Wow!! Top that, I dare ya'. Seems like it who the person was would make no difference -- friend, co-worker, whatever. That's a winner."I'm sorry, I just don't feel our relationship heading in that direction."
I think it sounds like a Human Resource manager laying you off.Wow!! Top that, I dare ya'. Seems like it who the person was would make no difference -- friend, co-worker, whatever. That's a winner.
Honesty is the best policy, though you can sugarcoat it a bit to not hurt their feelings.Maybe the problem is that it's ALWAYS going to be uncomfortable no matter what you say or how you say it. I've gone on dates just because I didn't want to hurt the guys' feelings and say no. I wish I hadn't done that.
I already said, "No thank you." It's direct, polite, and unambiguous.@ Mellie, so do they.
@ Independent Thinker -- pot shot, but no suggestion?? (What's a pot shot anyhow?)
Hold your head up high. I myself love women who don't like to say no. You get a lot in return as well.Mellie said:Maybe the problem is that it's ALWAYS going to be uncomfortable no matter what you say or how you say it. I've gone on dates just because I didn't want to hurt the guys' feelings and say no. I wish I hadn't done that.
I say, the most diplomatic thing to do is to keep it short and simple and keep all emotional tone out of it. Then the guy just has the date rejection to deal with, and no add ons to make it worse.One thing I've had some problems with in dating is how to say no to an offer for a date without sounding like a jerk. Any tips?
Well, how would you want someone to turn you down?One thing I've had some problems with in dating is how to say no to an offer for a date without sounding like a jerk. Any tips?
Hmmmmm.....well, I don't really ask guys on dates unless we've been out a few times and it's going well. Then I'll say "Hey, let's go see this movie" or something. I suppose if he wasn't really into me after a few dates and I asked him, I'd like him to tell me the truth. Maybe something like...."I really think you're great, but I don't see this going anywhere romantically." Honesty always works for me even though that would make me feel like a idiot.Well, how would you want someone to turn you down?
:lol::lol::lamo"You're ugly and your mother dresses you funny."
"Sorry, I don't date outside my species."
"Absolutely. Pick me up at the corner of No and Way, second Tuesday of next week."
"Sure. I just got an invitation to this year's Bring A Dork Ball, and you'd be perfect."
"What? Oh darn... my Anti-Loser spray must have worn off!"
"I'd like to say yes, but my self-respect gets in the way."
"Brush your teeth, comb your hair, buy a new wardrobe, get a car, and move out of your mother's basement... then we'll talk."
"It's too bad you didn't ask me yesterday... I was feeling really masochistic."
Tactfully make up an excuse you should have plenty of 'contingencies' in your life that will take up soem space that may cover datetime. Also some polite aversion and negotiation may be in order. If you have sales experience you may be able to 'negotiate' politely your way to a 'no ty'.One thing I've had some problems with in dating is how to say no to an offer for a date without sounding like a jerk. Any tips?
If you make excuses every time they ask, they'll just keep asking.Tactfully make up an excuse you should have plenty of 'contingencies' in your life that will take up soem space that may cover datetime. Also some polite aversion and negotiation may be in order. If you have sales experience you may be able to 'negotiate' politely your way to a 'no ty'.
I don't like making things up. I did that once and I felt like crap afterwards.Tactfully make up an excuse you should have plenty of 'contingencies' in your life that will take up soem space that may cover datetime. Also some polite aversion and negotiation may be in order. If you have sales experience you may be able to 'negotiate' politely your way to a 'no ty'.
i can count to 7 fine, going past it's the hard partIn order to date me you must be able to count to 7. :mrgreen: