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[as usual my posts come from family-issues. This is actually based on a phonecall from my sister today - this is what she is doing *right now* as I write. And so I'll break this into two parts so it doesn't get confusing]
Debate topic:
When a husband (or wife) has a job is it ever acceptable or necessary for their spouse to interfere, deal with or otherwise handle issues relating to that job/boss/business?
If it is acceptable at some point - when and why?
Is there a line? Where is the line?
If there is a problem that needs to be addressed who should address it? (Employee or their spouse)
Family related story:
My brother in law (call him Dan) works as a sales-associate. He was working for a radio station selling advertisement time. The job fell apart - less money to be made in advertising since the Recession went into full swing. He has a new job, now - he's been working it for a month (also in sales).
Now, according to my sister he paid for health/life insurance in advance (June's payment covers July's coverage - etc) and so on . . . so, he stopped working in May - after having paid for June's coverage.
My sister (I'll call her Cade) believes that he should get a refund for the cost of the June coverage (in her words "we need money"). They have written the previous employer about this a few times, apparently - with no reply.
Cade is now taking their children to Dan's former place of employment to confront the boss face to face. She said "we're entitled to get the money back and maybe having the kids with me will make it happen."
What are your thoughts on their exact situation and how Cade is handling it?
My thoughts: She's out of line - Dan travels, now, as a salesmen and has been near his former employer's place enough to drop in and discuss this if he wants. It is not Cade's place to interfere and intercede in work-relations with the spouses current, former or future employer.
Also - the employer has no responsibility to Cade what so ever - they don't even have to talk to her if they don't want to.
Debate topic:
When a husband (or wife) has a job is it ever acceptable or necessary for their spouse to interfere, deal with or otherwise handle issues relating to that job/boss/business?
If it is acceptable at some point - when and why?
Is there a line? Where is the line?
If there is a problem that needs to be addressed who should address it? (Employee or their spouse)
Family related story:
My brother in law (call him Dan) works as a sales-associate. He was working for a radio station selling advertisement time. The job fell apart - less money to be made in advertising since the Recession went into full swing. He has a new job, now - he's been working it for a month (also in sales).
Now, according to my sister he paid for health/life insurance in advance (June's payment covers July's coverage - etc) and so on . . . so, he stopped working in May - after having paid for June's coverage.
My sister (I'll call her Cade) believes that he should get a refund for the cost of the June coverage (in her words "we need money"). They have written the previous employer about this a few times, apparently - with no reply.
Cade is now taking their children to Dan's former place of employment to confront the boss face to face. She said "we're entitled to get the money back and maybe having the kids with me will make it happen."
What are your thoughts on their exact situation and how Cade is handling it?
My thoughts: She's out of line - Dan travels, now, as a salesmen and has been near his former employer's place enough to drop in and discuss this if he wants. It is not Cade's place to interfere and intercede in work-relations with the spouses current, former or future employer.
Also - the employer has no responsibility to Cade what so ever - they don't even have to talk to her if they don't want to.