Auntie, the problem you speak of is a plague in my generation. An absolute plague.
I suspect it's the result of the pendulum swinging back, as it often does in situations where an underclass suddenly finds itself with its rights restored. The resent and unpleasantness often takes generations to die down. We're stilling dealing with it in racial relations, and I suspect that in 20 or 30 years we'll be dealing with it with gay people as well. It's a human thing.
But it's really heartbreaking to see. A lot of the best guys live with this internal self-loathing simply for having a penis. It's like they've been taught that all desires they may have are inherently rape should they act on them, and that everything they may say towards a woman is inherently demeaning. I struggle to think of a single guy I know under 25 who doesn't have that to some degree, and even most under 30.
I see both men and women perpetuating stereotypes about each other, though. The "women are incapable of logic" stereotype holds strong, with both men and women espousing it. And the "men are mindless hormone machines" stereotype is picking up speed, and again, with both men and women espousing it.
It's hard in the social environment we currently have with such badly broken gender politics, but men need to insist on their own self-worth as much as women do.
There are still genuine pigs and assholes out there, of course. There are also still kind women who treat men as they'd like to be treated. For what it's worth, I try my best.
P.S. Something else I've noticed that's pretty horrifying. There was an aspect to the feminist movement that is sometimes called the "orgasm revolution." Essentially, a lot of women felt they were being used during sex rather than their partners giving their pleasure any thought. The purpose of this was to bring attention to the female orgasm and mutual sexual relationships.
I'm starting to think men need an "orgasm revolution." I don't know if this is a new thing, but I would be inclined to think so. I have known a lot of younger guys who would rarely, if ever, get to orgasm during sexual activity with their partners. It just wasn't important to her, and therefore wasn't important in their sex lives. And they, being nice guys who were a bit psychologically stunted towards the opposite sex, simply put up with it.
I want to bludgeon people every time a guy tells me that. What's sad is that I've had several partners who have told me that about their sexual history.
