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Visiting us from 1968 are you?
Visiting us from 1968 are you?
his views are backward even for 1958.Surprised it's not from 1958, the way his mindset is over women.
You just said it. Now say it to him.Okay, most of you know that my husband has some challenges in English. His native language is Spanish, but he tends to do okay understanding and communicating with our clients for the most part. We do restoration of Historic homes and very old homes. Anyhow, I have decided that 2 days a week...1 day during the week and Sunday I am off from doing our business work, so that I can focus on a few things on my plate....cleaning the house, laundry, and my personal things...as well as I want to plan for when we retire a business that I want to do just for the fun of it. I want to open a coffee shop and antique consignment shop in a very small town that we work in, in South Carolina. So, all of that takes a ton of planning and budgeting etc...plus not to mention grocery shopping, laundry and home stuff....yet, today...my supposed day off...he called me no less than 14 times between 9am and 6pm. It drove me absolutely insane...not to mention early he wanted me to run to the jobsite an hour away from our home, because he needed such and such. So, not sure when I am going to feasibly get the other stuff done that we need in our personal life...not to mention I kind of need some down time, just to relax. grrr...am I being unreasonable? I know he needs me to communicate price lists, etc...when it rains, letting a customer know we cannot paint that day, etc...but 14 times in 9 hours?
How do I communicate that I love him very much and support our business and want it to succeed, but I also need time for personal stuff too.
Sheesh Bodhi!Tell him you need some time to do whatever as you kiss and hug him... go do your errands and suck his dick when you get back as a reward.
The next time bring him home a steak or whatever from his favorite restaurant.
Guys are pretty simple. He will appreciate it and get on board with the new routine right quick.
Tell him you need some time to do whatever as you kiss and hug him... go do your errands and suck his dick when you get back as a reward.
The next time bring him home a steak or whatever from his favorite restaurant.
Guys are pretty simple. He will appreciate it and get on board with the new routine right quick.
It might have been blunt but it was sincere advice. Most guys are pretty simple.Stop acting like a jerk.
It's terrible advice for any situation after 1950. "Go buy him a steak then suck his dick?" Guys get stabbed for less.It might have been blunt but it was sincere advice. Most guys are pretty simple.
It works if it is a loving good relationship.It's terrible advice for any situation after 1950. "Go buy him a steak then suck his dick?" Guys get stabbed for less
In a loving relationship problems get discussed and solved without bribery. Steaks and blow jobs should be freely given not used to get your way.It works if it is a loving good relationship.
It might have been blunt but it was sincere advice. Most guys are pretty simple.
They should be done anyway... there is no bribery. He should be treating her like a Queen, massages, doing what she asks immediately, there are books on this stuff. I said what I said as a way to get things started. Use that as context.In a loving relationship problems get discussed and solved without bribery. Steaks and blow jobs should be freely given not used to get your way.
Sure okay... @Bodhisattva, sorry I said you were acting like a jerk, and if it helps your dear hubby learn English better, all's well that ends well.
I really should work on trying to be more open-minded and sex-positive.
Oh wait, View attachment 67367547 I'm plenty sex-positive, I guess I just wasn't expecting Van Halen's "Hot for Teacher" to spring forth as a model teaching tool.
Ummm, by the way, how'z @ClaraD feeling about your advice? View attachment 67367551
How about a congenial, intelligent relationship of mutual respect and companionship where men don't have to treat women like queens and the women don't have to bribe men.They should be done anyway... there is no bribery. He should be treating her like a Queen, massages, doing what she asks immediately, there are books on this stuff. I said what I said as a way to get things started. Use that as context.
honestly, we really don't have time for him to go to school. We wake up every morning around 5 am and get ready for work. He is out of the house and on his way by 6 am and he does not leave the job site until 6 or 7 am depending on the time of year and that runs 6 to 7 days a week. Not quite sure when he is supposed to go to hours long English classes (which would need to occur at least 3 if not 4 times a week for it to make a difference)@ClaraD --- not everyone has a gift for learning a new language and as we get older it becomes more difficult for a lot of people.
That said, it's NOT impossible, and in fact, with a really GOOD language course, it's not even all that difficult, you just need the kind of tool he will use and enjoy using.
My suggestion is that you prepare to be willing to invest 250 to maybe even 500 bucks in an excellent language tutoring program or instructor, preferably an interactive program that can be used all day long, because instructors cannot show up the moment you get in trouble but a software proggie can.
It's well worth the money because this is the ONE core issue that is causing trouble.
Listening to lessons while driving would fill some of those requirements.honestly, we really don't have time for him to go to school. We wake up every morning around 5 am and get ready for work. He is out of the house and on his way by 6 am and he does not leave the job site until 6 or 7 am depending on the time of year and that runs 6 to 7 days a week. Not quite sure when he is supposed to go to hours long English classes (which would need to occur at least 3 if not 4 times a week for it to make a difference)
I would love to do so, but I am sort of an introvert and not very trusting. I usually do not even invite my family to the house...not because I don't trust them, but because I love my privacy and quiet. The exception would probably be my kids, but even they are somewhat this way so we don't meet much at each other's homes...more at some restaurant, etc. We are slowly working it out, but yes, busy can be good...just mentally exhausting. He is taking on some of our regular clients on his own and they are being patient as he explains what he needs to do and what the costs are with clarifications to me via text. I also took on another job outside of our business, but I am not sure how long that is going to last considering that our location will likely be sold eventually and usually supervisors are on the chopping block when businesses are sold.Listening to lessons while driving would fill some of those requirements.
When you talk with him, are you speaking spanish or english.? If you are speaking spanish for your benefit, you might be impeding progress as a union.
I will say good luck. but I will also remind you that this is actually a byproduct of good things going on with work and it is always great to be busy.
PS, It would be much better for you to hire someone to do your housework so you and focus on finances and planning!!!
I only have one suggestion. When your husband leaves this impossible situation don't act like it's some kind of surprise.I would love to do so, but I am sort of an introvert and not very trusting. I usually do not even invite my family to the house...not because I don't trust them, but because I love my privacy and quiet. The exception would probably be my kids, but even they are somewhat this way so we don't meet much at each other's homes...more at some restaurant, etc. We are slowly working it out, but yes, busy can be good...just mentally exhausting. He is taking on some of our regular clients on his own and they are being patient as he explains what he needs to do and what the costs are with clarifications to me via text. I also took on another job outside of our business, but I am not sure how long that is going to last considering that our location will likely be sold eventually and usually supervisors are on the chopping block when businesses are sold.
Leaves what impossible situation? How is it impossible for him? BTW, I am the Contractor by license, not him.I only have one suggestion. When your husband leaves this impossible situation don't act like it's some kind of surprise.