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LOL - she told me what she was up to and all I could think was "you're a ****ing idiot" (but I think that about her and ALL of her issues - every time I write about 'my sister' - it's always *this sister* - connect all those posts together and she's just a bitch in a habit.)
I *facepalm* for Dan and their kids.
My sister (I'll call her Cade) believes that he should get a refund for the cost of the June coverage (in her words "we need money"). They have written the previous employer about this a few times, apparently - with no reply.
I fear the kids are going to get a first hand lesson in "When keeping it real goes too far..."
my husband would be so pissed.......
I wouldn't get pissed at my wife for doing something like that. I'd just laugh at her and use it to teach my kids a lesson about doing stupid things based on raw emotions.
I wouldn't get pissed at my wife for doing something like that. I'd just laugh at her and use it to teach my kids a lesson about doing stupid things based on raw emotions.
I don't know. I might be pissed. Business relationships are important and you never know what bridges you'll need to use in the future. I'm always weary of burning bridges in business. When I lost my business after the housing crisis, I did everything I could to keep good relationships with the people I came to know in the mortgage insurance industry. Maybe the market rebounds and I can get back into the game. Maybe it doesn't. Maybe I need a good policy down the road. Maybe I need references. Maybe I'll need employment. Being emotional or confrontational in these sorts of business cost issues is a delicate matter and should be handled professionally. Not doing so isn't just an act of stupidity, it could potentially result in lost opportunities in the future.
Aunt Spiker said:She showed up at his old work, apparently unexpected, and the people she needed to see weren't there so she left a note. . . hasn't heard back.
I'm shocked.
When a husband (or wife) has a job is it ever acceptable or necessary for their spouse to interfere, deal with or otherwise handle issues relating to that job/boss/business?
My thoughts: She's out of line - Dan travels, now, as a salesmen and has been near his former employer's place enough to drop in and discuss this if he wants. It is not Cade's place to interfere and intercede in work-relations with the spouses current, former or future employer.
Also - the employer has no responsibility to Cade what so ever - they don't even have to talk to her if they don't want to.
[as usual my posts come from family-issues. This is actually based on a phonecall from my sister today - this is what she is doing *right now* as I write. And so I'll break this into two parts so it doesn't get confusing]
Debate topic:
When a husband (or wife) has a job is it ever acceptable or necessary for their spouse to interfere, deal with or otherwise handle issues relating to that job/boss/business?
If it is acceptable at some point - when and why?
Is there a line? Where is the line?
If there is a problem that needs to be addressed who should address it? (Employee or their spouse)
Family related story:
My brother in law (call him Dan) works as a sales-associate. He was working for a radio station selling advertisement time. The job fell apart - less money to be made in advertising since the Recession went into full swing. He has a new job, now - he's been working it for a month (also in sales).
Now, according to my sister he paid for health/life insurance in advance (June's payment covers July's coverage - etc) and so on . . . so, he stopped working in May - after having paid for June's coverage.
My sister (I'll call her Cade) believes that he should get a refund for the cost of the June coverage (in her words "we need money"). They have written the previous employer about this a few times, apparently - with no reply.
Cade is now taking their children to Dan's former place of employment to confront the boss face to face. She said "we're entitled to get the money back and maybe having the kids with me will make it happen."
What are your thoughts on their exact situation and how Cade is handling it?
My thoughts: She's out of line - Dan travels, now, as a salesmen and has been near his former employer's place enough to drop in and discuss this if he wants. It is not Cade's place to interfere and intercede in work-relations with the spouses current, former or future employer.
Also - the employer has no responsibility to Cade what so ever - they don't even have to talk to her if they don't want to.
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