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So, I'm a bit of a loner. I require time to myself or else I go nutso and turn into the super bitch from hell. As my mom says, I "enjoy my own company". :lol:
I fully understand that other people require being around other people in order to 'have fun', or whatever. Hey, we're all different, that's what makes the world an interesting place. I do not require the presence of other people to have a good time.
The other weekend I was talking to my mother and told her I was heading up to Shenandoah National Park to go hiking to locate a remote waterfall and swimming hole I'd read about. Obviously, I was going alone. (well, with my dog) At first she said, "Sounds like fun." Then she added, "Well, actually it doesn't sound like fun to ME. I don't understand how you can have fun doing something like that by yourself". I told her the natural beauty was just a beautiful, the water was just as wet, the trail was just as fun - alone or with company. And, the whole purpose of finding this REMOTE swimming hole was to BE alone. If I just wanted to swim with a bunch of ****ing families and kids screaming, I could go to the local pool. She just said that while she knows I enjoy the pleasure of my own company, she doesn't understand it.
Am I really that odd? I go to movies alone, I go out to eat alone, I go hiking alone, I go down rivers alone (if I can, though I prefer to do that with a bud for safety reasons), I go diving alone (again, safety dictates that I do not, though), go camping alone, I go surfing/body-boarding alone. I plan and take vacations alone. When I look for trails and camping areas or swimming holes, I'm looking for someplace remote where I am less likely to actually SEE anyone else. That's not to say that I don't ever do those things with other people too, but I have no hesitations about doing them alone and often times prefer it. I can't really think of anything that I would hesitate doing alone - except for obvious safety reasons for certain things.
I was telling one of the gals I worked with about traveling to India for 6 weeks alone, though it was for work. And how one of the guys I worked with became my tourist companion and translator. But I took one weekend off to the tropical part of southern india to do some hiking and sightseeing by myself. I did not WANT him to go, even though he was very insistent that he should. My co-workers says, "My, you ARE adventurous. I would never have gone off on a weekend in some foreign country by myself, especially if I had the option of bringing a companion."
I pondered her use of the word "adventurous". I didn't consider that adventurous at all. My mom thinks I'm weird. I think everyone else is. Surely I'm not alone in the fact that I enjoy being alone? It's not that uncommon, is it?
i think it was adventurous......and probably a lot of fun. you are not alone in that you like your own company. i do as well. i would say don't worry about it, but i'm sure you don't really.
I'm can be very comfortable being alone.
I don't think it's safe to do some things without a buddy though.
Things like forming coherent sentences? :ssst:
I tend to masturbate while on my own, although I am willing to do it with the right kind of company as well.
No, I don't really worry about. I am who I am.I was just curious about others.
So, I'm a bit of a loner. I require time to myself or else I go nutso and turn into the super bitch from hell. As my mom says, I "enjoy my own company". :lol:
I fully understand that other people require being around other people in order to 'have fun', or whatever. Hey, we're all different, that's what makes the world an interesting place. I do not require the presence of other people to have a good time.
The other weekend I was talking to my mother and told her I was heading up to Shenandoah National Park to go hiking to locate a remote waterfall and swimming hole I'd read about. Obviously, I was going alone. (well, with my dog) At first she said, "Sounds like fun." Then she added, "Well, actually it doesn't sound like fun to ME. I don't understand how you can have fun doing something like that by yourself". I told her the natural beauty was just a beautiful, the water was just as wet, the trail was just as fun - alone or with company. And, the whole purpose of finding this REMOTE swimming hole was to BE alone. If I just wanted to swim with a bunch of ****ing families and kids screaming, I could go to the local pool. She just said that while she knows I enjoy the pleasure of my own company, she doesn't understand it.
Am I really that odd? I go to movies alone, I go out to eat alone, I go hiking alone, I go down rivers alone (if I can, though I prefer to do that with a bud for safety reasons), I go diving alone (again, safety dictates that I do not, though), go camping alone, I go surfing/body-boarding alone. I plan and take vacations alone. When I look for trails and camping areas or swimming holes, I'm looking for someplace remote where I am less likely to actually SEE anyone else. That's not to say that I don't ever do those things with other people too, but I have no hesitations about doing them alone and often times prefer it. I can't really think of anything that I would hesitate doing alone - except for obvious safety reasons for certain things.
I was telling one of the gals I worked with about traveling to India for 6 weeks alone, though it was for work. And how one of the guys I worked with became my tourist companion and translator. But I took one weekend off to the tropical part of southern india to do some hiking and sightseeing by myself. I did not WANT him to go, even though he was very insistent that he should. My co-workers says, "My, you ARE adventurous. I would never have gone off on a weekend in some foreign country by myself, especially if I had the option of bringing a companion."
I pondered her use of the word "adventurous". I didn't consider that adventurous at all. My mom thinks I'm weird. I think everyone else is. Surely I'm not alone in the fact that I enjoy being alone? It's not that uncommon, is it?
Ironically, I chose a career that forces me to be around and interact with tons of people every day. I guess it's my way of balancing things out.
I chose a career that forces me to interract with people on an emotional level, and I can't wait to get away from all their drama.:mrgreen:
First of all you need to be honest with yourself. Go to a mirror, look into your eyes and ask yourself if this is the way you want it.
You can have all the friends you want, but you have to play their game. Which means not straying too far from their conventional comfort zones.
ricksfolly
Every job requires interfacing with people to some extent, no man or woman is an island, You can either play the conventional game, or be a party pooper.
ricksfolly
I'm like you, I love being on my own. I always have. I need it to remain sane. Ironically, I chose a career that forces me to be around and interact with tons of people every day. I guess it's my way of balancing things out. I love my job, but my favorite part of my day is when I get in my car and drive home finally alone again. :lol:
I can easily play the game in my professional life, I absolutely refuse to do so in my private life tho.
So, I'm a bit of a loner. I require time to myself or else I go nutso and turn into the super bitch from hell. As my mom says, I "enjoy my own company". :lol:
I fully understand that other people require being around other people in order to 'have fun', or whatever. Hey, we're all different, that's what makes the world an interesting place. I do not require the presence of other people to have a good time.
The other weekend I was talking to my mother and told her I was heading up to Shenandoah National Park to go hiking to locate a remote waterfall and swimming hole I'd read about. Obviously, I was going alone. (well, with my dog) At first she said, "Sounds like fun." Then she added, "Well, actually it doesn't sound like fun to ME. I don't understand how you can have fun doing something like that by yourself". I told her the natural beauty was just a beautiful, the water was just as wet, the trail was just as fun - alone or with company. And, the whole purpose of finding this REMOTE swimming hole was to BE alone. If I just wanted to swim with a bunch of ****ing families and kids screaming, I could go to the local pool. She just said that while she knows I enjoy the pleasure of my own company, she doesn't understand it.
Am I really that odd? I go to movies alone, I go out to eat alone, I go hiking alone, I go down rivers alone (if I can, though I prefer to do that with a bud for safety reasons), I go diving alone (again, safety dictates that I do not, though), go camping alone, I go surfing/body-boarding alone. I plan and take vacations alone. When I look for trails and camping areas or swimming holes, I'm looking for someplace remote where I am less likely to actually SEE anyone else. That's not to say that I don't ever do those things with other people too, but I have no hesitations about doing them alone and often times prefer it. I can't really think of anything that I would hesitate doing alone - except for obvious safety reasons for certain things.
I was telling one of the gals I worked with about traveling to India for 6 weeks alone, though it was for work. And how one of the guys I worked with became my tourist companion and translator. But I took one weekend off to the tropical part of southern india to do some hiking and sightseeing by myself. I did not WANT him to go, even though he was very insistent that he should. My co-workers says, "My, you ARE adventurous. I would never have gone off on a weekend in some foreign country by myself, especially if I had the option of bringing a companion."
I pondered her use of the word "adventurous". I didn't consider that adventurous at all. My mom thinks I'm weird. I think everyone else is. Surely I'm not alone in the fact that I enjoy being alone? It's not that uncommon, is it?
I'm like you, I love being on my own. I always have. I need it to remain sane. Ironically, I chose a career that forces me to be around and interact with tons of people every day. I guess it's my way of balancing things out. I love my job, but my favorite part of my day is when I get in my car and drive home finally alone again. :lol:
Riv, I am exactly like that. Don't get me wrong, I like people... but in limited doses. If I don't get my "alone time" I get very cranky... too long and I turn into a total grizzly bear.
I'm comfortable doing many things alone that others only do in pairs or groups. I go hiking/camping alone sometimes, even though I know the safety factor is an issue ("what if you break a leg?" my mom asks). I'm an "Adventure diner": I like to go to some exotic restaurant and order who-knows-what off the menu; if nobody is intrested in going to it with me, I go by myself.
One of the main reasons I've stayed with my current job, despite various dissatisfactions, is that for most of the day I am out alone and rarely interact with the public. I like it like that. Being stuck in an office cubical with a hundred chattering monkeys all around me all day isn't far from my personal vision of hell.
Being a single parent, I don't get as much "alone time" as I used to, but spending time with my teenage son is different than with most people. For one thing he is mostly quiet and contemplative and perfectly comfortable with long silences. For another we have similar intrests, tastes and habits. (We've been called "the clones" before, poor kid, lol.)
I require alone-time (or at least everybody-else-shut-up-time) in order to recharge my soul. At some point in my life I became aware that there were other people (strange creatures, surely from Mars or Jupiter) who actually required time among other people, preferably in a large crowd, to get that same "recharge" that I got from being alone. My initial reaction to this revelation was to wonder what planet they were from or what was wrong with them. :mrgreen:
To me, being around other people is almost always slightly tiring. However much I may like them, however familiar they may be, they have wants and expectations of some sort that they expect me to fulfill. Even my very best friends tire me out after about half a day and I'm ready to get away from them for a while.
As much as I love and dote on my son, when he goes to spend a couple of days with his mother it is like a mini-vacation for me. I am likely to deliberately avoid all unnecessary human interaction during those two days, reveling in my solitude like a cool drink on a hot day.
Now, I'm not a total hermit. After a couple of days completely alone, I start to miss my son. After a couple more days I might start to miss other close friends and immediate family. Three or four weeks alone and I'd probably be ready to talk to anyone, even someone annoying, like a salesman. :mrgreen:
But I very much get where you're coming from. There are lots of people like us (introverts), even though there are more like "them" (extroverts).
(Oddly enough for an introvert, I have "the gift of blarney" and the "silver tongue", and can play the sociable man and charm the birds out of the trees when I care to put forth the effort. It is an effort, though.)
So, I'm a bit of a loner. I require time to myself or else I go nutso and turn into the super bitch from hell. As my mom says, I "enjoy my own company". :lol:
I fully understand that other people require being around other people in order to 'have fun', or whatever. Hey, we're all different, that's what makes the world an interesting place. I do not require the presence of other people to have a good time.
The other weekend I was talking to my mother and told her I was heading up to Shenandoah National Park to go hiking to locate a remote waterfall and swimming hole I'd read about. Obviously, I was going alone. (well, with my dog) At first she said, "Sounds like fun." Then she added, "Well, actually it doesn't sound like fun to ME. I don't understand how you can have fun doing something like that by yourself". I told her the natural beauty was just a beautiful, the water was just as wet, the trail was just as fun - alone or with company. And, the whole purpose of finding this REMOTE swimming hole was to BE alone. If I just wanted to swim with a bunch of ****ing families and kids screaming, I could go to the local pool. She just said that while she knows I enjoy the pleasure of my own company, she doesn't understand it.
Am I really that odd? I go to movies alone, I go out to eat alone, I go hiking alone, I go down rivers alone (if I can, though I prefer to do that with a bud for safety reasons), I go diving alone (again, safety dictates that I do not, though), go camping alone, I go surfing/body-boarding alone. I plan and take vacations alone. When I look for trails and camping areas or swimming holes, I'm looking for someplace remote where I am less likely to actually SEE anyone else. That's not to say that I don't ever do those things with other people too, but I have no hesitations about doing them alone and often times prefer it. I can't really think of anything that I would hesitate doing alone - except for obvious safety reasons for certain things.
I was telling one of the gals I worked with about traveling to India for 6 weeks alone, though it was for work. And how one of the guys I worked with became my tourist companion and translator. But I took one weekend off to the tropical part of southern india to do some hiking and sightseeing by myself. I did not WANT him to go, even though he was very insistent that he should. My co-workers says, "My, you ARE adventurous. I would never have gone off on a weekend in some foreign country by myself, especially if I had the option of bringing a companion."
I pondered her use of the word "adventurous". I didn't consider that adventurous at all. My mom thinks I'm weird. I think everyone else is. Surely I'm not alone in the fact that I enjoy being alone? It's not that uncommon, is it?
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