The term 'sap' is somtimes used to attempt to justify selfishness.It is not. It is being a sap.
Good people are not chintzy. Generosity is a virtue.
Being chintzy is the mark of a selfish person.
Trump is an example of a very selfish person.
The reason generosity is a virtue is because if there were no generosity the world would be worse. Because there is generosity, the world is a better place. Generosity is an admirable trait and a benefit to the world. Charitable organizations that alleviate so much suffering, that make the difference of life and death for so many would not exist if there were no generosity.
And there is this pesky phenomenon generalized as: "What goes around comes around." It is very well known and recognized as real.
Basically, if an individual puts out negative energy, that is what they get back. Put out positive energy and that is what comes back.
If it were not for the spirit of giving there would be no XMas holiday as it is known in the United States.
Giving is not sap-like. It is in the spirit of good will.
Let goodness prevail! Peace, love and happiness for all!
Generosity towards someone loved is not being a sap. The trick is to love more people. It is actually possible to simply love everybody, love humanity in general. It is possible by understanding that some simply need to be loved from a distance and never told about it.