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Of course I am. That's what most people you hang out with are playing at, not "most people" in the world. You're isolating yourself from things just as much as I am. We just spent pages going back and forth about your plan to try to "date" a girl by inviting her to an obvious hook-up situation, and when I pointed out the women you supposed want would be repelled by that, you couldn't argue with me.
You are choosing the company you keep. So am I.
Today's serious dating market is less formal, and less judgmental. I think that's good. It is not any different in the fundamentals of how you would go about getting to know someone for a relationship. It ultimately depends on how you work together, just the two of you. That's still true today.
To be fair here, it's somewhat unlikely that the kind of woman you're talking about would be working a job that pretty explicitly requires that she flirt with men in order to sell them useless trinkets they don't need in the first place, or would be coming on quite so strong as this one has.
In point of fact, she might actually be just the extremely extroverted sort of personality type to think a party would be a great idea as a first date.
Ya know... Just sayin'. :shrug:
In any case, however, that's besides the point. I'll cross that bridge when I come to it.
The fact of the matter remains, however, that today's dating market is a lot less serious than that of past generations. So much so, in fact, that I'd basically say that less intimate, and more "social," approaches have become the accepted "default" for many groups.
While I'm sure you could find like-minded people and go about building a little social "enclave" for yourself where that is not the case, it really doesn't change "mass-market" reality. I haven't made a conscious effort to either seek out or isolate myself from much of anyone (except for true weirdos, who tend to be somewhat rare). The less serious types simply happen to be who I most frequently encounter.
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