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Why are you in the relationship you are in?

Viktyr Korimir said:
I'm alone because I am a miserable unlovable prick with nothing to offer anyone. I don't even try to date anymore because it wouldn't be fair to the kind of decent, trusting, warm-hearted person who would give me a chance.
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^ This is saddening. I hope you find someone or, as in my instance, someone walked into my hell for me and - ultimately - I was wise enough to follow her out and never go back. Keep your eyes open. Be prepared to believe the unbelievable.
 
katiegrrl0 said:
I did know a women who rented three U Hal trailers in a month. It's not as common as some think but once you have bonded with this other woman it seems like a good thing to move in.Lesbians also hang out with old flames a lot. We stay friends many times. I still hang with some of the girls I used to date. Hell I have even slept with them again. Years ago.
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Maybe there is a "nesting" instinct in some women, so if you put two women together they both instinctly promptly start making a nest together - or something like that. But I also think it is because two women may feel safer towards each other than would a woman who just met a man.
 
joko104 said:
Maybe there is a "nesting" instinct in some women, so if you put two women together they both instinctly promptly start making a nest together - or something like that. But I also think it is because two women may feel safer towards each other than would a woman who just met a man.
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Relationship and love take a high priority. Many of the relationships start fast burn hot and fizzle out as not what you expect. I do see the nesting as a possibility. I know there were times when I had the thought "This is the one" only to find out she made a great friend but not so much as a companion. I also had it happen to me. I came home and she and her brother and a couple of friends we loading her stuff into a pickup. I cried a few days and beat my pillows to death with my fists. We are still friends. But the relationship was not so much. We were good for only a couple of weeks at that.
I always wanted to think the best and hope for even more than that.
 
Relationship and love take a high priority. Many of the relationships start fast burn hot and fizzle out as not what you expect. I do see the nesting as a possibility. I know there were times when I had the thought "This is the one" only to find out she made a great friend but not so much as a companion. I also had it happen to me. I came home and she and her brother and a couple of friends we loading her stuff into a pickup. I cried a few days and beat my pillows to death with my fists. We are still friends. But the relationship was not so much. We were good for only a couple of weeks at that.
I always wanted to think the best and hope for even more than that.
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Ive always felt the trick to any long term relationship was to find someone crazy enough to want to be with and stay with you but not so crazy that you didnt want to be with and stay with them. Its a fine line to walk but I managed to find that perfectly wonderful lunatic. Seems in general (for me at least) finding a lunatic was easier than fidning the perfectly woderful person. But then I think, maybe I needed more lunacy for someone to want to be with me than most people.
 
Quag said:
Ive always felt the trick to any long term relationship was to find someone crazy enough to want to be with and stay with you but not so crazy that you didnt want to be with and stay with them. Its a fine line to walk but I managed to find that perfectly wonderful lunatic. Seems in general (for me at least) finding a lunatic was easier than fidning the perfectly woderful person. But then I think, maybe I needed more lunacy for someone to want to be with me than most people.
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Like you I eventually did find the person for me and life is wonderful and only getting better. :)
 
Why are you in the relationship you are in?

Love, Respect, and Sex.....in that order.:peace
 
tecoyah said:
Why are you in the relationship you are in?

Love, Respect, and Sex.....in that order.:peace
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I think that's a good order indeed. Cooking could be thrown in the mix as well.
 
katiegrrl0 said:
I have never had any doubts. We moved in together shortly after we met. You know the lesbian U Haul date That would be the second one. We have been happy ever since. Never thought of moving out. I returned the U Haul two days after. That is a lesbian precaution so if it's not working you can get the hell out fast and not worry about renting again so quickly.
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wolfsgirl said:
We made it to the third actual date, but we knew each other for at least a year.
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WTF? I waited SEVEN years for Gary to marry me. This must be evidence that boys clearly move a lot slower than women
 
missypea said:
WTF? I waited SEVEN years for Gary to marry me. This must be evidence that boys clearly move a lot slower than women
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Seven years OMG that's a long time. You may not be lesbian. hehehehehehehe :)
 
Tucker Case said:
I decided to marry my wife because I love her and believed she was a person I could grow old with.

I realized she was the right person when, three months before the wedding when my father had an accident and suffered severe brain damage due to that accident. He spent the next six months in a coma, meaning he was in a coma on our wedding day. In between the ceremony and the reception, we went to visit my comatose father at the hospital as husband and wife. Once we got there, I lost it entirely. She stood next to me silently, just holding my hand without saying a word, until I was done. She was just there for me, with me, during what was one of the single hardest moments of my life.

How could I not be with a woman like that?
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As much fun as I've had with my husband, I believe the moments of heartache highly contributed to the tying of those unbreakable knots. I'm glad you have her Tucker.
 
tecoyah said:
Yeah, but I hate to brag....oh, you mean her....yeah....that helps.:doh
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i am not a very good cook and if I wanted to eat decent meals cooking was at the head of the list. Not only is the food good but healthy as well.
 
katiegrrl0 said:
I was going to ask why are you married to the person you are but since it would exclude those who are not married I asked it this way.

I married my wife because she is my best friend and I would not to be in life without her. She brings me joy and life. Her care and concern brings me joy. I thought she was beautiful but when I got to know her she became so much more beautiful.
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I feel the same about my fiancée. :)

Just one thing to add: I realized that even after the first crush, the excitement and novelty of our relation was gone, I felt incredibly happy to have her around. To know she is "just there". Even when we don't talk, when she sleeps, when I wake up next to her, when we watch tv, even when we are too lazy to have sex -- just to know she is there makes me incredibly happy and I feel immensely satisfied. At that point, I knew I want to marry her.
 
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