The frustrating thing for me is that I reached out to contact many, many women on the dating site (eHarmony in particular), like 100s, and I only got 2 that reached the stage of chatting/emailing each other. I must have had a truly dreadful profile to keep women from even contacting me and "checking the waters". I got tired of putting good money after bad.
i was intrigued by a story my son shared with me. he and his best friend were both geeks while in school together. his buddy created a profile on a dating site, but became frustrated after a couple of months that he had not received any interest. my son looked at the profile and recognized that it was awful. so, he created a new profile for him, and ran it past his friend's sisters first, for accuracy. before creating the profile, he researched the net to identify the things which most attracted women on dating sites. using that information he launched the new profile. the hits were near immediate. within the first hours there were two young women who wanted to meet the friend
his buddy was livid ... at first. then he recognized the sheer volume of interest which had been generated, soon realizing the dating opportunities before him
but the point is while the old site generated no hits over months, the new profile - the one tailored to focus on the things women were interested in - was receiving in excess of 20 leads daily
(for men) your photo (not just a head shot) should not be one where you are staring directly into the lens. look away. if it is an action/athletic photo, then extra style points are generated. if you have a dog or kids in the photo, that is a plus
the number one thing women look for in the profile is someone who likes to travel. a sense of humor is a positive. confidence is a must
so, you may want to tweak your profile a bit and try to tailor it to make evident those aspects of yourself which women find attractive
What is the male equivalent of a convent?