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I am against it. I do not like the idea. However, I want to hear from anyone with experience with baby girls and I have found plenty of anecdotal and scientific reasons but her mother is incredibly persistent and I really have no say in it in the end she will eventually do it. I would like thoughts however on any negatives and or positives.
I am against it. I do not like the idea. However, I want to hear from anyone with experience with baby girls and I have found plenty of anecdotal and scientific reasons but her mother is incredibly persistent and I really have no say in it in the end she will eventually do it. I would like thoughts however on any negatives and or positives.
I am against it. I do not like the idea. However, I want to hear from anyone with experience with baby girls and I have found plenty of anecdotal and scientific reasons but her mother is incredibly persistent and I really have no say in it in the end she will eventually do it. I would like thoughts however on any negatives and or positives.
I think any sort of mutilation without consent is wrong. Would you give or allow her to be tattooed as well? Show so balls as the dad and say no, if you do not agree.
If she does not have sole custody of your daughter she muct get your approval or she can not do it. Send her a registered letter with a return receipt stating that you do not want her to do this. If she does you have a record and you can take legal action. If you do not have joint custody it could be difficult. I am guessing that you do see your daughter. This is a legal issue and I am sure your daughters mother does not want to go to court over a pair of earrings.How did I know someone would say mutilation and claim have no balls? Back story: her mother is a woman. Also we are not together so as I said either way she will eventually do it if she really wants to I am just looking for a good way to scare her out of it.
If she does not have sole custody of your daughter she muct get your approval or she can not do it. Send her a registered letter with a return receipt stating that you do not want her to do this. If she does you have a record and you can take legal action. If you do not have joint custody it could be difficult. I am guessing that you do see your daughter. This is a legal issue and I am sure your daughters mother does not want to go to court over a pair of earrings.
The Internet: Giving people the ability to ask complete strangers what to do with their children since the 1990's.
I see no reason why this is necessary. The infant obviously can't appreciate it. This is merely for the mothers' satisfaction. Perhaps she should examine why this is so important to her. I see no reason why this should have emotional significance.
I am against it. I do not like the idea. However, I want to hear from anyone with experience with baby girls and I have found plenty of anecdotal and scientific reasons but her mother is incredibly persistent and I really have no say in it in the end she will eventually do it. I would like thoughts however on any negatives and or positives.
It seems to me that by your inaction you are allowing this to happen. A registered letter telling the mother no with the threat of a court custody fight should be enough to stop her from doing anything. $300 would be a very expensive letter.This is the thing. In order to do this, it becomes a big production for either one of us. Then after I spend $500 to get the ball rolling just over a pair of earrings she could just take them out and go "Oh look you just wasted $500 you're an idiot." That is my hell.
Also CarlF here is the thing about the whole decision thing, that is fine and I would rather it be her decision. But my 6 month old daughter isn't deciding anything for herself for quite sometime so this is very small in comparison. I just do not like what will be the inevitable inconvenience of it happening.
Also Mistress "physically injuring" is even funnier than the "mutilation". In reality it will hurt her for a small amount of time, less than a shot would. She needs no nothing to show she is a girl. At 6 months, she is the prettiest baby you have and ever will see in your life:
Please offer my thanks to a mother that is such a failure when come to something as simple as allowing her own child the right to choose..
The choice to get ear rings belongs completely to your daughter and nobody else.. My daughter was 9 when she got hers.. She made the call..
Tell your wife to stop attempting to sexualize an infant.. There is no reason to get them at that age except to make them look older.. Next thing you know she is going to buy her a bikini at age 3 with pads in the top to make it look she has breast buds.. Don't think you can't buy those.. It is sick..
For god sakes, let your daughter be a little girl and not some doll that mom likes to play dress up..
No on the ear rings.. Get your wife a cabbage patch kid and tell her to leave your daughter alone..
Please undestand.. I am sickened by what some parents do.. 6 year olds walking throught the mall with hot pants and high heels.. Let kids be kids.. Ever watch that show toddlers and tiaras?? It is sick.. 4 year olds done up to look like hookers.. Some even getting nose jobs and bikini waxes.. I hope you wife isn't heading that way..
Kids are kids.. They are not little adults.. They should look and be dressed like kids.. If she wants to get ear rings at 6 mos.. What is she going to do when your daughter is 9-12 and is actually maturing into a woman like figure??
Let her be a child..
I think they're dangerous - baby can cut theirself on the studs while laying down, pull them out and eat them.
I think it shows a rather self-absorbed side of people - treating children more as objects of decoration rather than children. But I don't think it's horribly wrong or unethical. Just strange that people do it.
I find it odd, though -somewhat ironic and humerous actually - that some people (over the years that this subject has come up - not necessarily individuals in this thread) that some people are pro male circumcision but anti ear piercing on the grounds that it's 'mutilation' . . it's actually a very common conflict of views - as if the famale earlobe is more precious than a male's penis.
Please offer my thanks to a mother that is such a failure when come to something as simple as allowing her own child the right to choose..
The choice to get ear rings belongs completely to your daughter and nobody else.. My daughter was 9 when she got hers.. She made the call..
Tell your wife to stop attempting to sexualize an infant.. There is no reason to get them at that age except to make them look older.. Next thing you know she is going to buy her a bikini at age 3 with pads in the top to make it look she has breast buds.. Don't think you can't buy those.. It is sick..
For god sakes, let your daughter be a little girl and not some doll that mom likes to play dress up..
No on the ear rings.. Get your wife a cabbage patch kid and tell her to leave your daughter alone..
Please undestand.. I am sickened by what some parents do.. 6 year olds walking throught the mall with hot pants and high heels.. Let kids be kids.. Ever watch that show toddlers and tiaras?? It is sick.. 4 year olds done up to look like hookers.. Some even getting nose jobs and bikini waxes.. I hope you wife isn't heading that way..
Kids are kids.. They are not little adults.. They should look and be dressed like kids.. If she wants to get ear rings at 6 mos.. What is she going to do when your daughter is 9-12 and is actually maturing into a woman like figure??
Let her be a child..
Here is the thing. Piercings do not heal like a normal wound would.
The body wants to reject the foreign object. This is why piercing healing time is so long. I have had piercings that took up to 2 years to heal. And as I already stated, my ear piercings from when I was a baby NEVER healed. It is not just the injury of the piercing you must consider (it IS an injury - you are poking a hole through a part of the body), but also the months and maybe years of healing time thereafter, likely with repeated infections because she, being a baby, doesn't comprehend that piercings need care. She is not going to think "oh, I need to clean my piercings!" after getting dirt on her face.
But all of this is beside the point that it is completely non-consensual. Caring her for her in necessary ways - food, water, shelter, love, learning - are necessary. Punching holes in her body are not. It is altering her body in an obvious way that is unnecessary without her consent.
If your wife decides to do this anyway, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE tell her to go to a proper piercer. Don't let her get the piercings done with a piercing gun. They are dangerous, unclean, and cause more tissue damage than is necessary. The earrings are of cheap quality and often break down when in contact with the body fluids produced during healing. They have even caused outbreaks of Hepatitis.
Please tell her to see a professional piercer who has the proper certification in your area, and who uses and AUTOCLAVE for all re-usable equipment, like forceps.
Not my wife just some crazy bitch I was engaged to for 4 years and dropped me 2 weeks after my daughter was born.
Well my point is it shouldn't matter anyway because that type of thing should be her decision, it doesn't matter if it's going to be a while before she can make it herself or not. You should tell your ex that.Also CarlF here is the thing about the whole decision thing, that is fine and I would rather it be her decision. But my 6 month old daughter isn't deciding anything for herself for quite sometime so this is very small in comparison. I just do not like what will be the inevitable inconvenience of it happening.
Read my posts before you respond. As for the mother, she is an incredibly good mother usually just has her values mixed up in some cases.
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