I really don't understand the idealization of "waiting" to have sex in general, because I think the concept of it being better to wait comes more from people's emotions than any kind of tangible evidence.
It's certainly not obvious to me why waiting improves a relationship, and your argument makes no sense. Do you honestly think that if people don't wait to have sex, that ALL they do is have sex and nothing else? Because that's what you're implying. You're saying that if people don't have sex, they have to come up with SOMETHING to do together (like talking and getting to know each other). But if they choose not to wait for sex, they DON'T talk or get to know each other??? The only time they spend together is having sex? It's just a ridiculous argument that doesn't stand up to the most basic logical scrutiny.
Bud, you're either not thinking it through or deliberately being disingenous... but I'll give you the benefit of the doubt.
When you start having sex, no it isn't ALL you do but it typically DOES become a major feature of the relationship for a period of time.... say anywhere from three or four months up to possibly two years.
Sexual intimacy is a powerful thing that affects brain chemicals, hormones, emotions.... all kinds of stuff. It changes your perception of things.
Man tends to think: "Woman gives me sex, therefore woman is good". It tends to make it harder to actually view the woman and her character and personality CLEARLY and objectively, because the desire to continue having sex with her clouds most men's thinking.
Women tend to "give sex to get love", and are more likely (generalization warning here, there are exceptions to every rule!) to see sexual intimacy and emotional intimacy as being connected. Thus she may believe that there is more EMOTIONAL intimacy going on here than there really is, and form expectations of the man that he may not wish to fulfill (ie committment, etc).
Human beings have a regrettable tendency to see others as we WISH to see them, when they are doing something FOR us that we like. We also have a regrettable tendency to hear what we want to hear, especially when we are content at the moment and don't want anything to change for the worse.
In other words I'm saying sex changes things. There's nothing crazy about it, and I think most experienced people would agree that sex tends to change your emotional view of a person.
Many a man has met a woman, started having sex, got emotionally entangled, got married or moved in or whatever.... and then woke up 6 mos or 2 years later and suddenly realize that he doesn't really know this person in his bed NEARLY as well as he thought he did... and vice-versa women/men. There's a reason for that, and I've been talking about it throughout this thread.
