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No need to be sorry. Its a very thoughtful post. I know i have insecurities. I always worry am i good enough and because of that i try to please a man too much, if that makes sense.I'm a pretty simple man. All I want is exclusivity respect and love I . At least that's what I would like to believe but the truth is I have a type, I passed on many people to find the right one. Many are acceptable only few are exceptional. You have to make compromises. External beauty compared to internal beauty. Ability to care for ones self, how much of a slob they are and how much you can tolerate.
Generally speaking men are simple. This is a general guideline. Physical contact, not just sex affirms love. Most men want to be seen as competent virulent and strong. There is nuance to this meaning different kinds of strength for example.
So if you are single and looking for men keep these things in mind if you find one you want more with. And if course everything is a give and take if he doesn't give you what you need break that off it will become toxic.
One caveat. Some men... May not know what you need, don't be afraid to tell them if they try to meet your needs it might be worth keeping them around to try but only if they are worth it.
Women and men aren't really that complicated communicating beyond our insecurities is complicated. Showing our vulnerabilities, and weaknesses is complicated, sometimes accepting them is complicated.
Accepting them in others is far more easy. Makes you feel trusted and special when they share them with you.
Sorry to go all long winded.