lewstherin
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Sort of, yes. I mean, I would hope it would be a deeper conversation than that, but yes.
I'm human. I feel jealousy at times. But I have found that is almost always solved by talking about it. In fact the only times I can remember feeling jealous are when I was keeping it to myself.
The typical model of strict, life-long monogamy is also not realistically something that is a part of natural human relationships. I don't hold tightly to either standard. It just makes things more dramatic than they need to be.
Different people bring different things to the table. There may be times when those things overlap. I don't think telling people they're bad for feeling that way is a good way to approach the issue.
I do tend to be monogamous simply because I find it simpler and less draining on myself. But when I have been in relationships that are themselves non-tradition (regardless of whether there were additional partners involved), other aspects and emotions can come into play.
i've never cheated on a girlfriend or spouse. my parents have had a monogamous marriage for 50+ years.
people believe cheating is "acceptable" because their tv's portray cheating as acceptable at such a high
rotation rate; that they actually believe in their washed-out, pea-brained minds that infidelity is the
natural "norm" of any marriage.