Genders play a huge role. Brains of women are different then brains of men, simply because of the concentration of the hormone testosterone. This concentration difference starts different processes which ultimately construct a different brain. With that said, different brains will have different parenting styles. Men tend to be more dominant, and women and men respond differently to dominance.
It is known that men communicate through dominance. If you were to go into a room filled with men, it is basically a dance between who can flex the most testosterone. The difference being, that men respond differently as to what dominance truly is. Some men, it is physical dominance. Others, it is intellectual, while others is sexual, and others correlate dominance to how big their wallet is. So it is possible as well as highly probable, that every man in that conversation would part thinking they are the most dominant, even though there could only be one. I know, funny, and very typical of men.
Women communicate much differently. They are more open about what and how they feel to one another. So in essence, I feel that mothers serve as the prime teacher of our limbic systems. When we as children have a feeling that we can not put words on, we can find it out through talking or observing our mothers. Fathers serve a more primitive role, and that of survival. Fathers provide children with the knowledge and strategies in surviving this world. Women would approach the problem by working with others, while men tend to want to do it themselves.
Both viewpoints provide purpose, and one viewpoint will make more sense depending on the context. It is known the most influential and most important relationship of a human's life is the very first relationship with their parents. Through this relationship, the human brain will construct the nature of human relationships, and therefore construct their perception of the world. It is known that babies that experience the trauma of seperating from their biological parents and are forced into foster homes, are going to experience change in their brain structure just from that one event. That pain will be hard wired in their brains, and might even contribute to an over excited fight or flight response or even a disassociative response. This will in turn increase their subseptibility to either opiates or stimulants in their life.
Through the book of The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog, you will learn so much about the brain. I advise everyone to read it. It explains why and how people either become sociopaths or successful contributors to society. It has everything to do with genetic predispositions and the environment that this brain was raised in. The earlier the trauma, the more of an impact the trauma induces. Just as we as humans in our infancy can sponge knowledge, a trauma can have the same effect if experienced in the early years of life. For example, from this book I can deduce that living the life I was living, I was exposed to a small but constant fear. The fear of not knowing when my next plate of food was going to be, the trauma of having to eat once a day to ensure food for my family, made my fight-flight system stimulated more than the average person. This means it was sensitized, which means less of a stimulation will set the response off. This excited system explains my gravitation to stimulants, more particularly to THC. When anxiety of my life became unmanageable, I would excite my fight-flight response system to deal with the anxiety.
You see how much of a difference one book can do? Our children (in the community that I grew up in) are reading about the Hannarabi Code, as well as Greek Mythology. When there are books out there that can not only change but define your perception are out there, and you are instead reading about Zeus, to me is such a waste.
