What happens when you defy the laws written by your elected officials? What happens if you try to overthrow them?
Your democracy may work very well in preventing the actual use of violence, but it is still maintained by the threat of violence.
If we were discussing particular policies, I would agree with you and I would attempt to provide evidence showing that a particular policy is indeed healthier than the alternatives. We are now discussing core political philosophies, and such matters as the role of the government, the legitimacy of government, and so forth. There is little difference, qualitatively, between my concept of the State as an organism and other posters' vague ideas about freedom and personal responsibility. Even in the absence of the form of government that I advocate, I believe that the State's activities should be similar-- uphold desirable cultural and moral standards and protect the security and the interests of the State, which are a reflection of the security and the interests of the people.
If you compare Fascist states to their existence before and after World War I, you will find vast improvements in the happiness and prosperity of the people living within them. It was World War II that ruined them-- when they were destroyed from without by larger, more powerful enemies that were every bit as violent and coercive as they.