed engagement a few years back. i'm not much for fighting, and i haven't found someone who is willing to accept the reality that the first six months' lust and infatuation transforms into comfort, peace, and a lifelong partnership. i have gone on some dates since, but i am so careful now that it just isn't as much fun. plus the dating pool in my immediate area has evaporated into a puddle. if i do it again, plentyoffish, here i come.

at this point in my life, it's going well. i have become institutionalized into my routine somewhat, and am hesitant to try again. on the other hand, the idea of getting old with no one there to share it with me is somewhat scary. what i don't want to do is get into another bad situation that i stay in out of love. and it's hard to know which women will turn abusive when the infatuation fades. i've found that most people project their own internal dissatisfaction and boredom on their partner, and i don't really want to bear the brunt of that. i also don't want the verbally abusive cheaters that i seem to attract or create.
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Please don't use Plentyoffish! OKCupid or even the pay-to-play sites...ANYTHING but Plentyoffish. It could be area dependent, mind you, but the two people I know who've used POF have ended up pooling a bunch of freaks, losers, and perverts. I could tell you some pretty crazy stories. For your own sanity, please reconsider, man!
 
It's nice. He's nice, we're nice, it's low-drama and fun so far.

I can't say I'm looking for anything terribly serious. I haven't been for a long time, and I'm beginning to wonder if I'm just going to keep getting less and less interested in the "must find someone to put up with me forever" model. I like living alone too much, and life is too damn short.

I date on rare occassion. It's nice. That's really all I want. I'm just as happy to be alone, romantically speaking. I'm not terribly emotionally demanding, but what I do need doesn't have to be romantic, though it's nice. All I really need is for people to act with integrity (honesty, golden rule, etc) and be there when needed. I do the same. I don't need a lot of time or a shower of compliments or commitment.

I like the guy I'm dating now because I enjoy talking to him, he's smart, straight-foward and communicative, funny, has some interesting edges, and since we're both busy people it's been pretty easy-going.

Sent from the depths of my device of mass distraction. I should probably be getting something done right now.
 
I actually met my husband online, 16 years ago, in an IRC chat room :lol: . We talked online for a while, graduated up to telephone calls, and then one day, I got a wild hair up my butt, loaded up my car and moved from Texas to New York. Have we had problems? Yeah, every solid relationship does. It's how you recover from them that defines a relationship.

I can't imagine a life without him. I worry for him, because he's a bit older than me, with health problems, but he's my love story, and always has been.
 
The biggest reason why I have full confidence that my fiance is right for me, and that I am taking the plunge I swore I would never take again is because not only was I NOT looking for a LTR, I was attempting to avoid it. it didn't happen overnight, but I also knew her (worked with her at one point nearly 20 years before we got together. She hasn't changed her personality. I guess if people are worried about the other one changing, that is a fairly good indication she won't. We've been through a few ups and downs, and each time it has ended up making us stronger. We have both learned greatly from each other, and have become better people. From day one, I have felt incredibly comfortable and calm around her. I have a deep trust in her I never thought I would feel from another human being again.

Having said all that, I am wickedly attracted to her, as I have always been. sexually, 3 years in to the relationship, she rocks my world. It's never been better for me. I still have a lot of the daily life struggles and issues, as we all do. In some ways, we are in some struggles with life that are harder than they have ever been. Not because of each other, just because of situations somewhat beyond our control. Still though, life overall has never been better and I have never been happier and more content.
 
Tim, glad to hear that things are still going so well for you guys. I remember you when. :lol: I remember you "pre" the woman of your dreams, and you were pretty cynical about love, romance, and the like. Glad she changed your mind. Everybody deserves happiness. <hug>
 
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Tim, glad to hear that things are still going so well for you guys. I remember you when. :lol: I remember you "pre" the woman of your dreams, and you were pretty cynical about love, romance, and the like. Glad she changed your mind. Everybody deserves happiness. <hug>
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Thanks Supa. One of the toughest realizations I ended up facing about my past in terms of women and why I was so cynical was I made myself that way. Bad choices lead to bad consequences. For all those who swear of their tough luck with relationships, Its not them, its you, for putting them there.
 
in fact the reason why we have in relationships takes its source from our need for love.thats all....we may fabricate lots of excuses but it doesnt change our main goal.we all need to feed our souls with emotional feels..
 
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I hope GM's still doing well, too. He met a girl (finally! :lol:) and was settling into a nice, sex-filled relationship. Hope it's still going well for him. I quit going to PP a while back, but even when I was posting there, he was all but gone. Guess that's a good sign!
 
Last I heard from him was that he had gotten over the hump with insecurity issues and had learned how to meet women on a regular basis. At the time he was playing the field and making up for lost time. Now he has a steady GF? HA! I should log on and give him **** about that lol. ( I haven't been on in many many months, and don't miss romper room at all)
 
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