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DNR's. In Illinois, two are required. Most people don't know that. And the consequences of not knowing can be considerable. Maybe your state requires two as well.
- A Standard Healthcare Power of Attorney for family to present at the hospital.
- A special DNR order to present to paramedics when 911 is called.
Without that second one, if a loved one's heart stops beating, the paramedics will ALWAYS attempt resuscitation, no matter what you say to them as their HCPOA. It is signed by the person (or their spokesperson) and by that person's doctor.
I was interviewing a company that provides private companionship (and other services) for seniors in their home. The company representative asked me if I had that special DNR order on my mom. Right in front of her. I was flabbergasted.
I guess she couldn't know that mom has dementia and that I've taken over her healthcare decisions, but I would have expected that question to be asked privately. My answer to her was that she didn't need that information, and she could clearly see I was uncomfortable. The whole thing went right over mom's lil' head.
What are your thoughts? Should she have asked me privately?
I guess she couldn't know that mom has dementia and that I've taken over her healthcare decisions, but I would have expected that question to be asked privately. My answer to her was that she didn't need that information, and she could clearly see I was uncomfortable. The whole thing went right over mom's lil' head.
What are your thoughts? Should she have asked me privately?
I agree with what you said, but you and me originally and many others seem to be missing a KEY point. The health care professional was not interviewing a patient, it was the opposite. The patient through and with her daughter were interviewing a caregiving agency. With that in mind, that question is unnecessary to be asked unless and until an enrollment with that agency/facility is actually being initiated. At which time, things like the power of atty and any known DNRs would be presented and discussed appropriately with a non-salesperson, one who actually does the work and knows the rules and how better to handle situations as described.If I were interviewing a patient, and did not know that they had dementia, then I would certainly ask the patient about DNR orders. If it were obvious that she had dementia, I would not ask directly, but would ask in a roundabout way. It is always the patient's wishes which take precedence in health care decisions, unless they are obviously unable to make those choices.
Actually yes. I do believe that. If someone's state of mind is to the point that they want to be allowed to die, who is anyone to argue with what their state of mind does to them. Contrarily if someone just wants to keep living, regardless of their state of mind, seriously, you'd just let 'em die? Again, if we're talking that the same person during "sane" moments prepared for the concept that they may not remain sane and provided either a dnr or it's alternative, then that's different. But if we are starting at neutral, yeah, reagardless of what a daughter thinks or a son or a lawyer thinks, a person's desire regarding DNR or not-DNR should be honored.
In no reference at all to Maggie, not all caregivers who have power of medical atty are good people with the patient's wishes as their own, y'know. Many see a certain cost benefit to DNRs, if nothing else.
I understand and even know that, my grandfather suffered as did my best friend's father, so I totally realize. Then I guess I would have to amend to say that given our current society, better to err on the side of non-DNR. Again, this is assuming that no DNR was created when the person was still lucid.
Rephrasing for clarity... I guess I'm saying that if a DNR is not presented prior to losing lucidity, no one who is subsequently given power of atty should be able to initialize one. Contrarily, if one was issued, it should not be able to be revoked by a person with power of atty.
I understand and even know that, my grandfather suffered as did my best friend's father, so I totally realize. Then I guess I would have to amend to say that given our current society, better to err on the side of non-DNR. Again, this is assuming that no DNR was created when the person was still lucid.
Rephrasing for clarity... I guess I'm saying that if a DNR is not presented prior to losing lucidity, no one who is subsequently given power of atty should be able to initialize one. Contrarily, if one was issued, it should not be able to be revoked by a person with power of atty.
Dunno if this has been asked yet or not, but can a DNR be put in place if the patient is not of sound mind? I thought an affidavit had to be signed, and the person be of sound mind before they could make such a strong decision.
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