Is it so shameful to talk to your kids about sex. Are you ashamed that you had sex in order to create your kid? I don't understand.
During the "latency phase," my daughter and I talked about drugs, alcohol, violence, racism, gangs, bullies, mean girls, how to explain her racial background to idiot rednecks, her upcoming period, etc. When the sex discussions have come up, they've come up as just another question she was asking me about life, not "the big talk." I'd already started answering her questions about life candidly and honestly, and without being shocked by them, so when she had questions about sex, it seemed normal for her to come to me and ask them, albeit rather traumatic for me at times.
The sex conversation is just another conversation that we start having with our children about life, and how to live.
This enviable relationship could be a result of your daughter being female, or it could be a result of you being a single mom and/or the mom of kids with a distant and unapproachable father (not sure how old your daughter was when you divorced).
So, your open relationship with your daughter is certainly admirable, but it wasn't a relationship that I got the opportunity to have with my children.
I have a different one; it's fine. I'm glad they have so many trusted males in their life.
The only person missing out on anything because of this situation is me, missing out on a little bit of the closeness and credibility as an authority figure that I might've had with them, if everybody else in my family weren't so damned competent.
It always cracks me up when people still insist we have such a puritanistic culture. I can't turn on the TV, look something up on Google or even stand in line at the grocery store without being barraged by overtly sexual advertising. Our society is obsessed with sex.
It always cracks me up when people still insist we have such a puritanistic culture. I can't turn on the TV, look something up on Google or even stand in line at the grocery store without being barraged by overtly sexual advertising. Our society is obsessed with sex. Ever try to buy clothes for a little girl? Sift through the thongs, sweatpants with "Juicy" written across the butt and teeny tiny shirts designed to show off pubescent breast buds. I'm glad little boys can still dress like little boys and not strippers, but Heaven forbid they make a comment to a girl about her body. Frankly, I surprised my town's new middle school isn't shaped like a boner.
I wonder how people know exactly what goes in behind closed doors in homes across America to insist that parents just aren't giving kids the information the kids need? The responsible parents, like the ones posting in this thread, will give their kids every bit of info. It's generally the idiots who don't bother to parent in all other areas who are the ones neglecting "the talk."
It is my understanding that many European countries are both less repressive about sex, and simultaneously less obsessed with it.
It always cracks me up when people still insist we have such a puritanistic culture. I can't turn on the TV, look something up on Google or even stand in line at the grocery store without being barraged by overtly sexual advertising. Our society is obsessed with sex. Ever try to buy clothes for a little girl? Sift through the thongs, sweatpants with "Juicy" written across the butt and teeny tiny shirts designed to show off pubescent breast buds. I'm glad little boys can still dress like little boys and not strippers, but Heaven forbid they make a comment to a girl about her body. Frankly, I surprised my town's new middle school isn't shaped like a boner.
I wonder how people know exactly what goes in behind closed doors in homes across America to insist that parents just aren't giving kids the information the kids need? The responsible parents, like the ones posting in this thread, will give their kids every bit of info. It's generally the idiots who don't bother to parent in all other areas who are the ones neglecting "the talk."
I think this obsession is a result of our society's repressive attitudes toward sex (and our insistence that nudity is overtly sexual), rather than a refutation of the idea that our society is repressive about sex.
It is my understanding that many European countries are both less repressive about sex, and simultaneously less obsessed with it.
To tie this back to the thread, I did pay a consequence for being such a whore. I contracted crabs, Chlamydia, ultimately genital warts. Crabs sucked, but a little shampoo does the trick. Chlamydia takes some penicillin.
Genital warts, on the other hand is with you for life. It is caused by the HPV virus, which is quite common out there. I am a very moral person. I will not be an active participant in spreading disease. Therefore, since age 25, I have had sex exactly zero times. I tried raising the issue with dates, but that was not very pleasant and I had the darnedest time finding someone who already had warts. No warts dating site out there, unfortunately. I have thought about making an internet million with the idea but I can't find any backers. I eventually stopped trying and stopped asking girls out around 27. Now I am 42 and Diabetes brings its own challenges.
As good as it feels, advise your daughter to think twice about being loose and always use a condom.
+1000
That's the narrative that has developed, but different attitudes towards nudity does not indicate anything about obsessiveness towards sex. Europeans are at least as sex-obsessed as Americans are.
How soon we forget B L Zeebub. :lol:
What happened to that guy anyway?
He is taking a break due to some family issues. I do hope he'll be back soon.
I think this obsession is a result of our society's repressive attitudes toward sex (and our insistence that nudity is overtly sexual), rather than a refutation of the idea that our society is repressive about sex.
It is my understanding that many European countries are both less repressive about sex, and simultaneously less obsessed with it.
I think this was definitely good for me, and my mother's method seems to have worked pretty well, since all six of us children have reached adulthood with no high school pregnancies (and I would bet the last of the children in his teens probably won't sire a child in the next two years either).
I don't feel like I did a real good job with the whole 'sex education" thing, when it came to my kids.
But in fact neither one of them got anyone pregnant until adulthood.
Sometimes I think parents can serve as examples of what not to do.
I never tried to give them the impression they ruined my life or derailed my plans or anything (they didn't; I didn't have anything in particular planned for my future).
But their dad is another story. He was much more the "Learn from my mistakes and don't throw away your future like I did" type.
It may have encouraged them to be more careful.
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