I would say that without the loving closeness, your method might not work as well. The other poster expressed that her dad never talked to her, just spanked. You're talking about an overall method of parenting with careful discipline. Nothing bad about that and seems to have worked well with your family.
Oh, absolutely. NOTHING works well unless the parent is fully involved in the child's life. To a child, love is spelled T-I-M-E, time spent focused on THEM.
Children usually know who really loves them and who is really looking out for them... it's the person who sacrifices for their best interest and spends time focused on them.
My son would tell you that I'm a natural born teacher, that I've taught him SOMETHING every single day of his life, whether it was how to spell an obscure word, or how to hammer a nail and not hit your thumb, or some obscure historical tidbit about Roman Legion tactics... or Why Women Are Like That. :mrgreen:
Dog lovers say, don't GET a dog if you are not going to LIVE with the dog and spend TIME with the dog and do so forever, and not just until a year's gone by and you're bored of playing fetch. I say the same goes double for children, if you have them, be prepared to spend a lot time engaged in their lives.
When my son was a toddler, I'd spend an hour with him playing cars in the floor; that was what he wanted to do. Then we'd do flash cards for letters and sounds...
When he was 6, he was into pokemon and digimon... I had no interest in this obviously, but I sat and watched the shows with him anyway and learned the names and characteristics of dozens of pokemon so I could speak the lingo of what he was into.
At 8 he wanted to learn to run a skidloader, so I taught him... then I put him to work for a couple hours moving dirt around with it.
You get the picture... I made sure I was INVOLVED in his life, I spend time with him on what HE was into, then I spent time TEACHING him useful things. As he's gotten older, he knows he can come to me anytime and I will drop anything I'm doing (anything non-critical that is) and listen to any concern or question or worry or etc he has... and then try to advise him on his options and/or the best course of action. When we do this it isn't simply about what I want him to do, it is about accomplishing HIS agenda mainly. He knows he can trust me, because I've been proving it for 17 years.
Discipline works best when the child knows he is loved and that his parents consistently act in his best interest. If the relationship is cold or distant or lacking in trust or confidence, it is likely that ANY disciplinary method will have dubious results.