Loveless Sex

[ChunkySalsa]

Somebody attractive wants to have sex with you, but a relationship is not in the cards. They refuse to date, be friends or even have contact beyond asking "wanna f**k?," having sex and then leaving immediately afterwards. Assume there's no possibility of either one of you ever getting caught cheating, getting pregnant or catching an STD.


Would you want to become ****-buddies with nothing but the sex between you? Would you like to maintain it on the side of a real relationship?

Would you do it as a one time thing, but not continue so as to not totally betray an existing relationship or just to pursue something real without any guilt?

Would you turn them down because you want a real relationship or wouldn't want to feel like you betrayed an existing relationship?


(poll is anonymous because I don't want to see just the socially acceptable answers)

 

[Wiseone]

I'll have to get back to you on that one because no woman has ever asked me if I just wanta **** with no strings attached, at least not in a continued arrangement.

 

[SmokeAndMirrors]

Somebody attractive wants to have sex with you, but a relationship is not in the cards. They refuse to date, be friends or even have contact beyond asking "wanna f**k?," having sex and then leaving immediately afterwards. Assume there's no possibility of either one of you ever getting caught cheating, getting pregnant or catching an STD.


Would you want to become ****-buddies with nothing but the sex between you? Would you like to maintain it on the side of a real relationship?

Would you do it as a one time thing, but not continue so as to not totally betray an existing relationship or just to pursue something real without any guilt?

Would you turn them down because you want a real relationship or wouldn't want to feel like you betrayed an existing relationship?


(poll is anonymous because I don't want to see just the socially acceptable answers)

Well... **** buddies sort of implies you're also friends, right?

Sex with no real communication? No thanks. The sex sucks.

In order to have good sex, you have to spend a little time getting to know your partner. That's tough when one or both of you just leaves after, and all either of you really care about is getting off.

These days, I opt for being in an actual relationship for sex. Not because I think it's immoral or slutty not to. Just because good sex is work, and it generally goes better in an emotionally involved situation, because your partner actually gives a crap about pleasing you and it's easier to be open.

In practice, low-communication **** buddy situations have a short expiration date. One of you gets overly involved, or you simply lose interest due to the one-dimensional nature of the relationship, or you never quite get what you want sexually because the communication just isn't there.

So things fall apart or just simmer off quickly. Then you have to go find a new one. That's just too much damn work for too little pay-off. I could give myself better orgasms without all the hassle.

 

[Slartibartfast]

Somebody attractive wants to have sex with you, but a relationship is not in the cards. They refuse to date, be friends or even have contact beyond asking "wanna f**k?," having sex and then leaving immediately afterwards. Assume there's no possibility of either one of you ever getting caught cheating, getting pregnant or catching an STD.


Would you want to become ****-buddies with nothing but the sex between you? Would you like to maintain it on the side of a real relationship?

Would you do it as a one time thing, but not continue so as to not totally betray an existing relationship or just to pursue something real without any guilt?

Would you turn them down because you want a real relationship or wouldn't want to feel like you betrayed an existing relationship?


(poll is anonymous because I don't want to see just the socially acceptable answers)

I have no idea, I have never tried to simply have sex with someone. I have been in a relationship with everyone I have had sex with. This arrangement works for me though.

 

[Sarcogito]

If I were single I would probably accept the proposition, assuming it wasn't someone I worked with or had to deal with again. I was single through the entirety of my 20s and had plenty of one-night stands. There was no emotion involved and I don't remember any of their names. But I enjoyed it. Don't get me wrong, the best sex I have had has been with women I loved, and the best of all has been with my wife. But loveless sex is still sex.

In any case, I am married now and would not accept the offer.

 

[tessaesque]

Prior to the current boyfriend I ran from commitment. I didn't want a serious relationship, didn't want to be tied down to anybody, didn't want to risk emotional vulnerability.

So the majority of my partners were FBs. A couple of guys who I was friends with or friendly with, who I could call or who could call me whenever the mood might strike. It was simple, mostly. And it worked. I got to have a little fun, release a little stress, and go out to a bar w/my girlfriends later without worrying about some jealous asshole at home.

If I were single now I might do it again, but honestly at this point my priorities have shifted. I'm not really looking for random casual fun anymore. I want a family and a routine and a minivan (okay, maybe not a minivan...maybe just a family-friendly SUV). FBs aren't really gonna help me achieve those goals.

 

[Medusa]

no i dont want it ,it is against my emotional character.

 

[MMC]

When I was younger.....I don't think it would have mattered. Btw there is no Cheating and not getting Caught. If each other is truly anothers Soul-Mate, and they are truly connected, then they will always know!

But I have told my Wife, that if Monica Bellucci tells me I am going away with her for a Weekend. Her azz will have to keep an eye on the House, put out the garbage, and Walk the Dog.

 

[Aunt Spiker]

I guess I didn't care - I messed around a lot without a 2nd thought. funny how I use to be so unconcerned but now I'm horridly monogamous with my marital views.

 

[Connery]

Never made sense to me, there is no intimacy no vulnerability no real sharing.

Kinda felt if I took the woman up on it I would be a human vibrator. Not something I aspired to.

 

[Aunt Spiker]

Never made sense to me, there is no intimacy no vulnerability no real sharing.

Exactly - it was just fun. I didn't want intimacy and vulnerability for a long time. That can be used against you - one night stands never can hurt your feelings because you don't put them out there.

 

[Connery]

Exactly - it was just fun. I didn't want intimacy and vulnerability for a long time. That can be used against you - one night stands never can hurt your feelings because you don't put them out there.

Never had a one night stand, it was pure phoniness to me. I want a woman who has the courage to be herself take a chance to get hurt and experience the wonder of being emotionally naked.

 

[lizzie]

Would you want to become ****-buddies with nothing but the sex between you? Would you like to maintain it on the side of a real relationship?

Absolutely not. I'm pretty much an all or nothing type of woman.

 

[Helix]

i've never seen the sex buddies thing end well. i'd rather have a relationship.

 

[Aunt Spiker]

Never had a one night stand, it was pure phoniness to me. I want a woman who has the courage to be herself take a chance to get hurt and experience the wonder of being emotionally naked.

I've actually never had a one night stand. . . I think the term for a quickie is kind of silly. LOL I always wanted a quick orgasm in the breakroom - or the stockroom - or after work in the dark corner of the parkinglot . . . something like that.

I didn't have time for real relationships and most guys don't give a damn that you don't, either - whatever . . . horny young adults and teens need sex, too. I couldn't imagine me doing it, now - it went along with other issues I had about self-image and such. But I don't regret any of it - I do regret not screwing Connor because I thought he was married. Turns out he wasn't. . . missed that chance. He was hot - all muscled.

 

[MMC]

Never made sense to me, there is no intimacy no vulnerability no real sharing.

Kinda felt if I took the woman up on it I would be a human vibrator. Not something I aspired to.

I agree with you my brutha.....myself, I am to into the woman. I want to hear her talk, laugh, strike those poses, inhale the essence, see what she gives, or have her giving all of herself.

In truth I don't even think any one night stands that I had, that either of us walked away and was forgotten, as even in being with another the next day or night. As others seem to tell me. I am not the type of person that others forget or not notice. Whatever that means!

Although now on vulnerability.....that would be on what woman's thoughts are on such a matter. One can be sensitive to another while having very slight vulnerabilities.

 

[Connery]

I've actually never had a one night stand. . . I think the term for a quickie is kind of silly. LOL I always wanted a quick orgasm in the breakroom - or the stockroom - or after work in the dark corner of the parkinglot . . . something like that.

It is my understanding that washers and dryers make for some quick and fun noise like that..:lol:

I didn't have time for real relationships and most guys don't give a damn that you don't, either - whatever . . . horny young adults and teens need sex, too. I couldn't imagine me doing it, now - it went along with other issues I had about self-image and such. But I don't regret any of it - I do regret not screwing Connor because I thought he was married. Turns out he wasn't. . . missed that chance. He was hot - all muscled.

You should have no regrets. We do what ever we do because we are who we are.

 

[Connery]

I agree with you my brutha.....myself, I am to into the woman. I want to hear her talk, laugh, strike those poses, inhale the essence, see what she gives, or have her giving all of herself.

In truth I don't even think any one night stands that I had, that either of us walked away and was forgotten, as even in being with another the next day or night. As others seem to tell me. I am not the type of person that others forget or not notice. Whatever that means!

Although now on vulnerability.....that would be on what woman's thoughts are on such a matter. One can be sensitive to another while having very slight vulnerabilities.

Sensitive to another and being vulnerable could be two different things. A person can be sensitive to another and not be vulnerable and a person can be vulnerable and not be sensitive to another.

 

[MMC]

Sensitive to another and being vulnerable could be two different things. A person can be sensitive to another and not be vulnerable and a person can be vulnerable and not be sensitive to another.

Yeah I can agree with that. Coming from where I do.....we kind of looked out for any type of vulnerability that we projected. Or anything that could be misconstrued as weakness. Or even being overly sensitive. Guess it became habit and part of the character.

Course with the OL it's called Spontaneity! :2razz:

 

[molten_dragon]

I'm married and wouldn't cheat on my wife, but if I was single I'd definitely go for it. There doesn't need to be some deep emotional connection for sex to be fun.

 

[Thrilla]

been there, done that.
it was fun...had a great time, actually.

all that crap is in the distant past though...I'm a one-woman man, married for life to my wife.

 

[Aderleth]

Somebody attractive wants to have sex with you, but a relationship is not in the cards. They refuse to date, be friends or even have contact beyond asking "wanna f**k?," having sex and then leaving immediately afterwards. Assume there's no possibility of either one of you ever getting caught cheating, getting pregnant or catching an STD.


Would you want to become ****-buddies with nothing but the sex between you? Would you like to maintain it on the side of a real relationship?

Would you do it as a one time thing, but not continue so as to not totally betray an existing relationship or just to pursue something real without any guilt?

Would you turn them down because you want a real relationship or wouldn't want to feel like you betrayed an existing relationship?


(poll is anonymous because I don't want to see just the socially acceptable answers)

I've done it before and I'd do it again. I'm not going to cheat on anyone (a real relationship is preferable anyhow), but why on earth would I pass up no strings sex with an attractive woman?

 

[Wake]

What to say, what to say...

Yes, but after marriage.

You be my wish, I'll be your genie. :lol:

 

[Goshin]

Somebody attractive wants to have sex with you, but a relationship is not in the cards. They refuse to date, be friends or even have contact beyond asking "wanna f**k?," having sex and then leaving immediately afterwards. Assume there's no possibility of either one of you ever getting caught cheating, getting pregnant or catching an STD.


Would you want to become ****-buddies with nothing but the sex between you? Would you like to maintain it on the side of a real relationship?

Would you do it as a one time thing, but not continue so as to not totally betray an existing relationship or just to pursue something real without any guilt?

Would you turn them down because you want a real relationship or wouldn't want to feel like you betrayed an existing relationship?


(poll is anonymous because I don't want to see just the socially acceptable answers)

I would try very hard to resist the temptation because I don't really approve of that sort of thing.

 

[Surtr]

Somebody attractive wants to have sex with you, but a relationship is not in the cards. They refuse to date, be friends or even have contact beyond asking "wanna f**k?," having sex and then leaving immediately afterwards. Assume there's no possibility of either one of you ever getting caught cheating, getting pregnant or catching an STD.

So, basically a prostitute that doesn't collect before the half and half?

Would you want to become ****-buddies with nothing but the sex between you? Would you like to maintain it on the side of a real relationship?

No. I wouldn't see any point in it. If I want loveless sex, I'll just jack off.