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I'll give you a scenario:
You're at your parent's house (or in-laws house) visiting family (Grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins - the whole shebang).
Your spouse and you are separated - in different rooms talking with different people. The children are running around playing doing normal children things. Then your spouse comes by your with your child in their arms, the kid is flailing and screaming and being taken out of the house.
What do you do? What is your likely first reaction?
* Intense need to know why the child is being punished: "What's going on? What did he do wrong?"
* Not viewing this as a punishment situation, but a: "Oh my gosh, did he/she get hurt!" situation instead.
* Being doubtful that your spouse is doing things the right or appropriate way: "Did he *really* do anything wrong?"
* Being confident that your spouse is handling things appropriately: "Everything's taken care of."
Do you follow-along - regardless of your thought-reaction do you go out the door with your spouse to see what the issue is?
Do you not follow along - your spouse is handling it, no need to get involved?
Whatever you do - do you communicate to your family as to what happened, why - do you inform or get them involved at all? *or* Do you not involve or inform your family at all?
You're at your parent's house (or in-laws house) visiting family (Grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins - the whole shebang).
Your spouse and you are separated - in different rooms talking with different people. The children are running around playing doing normal children things. Then your spouse comes by your with your child in their arms, the kid is flailing and screaming and being taken out of the house.
What do you do? What is your likely first reaction?
* Intense need to know why the child is being punished: "What's going on? What did he do wrong?"
* Not viewing this as a punishment situation, but a: "Oh my gosh, did he/she get hurt!" situation instead.
* Being doubtful that your spouse is doing things the right or appropriate way: "Did he *really* do anything wrong?"
* Being confident that your spouse is handling things appropriately: "Everything's taken care of."
Do you follow-along - regardless of your thought-reaction do you go out the door with your spouse to see what the issue is?
Do you not follow along - your spouse is handling it, no need to get involved?
Whatever you do - do you communicate to your family as to what happened, why - do you inform or get them involved at all? *or* Do you not involve or inform your family at all?