teacher said:
I was not saying you personally yelled like a maniac, but a lot of parents do and I don't think that is effective.
I'm not telling anyone how to raise their kids, this is simply a debate site.
I just personally think there are other methods of punishment that may be effective. Of course I have a 14 month old to contend with now. Of course I never spanked him as he is too young, but when he gets a little older I may have a different perspective. All kids are different. I also think consistency is the key.
I do think a four year old is capable of being reasoned with depending on their particular maturity level. Talking to your kids promotes their reasoning skills if you do it on their level. Talk to them in ways that they can understand.
Yelling does almost no good except as an indication that further escalation is eminent. Children will tune yelling out if there is no follow up that gets their attention.
We used the 1,2,3 count, and punishment always followed the 3. Consistency is the key. BTW, when we sent them to their rooms, the only thing they were allowed to do in there was read, and nap. A lot of times when a kid is acting up, it is a nap that they need anyway.
It worked for our 2, and the 6 grandchildren, so far.