Women: Describe The Diff. U Feel About Yourselves Dressed To Kill vs. T-Shirt & Jeans

rhinefire said:

My good friend told me last night she feels like two women when she goes all out to look her best. She goes to alot of events attended by some fairly wel off residents in this area. Typically she is a t-shirt / shorts person and very down to earth. I quizzed her on it and one thing stood out is she said women never tire of compliments on their looks. That struck me because she rarely "dolls up" and rarely wears any make up even going to work. I asked her if was ego and she said no, that is for men. I remember a couple women that truely believed they were a gift to the world but I always sensed a touch of bitterness in them when they were dressed to the max. I am not trying to figure the female mind but when an attractive women looks in the mirro without makeup she is still attractive yet she then will start the process of changing her naural beauty-I'm not sure I'll ever understand that.

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rhinefire said:

My good friend told me last night she feels like two women when she goes all out to look her best. She goes to alot of events attended by some fairly wel off residents in this area. Typically she is a t-shirt / shorts person and very down to earth. I quizzed her on it and one thing stood out is she said women never tire of compliments on their looks. That struck me because she rarely "dolls up" and rarely wears any make up even going to work. I asked her if was ego and she said no, that is for men. I remember a couple women that truely believed they were a gift to the world but I always sensed a touch of bitterness in them when they were dressed to the max. I am not trying to figure the female mind but when an attractive women looks in the mirro without makeup she is still attractive yet she then will start the process of changing her naural beauty-I'm not sure I'll ever understand that.

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rhinefire said:

My good friend told me last night she feels like two women when she goes all out to look her best. She goes to alot of events attended by some fairly wel off residents in this area. Typically she is a t-shirt / shorts person and very down to earth. I quizzed her on it and one thing stood out is she said women never tire of compliments on their looks. That struck me because she rarely "dolls up" and rarely wears any make up even going to work. I asked her if was ego and she said no, that is for men. I remember a couple women that truely believed they were a gift to the world but I always sensed a touch of bitterness in them when they were dressed to the max. I am not trying to figure the female mind but when an attractive women looks in the mirro without makeup she is still attractive yet she then will start the process of changing her naural beauty-I'm not sure I'll ever understand that.

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sawyerloggingon said:

I enjoy looking at a woman dressed to kill.

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wolfie said:

Do you enjoy waking up to them next morning??

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sawyerloggingon said:

Well them has been replaced by her but yes I did and do.

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wolfie said:

Ah come on BS...did they rush off into the bathroom...get made up..dressed to kill at 8 am in the morning..

Quite frankly..I couldn't be arsed..

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sawyerloggingon said:

Makeup enhances beauty it does not create it. Dressing nice does the same.

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wolfie said:

So you've never known a beautiful woman without the need for ''make-up'' and a silken nude body..

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rhinefire said:

My good friend told me last night she feels like two women when she goes all out to look her best. She goes to alot of events attended by some fairly wel off residents in this area. Typically she is a t-shirt / shorts person and very down to earth. I quizzed her on it and one thing stood out is she said women never tire of compliments on their looks. That struck me because she rarely "dolls up" and rarely wears any make up even going to work. I asked her if was ego and she said no, that is for men. I remember a couple women that truely believed they were a gift to the world but I always sensed a touch of bitterness in them when they were dressed to the max. I am not trying to figure the female mind but when an attractive women looks in the mirro without makeup she is still attractive yet she then will start the process of changing her naural beauty-I'm not sure I'll ever understand that.

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wolfie said:

men have no chance understanding women..because women don't understand themselves...

Too much make up looks ghastly..it's a front..a mask..

I feel better with no make-up on...sitting by the side of a river with flowers in my hair...

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rhinefire said:

My good friend told me last night she feels like two women when she goes all out to look her best. She goes to alot of events attended by some fairly wel off residents in this area. Typically she is a t-shirt / shorts person and very down to earth. I quizzed her on it and one thing stood out is she said women never tire of compliments on their looks. That struck me because she rarely "dolls up" and rarely wears any make up even going to work. I asked her if was ego and she said no, that is for men. I remember a couple women that truely believed they were a gift to the world but I always sensed a touch of bitterness in them when they were dressed to the max. I am not trying to figure the female mind but when an attractive women looks in the mirro without makeup she is still attractive yet she then will start the process of changing her naural beauty-I'm not sure I'll ever understand that.

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ChrisL said:

:rofl

THIS coming from the woman who claims she wears 8-inch stiletto heels.

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Aunt Spiker said:

Dressed to kill? Dressed to the max? You mean like - the little black dress with stilettos and makeup? Wear that too much - for no reason - and I start to wonder if someone's really a cheap corner hooker.

Why bother in your daily life? There's a time and a place for everything and grocery shopping at Walmart isn't it.

I get plenty of attention - without ever being 'dressed to kill' and 'dressed to the max' - even dressed in my scummy work clothes I get attention. LOL

The only thing that changes is the TYPE of person who gives you attention when you're wearing A B X Y - that changes drastically. I don't think I'd want the attention of guys who only notice when a woman is ready for the streets.

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SmokeAndMirrors said:

Your first stumbling block is assuming all women experience this.

Women are not a homogenous mass. And if you assume they are and then set out trying to figure out "women" as a homogenous mass, you will always fail, because women are individuals.

Personally, your friend is from some other planet compared to me.

I feel weird dressed up, honestly. I don't know why the hell I'm supposed to be doing it apart from the fact that I'm required to. I don't look or feel like myself. I feel more self-conscious dressed up and wearing make-up than I do without.

And comments on my looks are really, really annoying and unwelcome. I don't want to hear it.

I dress in a way that I think suits me and that I feel good in, but it's kind of a subconscious process. I don't "think" about my clothes. I just like them, and they don't make me look funny.

I never wear make-up unless it's for costume and I can really go crazy and do something cool.

If I'm going out as me, I want to look like me. I don't wake up in the morning with a "face" on, so I don't go out with one on either.

I think I look fine. Apparently I'm "attractive." That's cool I guess.

I just wish people would stop commenting on it, or assuming I care about it.

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nota bene said:

I dress for work--expensive, tailored, accessorized--because it gives me confidence. And I won't leave the house bare-faced or without perfume.

At home I'm an ultra-slob. I love old men's shirts with pockets, and my fave is hideous, an orange and brown plaid shirt I paid $5 for at Walmart going on ten years ago. Sadly, it has so many little holes now that I can't even wear it to the grocery store. It's great to be able to wipe your hands on your shirt and pants. :mrgreen:

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rhinefire said:

You need to back off with your accusations that originate from a life of frustration and self degradation. How does that set with you as you lash out on a post that is nothing more than a passing thought/question? Interesting choice of word, "homogeneous". Your word, not mine and excuse me but men and women talk about each other in very general terms like "men" and "women". Pull your head out form under your pillow.

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rhinefire said:

You would trash the sunrise. The only mention of "cheap" and "hooker" is you.

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rhinefire said:

My good friend told me last night she feels like two women when she goes all out to look her best. She goes to alot of events attended by some fairly wel off residents in this area.

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Typically she is a t-shirt / shorts person and very down to earth. I quizzed her on it and one thing stood out is she said women never tire of compliments on their looks.

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That struck me because she rarely "dolls up" and rarely wears any make up even going to work.

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I asked her if was ego and she said no, that is for men.

Do you mean ego - for her - when she receives a compliment and enjoys it? It could just be her receiving a compliment and taking it happily.

I'm not sure what she means about ego being for guys, though.

I remember a couple women that truely believed they were a gift to the world but I always sensed a touch of bitterness in them when they were dressed to the max.

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Well this doesn't sound like your friend. Though I'm not sure what you mean by 'dressed to the max' - this can vary widely based on the individual. What's your view of it? What are you thinking of when you say this?

This sounds like some women either have to dress for the occasion (work/date) and get bothered when people give frequent compliments - again - this might be because some 'compliments' are just cheap come-ons that are unwelcomed/offensive sexual advances. (Either they really ARE - or the person perceives them to BE)

Example:
I was at the store - tank top and short-shorts a few years ago. My key broke off in the door lock, I couldn't drive home. I had to walk. A lot of young guys did cat-calls and remarks about my ass as they drove by. I ended up crying and was humiliated even though nothing they said was like 'hey fatty - you look horrid in that ****' - it was all crude, but still on the positive side. I still felt it was insulting and demeaning, though.

Thus - you'll never see me wear a pair of shorts like that in public.

THAT is very different than when I wear jeans/tank top to the store and some guy says 'Wow, your beautiful' - that's just a compliment.

I prefer the compliments - don't like the derisive remarks.

I am not trying to figure the female mind but when an attractive women looks in the mirro without makeup she is still attractive yet she then will start the process of changing her naural beauty-I'm not sure I'll ever understand that.

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And to this - women wear makeup for different reasons. I don't wear any and years ago when this came up in a debate a business-woman told me that 'wearing makeup to work is a way to complete your professional outfit. Going without makeup means you're undone and unfinished - like a guy in a suit without the dress shoes and tie.'

Yet at the same time - some women don't go a moment in their daily life outside the home without makeup on. I had a friend in highschool who was like this - she felt like wearing makeup was like wearing clothes. She felt naked without it.

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wolfie said:

men have no chance understanding women..because women don't understand themselves...

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Goshin said:

A rare occasion when we are in near-total agreement... :mrgreen:

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