Who is this "they" you refer to? Can you provide evidence of a single case in the entire history of our nation where someone was executed simply for having anal sex with another man?
No, what Jefferson did was submit a bill that stated, "Whosoever shall be guilty of Rape, Polygamy, or Sodomy with man or woman shall be punished, if a man, by castration, if a woman, by cutting thro' the cartilage of her nose a hole of one half diameter at the least," which, if anything, blows up your "they did not give two ****s if a married man and woman were having anal sex" comment.
By all means, cite the evidence. When was the very first homosexual involuntarily committed?
You started off by implying that in the wake of the 14th amendment, people who were gay couldn't challenge laws on that basis the way that interracial couples could because they had to fear for their lives. Yet, we have proof of thousands upon thousands of blacks being executed in this country up until that time, and here I'm asking you to provide evidence of a single case where someone was executed simply for being gay.