Why Your Parents Lied To You

[americanwoman]

Yet you wasted your time on it here.
I was lucky I guess, my parents were very blunt with me. But then again they were raising a man, not a child.

I can see that. I find you to be very straightforward and blunt in your posting. I may not always agree with you but I like your style.

 

[wolfie]

Isn't that a sad commentary? I see so many relationships where the woman wants a man to be dependent on her, and it appears to be that she wants to control the relationship. It's hard to find that happy medium.

Yes you start off with a man...and end up picking up his ****..working as hard as he does..and end up with another child!!

 

[Slartibartfast]

How many times have you lied to your kids about anything and how many lies did your parents tell you and how many things will they never dare tell you?!

I dont lie, I just tell them when something is an adult topic and leave it at that.

 

[clownboy]

How many times have you lied to your kids about anything and how many lies did your parents tell you and how many things will they never dare tell you?!

My parents didn't. However when we were young they didn't go into the detail they were willing to once we demonstrated maturity enough to handle it.

 

[clownboy]

I dont lie, I just tell them when something is an adult topic and leave it at that.

My standby line was, "you must be this high to ride that ride". My daughter uses it on her kids now.

 

[rhinefire]

notice the portion of your post i bold font
how the hell would we know the answer?


so, my challenge to you is to tell us how many unreported abortions there are each year

Your avatar fits you well.

 

[rhinefire]

What made me ask this question is I just heard a friend of mine died. He died a drug addict amazingly in the very same flophouse hotel his mother committed suicide in. We grew up together and he knew his mother lied about her past. She was a hooker tied with the Chicago mob in the 40's and 50's and my friend never knew who his father was. There was one guy that he said used to come around but never said he was his father but my friend suspected something. When he turned 16 his mother lost her mind and I saw her only once after that. My friend struggled with the questionable stories his mother told him and it weighed on him his entire life. He never let us in his home after his mother went crazy. Most of his friends that had a normal family life and we was jealous but tried to hide it best he could. To know he died in that horrible flop house that we as kids always made fun of is sad to say the least. A very tormented life has ended.

 

[SmokeAndMirrors]

How many times have you lied to your kids about anything and how many lies did your parents tell you and how many things will they never dare tell you?!

Apart from the standard Santa, tooth fairy, etc kind of lies, my parents never really did. They were much more likely to withhold information (usually about themselves and their lives) than to actually lie.

I still know very little about their lives to this day, but I know everything about my own, and I have gotten some really surprising answers to various questions over the years. I'm not sure either one of them even understands the concept of tact, but I actually really appreciate it, and I'm glad they were like that. It gave me a lot of context and prepared me better for, ya know, reality. :lol:

 

[justabubba]

Your avatar fits you well.

thank you

 

[nota bene]

How many times have you lied to your kids about anything and how many lies did your parents tell you and how many things will they never dare tell you?!

In the course of their lifetimes, I have managed to tell each of my kids exactly one eensy-teensy, stupid and unnecessary white lie, and I remain heartily sorry. :3oops:

 

[shrubnose]

Both parties need to understand its a 50/50 deal. All of it the good and the bad.

From what I have observed in my life some people are glad to share the good, but when the bad starts they can't handle it.

 

[Hard Truth]

My parents didn't lie (except santa, tooth fairy etc.) but there was lot they didn't tell us, unless we asked.

I bet most of today's parents lie more than ever since many of them did sex and drug stuff that they don't want their kids to know about now.

I think parents should be more honest and in particular, should talk honestly about money and finances. They should also warn kids early on about the prejudices that they will encounter-not just racial and ethnic bigotry, but classism and appearance bias also.

 

[Gathomas88]

My parents didn't lie (except santa, tooth fairy etc.) but there was lot they didn't tell us, unless we asked.

My parents never really bothered with any of those. It made hanging around with other kids my age more than a bit awkward to say the least.

Everyone else: "Santa's coming! I wonder what he'll bring me!"

Me: "My mom went Christmas shopping the other day. All of my gifts are in the closet." :lol:

I think parents should be more honest and in particular, should talk honestly about money and finances. They should also warn kids early on about the prejudices that they will encounter-not just racial and ethnic bigotry, but classism and appearance bias also.

The most valuable lesson I ever learned from my parents, bar none: "Stay the **** away from credit cards!!!"

They are not "free money." They're a trap. I avoid them like the plague if I can help it. I either have money or I don't, and that's all there is to it.

My younger brother, unfortunately, does not seem to have taken this philosophy on the matter. :roll:

 

[DDD]

I was told by the Nuns that I must not allow anyone to piddle in my belly button..That advice still holds good today!!

True! Who would want to piddle with your belly button anyway? It is the other buttons I would go for instead!

 

[DDD]

My parents did not tell me much about relationships and dating. Hence I had to understand the facts of life from movies and later from porn. Both of which at young age with equally likely minded peers more or less promoted the idea that sex is somewhat painful because it is incredibly tight, hookers have to do it for money otherwise they would not bother with sex, and this is the reason most girls turn away guys from sex.

Thus should one persuade a girls for sex and manages through with it then he is a rare male hero. A true achiever. But in reality they were freaking low lives. Both the achievers and porn actors were freaking unkind and apathetic! These were the role models, apparently if one wanted some the tips and tricks were to come from the lowest kind!

Adding more cultural specific issues I was warned with great fear from peers that if one persuades a girl for sex her father will come to you with a gun and force you into marrying her! I had to make sure and pick the best freaking models out there just to be safe. If the father gets involved I do not lose much then for she is not bad anyway!

Of course had to lose many other opportunities. Especially with the very available, receptive, but not as beautiful or smart girls!

I sometimes regret to have disappointed them! But all this due to lack of proper sources of information from proper people which I think should have been my parents.

 

[nota bene]

My parents didn't lie (except santa, tooth fairy etc.) but there was lot they didn't tell us, unless we asked.

I bet most of today's parents lie more than ever since many of them did sex and drug stuff that they don't want their kids to know about now.

I think parents should be more honest and in particular, should talk honestly about money and finances. They should also warn kids early on about the prejudices that they will encounter-not just racial and ethnic bigotry, but classism and appearance bias also.

I wonder why you think parents today are more inclined to lie.

About the sex, drugs, and rock 'n roll, I never lied to my kids. Why would I?

Sometimes, parents' life adventures and misadventures can be...instructive. If the kids listen, I mean. My children continue to prefer to believe that they were immaculate conceptions.

 

[wolfie]

True! Who would want to piddle with your belly button anyway? It is the other buttons I would go for instead!

Tut tut..the belly button is part of the genital region as far as Nuns are concerned!!

I can only deduct it was an euphemism for sexual intercourse!!

 

[DDD]

Tut tut..the belly button is part of the genital region as far as Nuns are concerned!!

I can only deduct it was an euphemism for sexual intercourse!!

Wonder what euphemisms they attach for even less sexual areas. Such as for instance the forehead? Or how about the upper spine?

 

[wolfie]

Wonder what euphemisms they attach for even less sexual areas. Such as for instance the forehead? Or how about the upper spine?

Forehead is very bad...it may the point in the brain that is giving you sinful thoughts....

Upper spine!!...you know what is in front of them if you are female??

Dirty boy!!!:lamo

 

[DDD]

Building on post 65 one could then draw even more myths. If sex is undesirable for girls due to sexual pain since it is too tight (this from "expert" male peer virgins who claimed to be so) then the only reason an ugly girl would resort to consent to have sex would be to attract attention or otherwise gain other favors from it. See girls never really want sex under these false premises.

Hence the uglier the girls the more she will be forced to appear sexually and resort more easily to sex. The more beautiful ones do not have to be resort consent to sex for they can receive attention with their beauty alone. Hence they could cover up their sexuality with greater ease.

Of course then you see an amazing beautiful girl who not only expresses sexuality but she is even a porn star! It did not fit the myth concepts and one had to redefine reality after these new data :doh

So many lies/myths debunked back then...

 

[DDD]

Forehead is very bad...it may the point in the brain that is giving you sinful thoughts....

:lol:

Guess we have no chance then. No matter the area it has some sexual euphemisms. Pretty awkward for nuns if you ask me. But that is what you get when repressing sexual desires! You project them instead!

Upper spine!!...you know what is in front of them if you are female??

No I do not? What is in front of them if you are a female? Indulge me please

Dirty boy!!!:lamo

Guilty as charged! May I burn in hell for it! Would be worth it

 

[Hard Truth]

I wonder why you think parents today are more inclined to lie....

From what I have heard from talking to parents, most don't tell their kids "I had a blast when I was young getting drunk and stoned and having sex and never regretted it" even when it is true.

 

[Gathomas88]

From what I have heard from talking to parents, most don't tell their kids "I had a blast when I was young getting drunk and stoned and having sex and never regretted it" even when it is true.

If anything, my parents have tended to be a bit too honest on the whole. However, then again, they never had anything all that terrible to hide in the first place.

Neither of them were really into drugs. My mother avoided them vehemently due to having witnessed the negative effects of addiction first hand in her older brother, and my father, while he messed around with pot a bit in high school, had grown out of them by the time he hit college.

Likewise, neither of them was ever "promiscuous" either. At worst, my mother was a serial monogamyst, and an unhappy one at that (she got taken advantage of by an older guy who turned out to be a manipulative douchebag her freshman year, and basically bounced around aimlessly between 2 or 3 guys for another year and a half until she met my dad). My father was religious and not terribly interested in relationships in general, and so he remained a virgin until after he and my mother got engaged and moved into together.

They met at 21, were married by 22, and had me by 23. Frankly, I've gotten into far more trouble than either of them ever did, and I'm a damn prude by the standards of my generation. :lol:

 

[nota bene]

From what I have heard from talking to parents, most don't tell their kids "I had a blast when I was young getting drunk and stoned and having sex and never regretted it" even when it is true.

Wow. I hope your experience talking to parents is both limited and atypical. I mean, you don't volunteer "adult" stuff to your little kids...and what really works out is when your kids don't ask the right questions. But lie to your kids? That's crazy.

Oh, and wrong.

 

[Jerry]

How many times have you lied to your kids about anything and how many lies did your parents tell you and how many things will they never dare tell you?!

I don't lie to my children.

As for your questions about my parents: I neither know nor care.