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i can count to 7 fine, going past it's the hard part
It's understandable. You know what 7 did to 9.
i can count to 7 fine, going past it's the hard part
It's understandable. You know what 7 did to 9.
One thing I've had some problems with in dating is how to say no to an offer for a date without sounding like a jerk. Any tips?
Tactfully make up an excuse you should have plenty of 'contingencies' in your life that will take up soem space that may cover datetime. Also some polite aversion and negotiation may be in order. If you have sales experience you may be able to 'negotiate' politely your way to a 'no ty'.
Yeah, say "no thanks".
That's it.
Anything else you say will be used to try and convince you to go on said date.
And so what if you sound like a jerk? You're not actually being a jerk so that's their problem.
Here's a response that rejects him without hurting his feelings (in fact, he'll prefer to be rejected!) and prevents him from ever asking again.
"Before I say yes, I have to warn you that I have genital herpes and HIV."
Wow me too :iloveyou:
In that case, she can say "HA! I knew it! I don't have HIV and Herpes, but I could tell you did! When were you going to tell me? After I caught it too!"
(You don't ever have to worry about the feelings of a person who has HIV and herpes and asks you out without disclosing those facts to you)
Remember the other day when I slipped you that roofie?
.....oh, no you wouldn't remember that....
Well anyway yeah, you have HIV and Herpes
How did you pick it up, Tucker? The herpes I mean.
One thing I've had some problems with in dating is how to say no to an offer for a date without sounding like a jerk. Any tips?
Just tell them you're in a serious relationship or that you have a boyfriend.
If you use the "serious relationship" excuse, he doesn't have to know that your relationship with your parents is serious, so you're not technically lying.:mrgreen:
One thing I have learned is that most men prefer direct feedback. So trust me when I say a direct "no thanks (as others here have suggested)," is usually plenty. In the past, I spent way too much time over the years agonizing over how to break it to them gently when it was not even remotely necessary. They are no doubt, from Mars. ;-)
This.
Just so long as, you know, your direct feedback isn't delivered as if you take it as a personal affront that you got asked out by THAT guy.
Direct yet polite = good.
One thing I have learned is that most men prefer direct feedback. So trust me when I say a direct "no thanks (as others here have suggested)," is usually plenty. In the past, I spent way too much time over the years agonizing over how to break it to them gently when it was not even remotely necessary. They are no doubt, from Mars. ;-)