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Do you want more than one spouse?

Would you want to marry more than one person if you could?

  • I am straight and I would not.

    Votes: 21 65.6%

  • I am straight and I would.

    Votes: 2 6.3%

  • I am gay and I would not.

    Votes: 5 15.6%

  • I am gay and I would.

    Votes: 1 3.1%

  • I am bisexual and would not.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I am bisexual and would.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I do not know / Maybe

    Votes: 3 9.4%
  • Total voters
    32
Gathomas88 said:
My father had a boss a couple of years back, who basically had his own "harem" going. He had a wife, and a "revolving door" of four or five different girlfriends on the side. The crazy part was that he had a different cell phone for each, and was even paying to support most of them.

Neither of us could figure out where he found the energy for it all, let alone the time or money. :lol:

I mean... The "Wolf of Wall Street" approach is one thing - constantly surrounding one's self with a parade of cheap floozies that you never have to see again after you've finished with them, simply to ensure variety. It's scummy, and borderline inhuman, but I understand it.

Juggling multiple full-on committed relationships would just strike me as being a Hell of a lot more trouble than it's worth. lol
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There is a bit of a difference in that scenario. It is much harder to keep up multiple relationships full of dishonesty than being openly in a multi spouse situation. For one thing, the other spouses hopefully at the least know about each other, get along, and all at least agreed to the situation to begin with.
 
CLAX1911 said:
We really fought a lot when we got together.
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Really? Most of my relationship and those of the folks I know, are all pretty serene for the first year or so.
 
roguenuke said:
There is a bit of a difference in that scenario. It is much harder to keep up multiple relationships full of dishonesty than being openly in a multi spouse situation. For one thing, the other spouses hopefully at the least know about each other, get along, and all at least agreed to the situation to begin with.
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True. Though... Traditionally, the dynamic really isn't all that different from how most polygamous societies tend to function anyway. There's generally one primary spouse (usually the first), and the others, while still being provided for, generally tend to take on a subordinate importance to her, with their function being primarily sexual.

Either way, it still seems like a lot of work from the man's perspective, and a somewhat uneven relationship from the woman's.
 
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Gathomas88 said:
True. Though... Traditionally, the dynamic really isn't all that different from how most polygamous societies tend to function anyway. There's generally one primary spouse (usually the first), and the others, while still being provided for, generally tend to take on a subordinate importance to her, with their function being primarily sexual.

Either way, it still seems like a lot of work from the man's perspective, and a somewhat uneven relationship from the woman's.
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That's more a polygyny mindset than a polygamy one. However the error in the difference is common.
 
Gathomas88 said:
True. Though... Traditionally, the dynamic really isn't all that different from how most polygamous societies tend to function anyway. There's generally one primary spouse (usually the first), and the others, while still being provided for, generally tend to take on a subordinate importance to her, with their function being primarily sexual.

Either way, it still seems like a lot of work from the man's perspective, and a somewhat uneven relationship from the woman's.
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This depends completely on the group of people involved. There are those who have independent as well as joint relationships, where there really isn't a main person or spouse or relationship, but several smaller relationships as well as what I describe as a meta relationship.
 
Hell no. What would be the reasoning for marrying more than one person? If I want multiple intimate relationships, there is no reason for getting legally tied to them, unless I have motives beyond the relationship(s) itself, and I'm not geared that way. The only reason I got married before, was that it was his suggestion, and his reasoning had to do with legal will issues. Marriage does not make a relationship, and to me, that's what matters.
 
More than one spouse?

Oh hell no. :eek:

A girlfriend for the wife and I to share?

Absolutely. :mrgreen:

The wife is slightly less enthusiastic. :naughty
 
Yeah, I'd go for it. I'm already in a poly relationship of sorts.
 
CriticalThought said:
I personally do not, but I am curious if other people would if they had the option.
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If it felt right, why not? I can't foresee it, but never say never. Whose business is it but mine (and the 2 others)? As long as everyone has the right and ability to consent, I'm cool with 1,2,3+ partners. No one's forcing anyone after all.
 
Yes. Competition makes things better. Let them compete for my favor. Lol
 
Superfly said:
Nope. I give everything I have to my husband, and have for 20 years. Would not change that for the world, and would not be interested in sharing myself with anyone else.

Besides, I'm getting grumpy in my old age, and I'm very set in my ways. I don't think anybody else would want to deal with me. :D
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Last line. Haha.
 
idea_steed said:
Yes. Competition makes things better. Let them compete for my favor. Lol
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Ummmm, sorry to break it to you, but we aren't all in competition. If I am not already #1 (which isn't gonna happen, because that's just the way it is), I ain't interested. I don't settle for less than what I consider the best, and I don't settle for anyone who considers me second choice.
 
More than one spouse?!?!?

You got to be freakin' kidding me!

You might as well start a poll that asks, "Do you want more than one heart attack?"

Do I want more than one spouse......... Jeeeeezus. :shock:
 
lizzie said:
Ummmm, sorry to break it to you, but we aren't all in competition. If I am not already #1 (which isn't gonna happen, because that's just the way it is), I ain't interested. I don't settle for less than what I consider the best, and I don't settle for anyone who considers me second choice.
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In a poly you aren't necessarily the second choice. You may simply be the one who was encountered second. There is a major difference.
 
maquiscat said:
In a poly you aren't necessarily the second choice. You may simply be the one who was encountered second. There is a major difference.
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Yea. "Ranking" is changeable. Lol
 
lizzie said:
Well, I don't share either. I'm selfish that way. ;)
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Which is all well and good. I think people who can only be with one partner at a time (with regards to their LTR's) are just as awesome as polys. But I had to address the "second choice" comment because that is a common misconception about poly relationships.
 
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