Restaurant Gives Family a Discount for Having Well Behaved Kids

[Aunt Spiker]

Ill never understand how physically assaulting a child is considered parenting to some people, especially when it is done in public, that's just embarrassing. If anything it just draws even more negative attention to the parent and child.

The parent - no one looks at a child being smacked and things 'oh that horrible child deserved that!'

 

[Rocketman]

Disagree, for parents as well IMO. I got quite a few "whoopin's" as a kid and turned out perfectly fine -- never did I act out in public. But, my parents never touched my face like that. Honestly, there's something different about getting slapped across the face.

if it was aggressive or left a mark, I agree, it did neither, it did wake him him up though and I believe that was the last time I ever saw that tongue which made it effective.

 

[Rocketman]

The parent - no one looks at a child being smacked and things 'oh that horrible child deserved that!'

they do around here, probably not in liberalville.

 

[Rocketman]

Ill never understand how physically assaulting a child is considered parenting to some people, especially when it is done in public, that's just embarrassing. If anything it just draws even more negative attention to the parent and child.

Like I posted to another poster, it was effective, it left no mark, doubt if it even hurt, he never did that again. I would rather have the kid and adult I have now as the monkey and ape that other woman has now.

 

[Aunt Spiker]

they do around here, probably not in liberalville.

Did you expect a different reaction when you gave your previous statement?

 

[Van Basten]

if it was aggressive or left a mark, I agree, it did neither, it did wake him him up though and I believe that was the last time I ever saw that tongue which made it effective.

Fair enough. Well, it's done now.

 

[ChuckBerry]

My son is a VP at a bank and it not even 30 yet. Many of the kids that were raised your way are either in jail, delinquent, or just average contributors to society...

I will continue to believe in what works.

What a load of anecdotal bull. Plenty kids raised your way end up angry, vengeful, bitter people. Plenty become complete failures. Your successful son may hate you and never say it to your face because you terrorized him.

I believe corporal punishment is necessary in extreme cases. It is a literal declaration of war on your childs conduct, and should only be used when the conduct is so egregious as to have no other practical response.

 

[Superfly]

if it was aggressive or left a mark, I agree, it did neither, it did wake him him up though and I believe that was the last time I ever saw that tongue which made it effective.

No, you scared the **** out of your child is what you did. Who wants their child to cower in fear whenever they come around? I mean, other than you of course.

I can't believe you'd slap your child in the face, because he stuck his tongue out at you. Harsh.

 

[Rocketman]

Did you expect a different reaction when you gave your previous statement?

I didn't care, your opinion about my choices has no bearing on them

 

[Rocketman]

No, you scared the **** out of your child is what you did. Who wants their child to cower in fear whenever they come around? I mean, other than you of course.

I can't believe you'd slap your child in the face, because he stuck his tongue out at you. Harsh.

He is a better man for it today, he never did cower so that is a false assumption on your part. Is is easy to tell the children that never receive discipline. 9 times out of 10, they leave a lasting negative impression.

 

[Rocketman]

What a load of anecdotal bull. Plenty kids raised your way end up angry, vengeful, bitter people. Plenty become complete failures. Your successful son may hate you and never say it to your face because you terrorized him.

I believe corporal punishment is necessary in extreme cases. It is a literal declaration of war on your childs conduct, and should only be used when the conduct is so egregious as to have no other practical response.

You are so full of **** and like the other idiots here think that one incident means there were many. I think he was whipped twice his whole life and smacked no more that 2-3 times. My son loves me and hates his mother, of course she taught him nothing.

 

[Higgins86]

Um...Yeah - slapping your child is so much more mature than them sticking their tongue out at you. :roll:

lol reminds me of a story.

In the supermarket with my Grandma and younger sister! She was mis-behaving and my nan slapped her on the back on the legs. Two German ladies came upto my Nan and said.

" You know in Germany we do not smack our children"
To which my Nan responded " yeh well in Scotland we dont gas our jews".

I wanted to die lol

 

[Rocketman]

lol reminds me of a story.

In the supermarket with my Grandma and younger sister! She was mis-behaving and my nan slapped her on the back on the legs. Two German ladies came upto my Nan and said.

" You know in Germany we do not smack our children"
To which my Nan responded " yeh well in Scotland we dont gas our jews".

I wanted to die lol

Pretty damn funny!

 

[Higgins86]

Pretty damn funny!

yeh she was something lol.

 

[sangha]

I absolutely make it a point, when I'm in a restaurant or store, when I see a parent with well behaved children to go over and say something nice to them - I believe children will remember such words and the parents appreciate it too. It's a simple gesture that takes almost no time. Comment on the good, not the bad, and more good will come.

There's a ton of psychological research showing that this is the most effective way to cultivate good behavior. However, it takes a lot of time compared to smacking your kid in the face

Funny how "tough" love is the easier thing to do and not the effective thing to do

 

[CanadaJohn]

There's a ton of psychological research showing that this is the most effective way to cultivate good behavior. However, it takes a lot of time compared to smacking your kid in the face

Funny how "tough" love is the easier thing to do and not the effective thing to do

Lots of things are easy to do, and most are not worth the effort.

As for smacking a child in the face or anywhere else, I don't have that in me - I can't hit or harm an animal, let alone a person, and if I mistakenly step on a bug, I feel bad about it for a while - mosquitos excluded.

 

[sangha]

Lots of things are easy to do, and most are not worth the effort.

I'm going to memorize that one

 

[polgara]

He is a better man for it today, he never did cower so that is a false assumption on your part. Is is easy to tell the children that never receive discipline. 9 times out of 10, they leave a lasting negative impression.

Good afternoon, Rocketman.

We were eating out at a very nice restaurant recently, and had the misfortune to see a young child running all over the place, annoying other customers. We looked at the parents, who were unconcernedly eating their dinners, ignoring their child's behavior. Makes one wonder what hell that house was like, run by a young tyrant! The owner finally asked them to leave. They were outraged, but the other patrons clapped! Good manners should be taught early, and punishment for lack of same should be a rule. That doesn't equate to cowering in fear, IMO--it shows respect.

 

[Rocketman]

Good afternoon, Rocketman.

We were eating out at a very nice restaurant recently, and had the misfortune to see a young child running all over the place, annoying other customers. We looked at the parents, who were unconcernedly eating their dinners, ignoring their child's behavior. Makes one wonder what hell that house was like, run by a young tyrant! The owner finally asked them to leave. They were outraged, but the other patrons clapped! Good manners should be taught early, and punishment for lack of same should be a rule. That doesn't equate to cowering in fear, IMO--it shows respect.

Finally someone that understands parenting. IMHO, much of the school shootings and violence we are seeing from young people today versus 40 years ago is because many parents do not teach their children anything about respect and do not expect it either.

 

[Superfly]

Not all kids need to have the **** slapped out of them to teach them respect. Not all parents stoop to that level, either.