lewstherin
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Sort of, yes. I mean, I would hope it would be a deeper conversation than that, but yes.
I'm human. I feel jealousy at times. But I have found that is almost always solved by talking about it. In fact the only times I can remember feeling jealous are when I was keeping it to myself.
The typical model of strict, life-long monogamy is also not realistically something that is a part of natural human relationships. I don't hold tightly to either standard. It just makes things more dramatic than they need to be.
Different people bring different things to the table. There may be times when those things overlap. I don't think telling people they're bad for feeling that way is a good way to approach the issue.
I do tend to be monogamous simply because I find it simpler and less draining on myself. But when I have been in relationships that are themselves non-tradition (regardless of whether there were additional partners involved), other aspects and emotions can come into play.
Sort of, yes. I mean, I would hope it would be a deeper conversation than that, but yes.
I'm human. I feel jealousy at times. But I have found that is almost always solved by talking about it. In fact the only times I can remember feeling jealous are when I was keeping it to myself.
The typical model of strict, life-long monogamy is also not realistically something that is a part of natural human relationships. I don't hold tightly to either standard. It just makes things more dramatic than they need to be.
Different people bring different things to the table. There may be times when those things overlap. I don't think telling people they're bad for feeling that way is a good way to approach the issue.
I do tend to be monogamous simply because I find it simpler and less draining on myself. But when I have been in relationships that are themselves non-tradition (regardless of whether there were additional partners involved), other aspects and emotions can come into play.
Yeah, I don't know.
Talking about jealousy makes me even more jealous. Especially when the girl totally dismisses everything as an overreaction, because then I start second-guessing myself like, "Wait...am I being paranoid? What the hell is even going on?" ...aaaaand then one day I get a phone call like, "Hey, he asked me to be with him, so is it cool if we break up?" Nope. I'd rather do the healthy thing and let the jealousy eat away at me until I kill myself. Or until she does leave, and I can play it off like it's no big deal when really I want to peel the paint off my walls with my fingernails.
That's the plan.
If you partner cheats, will you stay?
I should ask for more information. For instance, as a newlywed I would answer the same as you. When I wasn't married, I would say the same. Ten years in, and my tune started changing. Then there was equity, and we'd built something worth fighting for. Unfortunately, he didn't see it the same way. C'est la vie.
If a partner cheats, should the relationship/marriage end (in your estimation.)
If a partner cheats, should the relationship/marriage end (in your estimation.)
If a partner cheats, should the relationship/marriage end (in your estimation.)
A question could be asked, what was the non-cheating party's role in it.
I would have voted yes, but I really like hot pockets. In essence, I've just cheated on my own moral code for cheap frozen pastries.
I don't agree, if you mean to place blame on the noncheating spouse. Commitment is commitment. Don't want to be married? Get a divorce....get in counselling...blaming your partner is a coward's way out.
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