I am very sorry to hear of the death of your son, and if any of us on this board has a right to an opinion on this matter, it is a mother who has lost her son. I am also impressed by the personal courage it must have taken to speak of so terrible a personal tragedy on a public board such as this. I do not have any children (I am still a student and not married) so I cannot imagine the pain of your experience, but my young cousin died horribly of throat cancer a few years ago, and I was there. I still have nightmares about it, and that was only my cousin.
I am aware that his alleged actions contributed to his being shot, but my sympathies have all along been with the dead boy and especially with his mother. None of us (not even the jurors) can know what happened that night - the only person who knows for sure is George Zimmerman, and he has his reasons for not testifying. As for the jurors, in the event that the prosecution did not prove Zimmerman's guilt beyond a reasonable doubt, they had little choice but to return a 'not guilty' verdict. That was as it should be, the prosecution's case was not proven, and Blackstone's formulation - "It is better that ten guilty persons escape than that one innocent suffer" must apply.
Part of the reason my sympathies lie with the late Martin is that I am a year older than he would have been today, and I know how foolish I have been in some instances, even as recently as a year or two ago. I also know how scared I would have been a couple of years ago at being deliberately followed in the dark by a stranger. While I don't think I would have attacked the stranger, I would certainly not have led him to my home, and I would have definitely approached him and angrily demanded to know why he was following me. If he had tried to grab me, or detain me in any way, I think I would have clocked him on the nose. I do not consider myself thuggish or a wannabe hard man, but fear and self preservation would have been the motive.
With honourable exceptions, one of the things which has greatly disappointed me on this board (and elsewhere) has been the general vilification and character assassination of a dead teen who cannot defend himself. And now, this critical, callous, and unsympathetic attitude towards a mother who has lost the son she loved, nurtured, and cared for as best she could. I just don't understand it.