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hiker said:I can say for myself that taking a spanking was not all that painful an experience. The real pain is knowing that I let my dad down. Feeling shame is a much more powerful emotion than the fear of a belt. In raising a child, instilling a fear of failure and of doing things you shouldn't is paramount. If a child does not have the capability to feel ashamed of his actions, no amount of corporal punishment will be enough. I see kids these days, little kids, getting away with acting out in public and doing whatever they want without anyone making them stop. No discipline. No shame. It's really sad to think of what will become of that generation.
God, I sound old
Good point. If the child/parent relationship is good, with mutual respect and love, spanking will be rare. I could just raise my voice to one of mine, and she would "stand corrected", sometimes she would be in tears because she felt I was angry with her. Another needed an occasional smack on the upper leg, where there was no diaper padding. At certain ages that is all they understand, and if NO doesn't keep them from sticking metal objects into the wall socket, a slap on the leg will.
But that is just spanking, or swatting. Being beat with a belt, I have experience with that as well, and it wasn't because I deserved it (except for a few times), it was because one of my parents had frustrations to take out on someone, and I was the chosen target. Did that parent earn any love or respect? Absolutely not. It was a very poorly attended funeral, when the time came.