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Then your spouse comes by your with your child in their arms, the kid is flailing and screaming and being taken out of the house.
What do you do? What is your likely first reaction?
My wife and I tend to agree that the kids need to be punished before we it. Than we take turns so the nobody is the bad parent.
Mama does the cookin - daddy does the whoopin.
My sister's reaction to her husband when this happened last week, though, wasto her husband) "OMG! What are you doing!" . . . and then immediately following behind them.
He stared straight at me and threw a spoon on the ground. I sighed and picked him up again, "whuppin' number three, coming up..."
(Three did the trick. He behaved the rest of the meal, and actually rarely misbehaved in a restaurant ever again. :mrgreen:}
Some children are tenacious little creatures.:mrgreen:
Rule Number One: In issues relating to correct behavior, Parent Always Wins. :mrgreen:
Rule Number Two: Safety issues and open defiance are always dealt with immediately and decisively.
LOL!
Well - I don't know what I'd do. None of my kids have ever had to be carried out of my Mom's house over my husband's shoulder. so - for that to happen - they'd have to act unusually horrid.
But, generally, I trust my husband is dealing with it appropriately and properly. . . I wouldn't be worried - but interested in what happened, sure, and I'd find out later.
My sister's reaction to her husband when this happened last week, though, wasto her husband) "OMG! What are you doing!" . . . and then immediately following behind them.
Exactly!
My son has two little girls, and he's frequently told how delightful they are to be around. It's because he doesn't let them act like hateful little animals. There's a fine line that has to be walked when parenting- you don't want to break their spirit, but you also don't want to facilitate unbridled defiance.
At 14 he is a joy and a pleasure to be around, and everyone who knows him says the same. Really I'd rather do things with my son than anyone else I know.
Is this the same sister who went to her husband's former employer to try and get a refund on insurance premiums?
and this may very well be why one of your sis' kids has behavior issues
he has learned to divide and conquer at an early age, pitting the parents against each other ... because they allow him to do that
Since I've never had children, I can speak as an authority on the subject j/k.
If I saw my husband taking my kicking and screaming child out the door, I'd want to know what happened. That'd be a natural instinct. If my husband gave me a "high sign," I'd just stay out of it. I can find out later. I think it's reasonable to assume I could tell by my eye contact with my husband what was going on. And if he's choosing to handle it, well, God bless 'im. I wouldn't follow along. I'd get my "full report" later.
As to telling other family members what happened after I did find out, depending on what'd happened, I'd just say that hubby gave my child a much needed attitude adjustment. (That one's a little hard to answer w/o more information.)
I'd just smile and give a thumb's up and go back to what I was doing.
Really though, I've been divorced a long time and never remarried, so maybe I'm not the best person to comment on this one. My ex has always sucked at discipline, and still does. She either loses her temper and over-reacts, or else ignores things that NEED to be addressed because it isn't inconveniencing her personally.
I'm reminded when my son was about 3, about a year past the divorce. My parents took us out to a local restaurant, and my son really showed his ass, acting like an utter brat. I took him to the bathroom and beat his ass, put him back in his chair and told him to behave. Within 5 minutes, he was at it again, and earned a second trip to the bathroom. This time he behaved about ten minutes then started up again. I asked him "are you determined to get another whuppin'?" He stared straight at me and threw a spoon on the ground. I sighed and picked him up again, "whuppin' number three, coming up..."
I looked around a little nervously, wondering what people were thinking about us. An older couple at the next table were looking, but they were smiling and nodding at me in approval. :mrgreen:
Gotta love small towns.
(Three did the trick. He behaved the rest of the meal, and actually rarely misbehaved in a restaurant ever again. :mrgreen:}
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