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Ah, but you two aren't married are you?
Well, no. But if some things were different, we very well could be someday.
Ah, but you two aren't married are you?
Which is exactly what I'm saying the problem is.
I'm from Northern Virginia, I've been surrounded by liberals all my life. My entire mother's side of the family is liberal (though she is not). They're all good people, or at least no less so than conservatives, and their political views are indicitive of nothing else except for their political views themselves. Ditto for conservatives. People who are only close to people they mostly agree with really ought to make an effort to change that, if only to realize that people on the other side of the political spectrum are really no different at all. Unfortunately, many would rather make an effort to do the opposite, and keep their clan within an ideological range. This makes it very easy to demonize the other side, to feel superior to them, and to act as if they must be different for having such wildly different political views.
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I could never marry someone. Full stop.
Hmmmmm, not one of those things would stop me. Men are very trainable.
There's no one size fits all. Sometimes one person is all you need and sometimes someone else comes into your life and you need them just as much. If all parties are in agreement, why should the first relationship end? Bear in mind, I would never dream of imposing this way of life on anyone who isn't comfortable with it.
It's very difficult to explain. The commitment to one or the other is still there. Love is not a finite commodity. Anyone with more than one child knows that. Heck, anyone with more than one friend knows that. I realize it's not the same kind of feeling that one has for a child or a friend vs a lover, but it is still love. Why should romantic love be more exclusive than all the other kinds of love?
I don't get all these people who say they could only marry someone they didn't disagree with politically. I'm not exactly experienced in this, but marrying someone you always agreed with would just strike me as being soooo boring.
Does this beg the question - is cheating okay then? Nobody gets hurt. Maybe if the wife just sort of turns a blind eye?
I think - I can't say for sure, but I think I'd rather just be on my own than share a man.
Because there's a ton of things you can talk about and disagree on that aren't religion or politics.
Does this beg the question - is cheating okay then? Nobody gets hurt. Maybe if the wife just sort of turns a blind eye?
I think - I can't say for sure, but I think I'd rather just be on my own than share a man.
No, cheating is not ok. The most important ingredient in any relationship, open or exclusive, is honesty and full disclosure.
There's tons you can disagree on politically even if you're both liberals/conservatives.
Good thread.
I could never marry someone who decides in absolutes or cheats on me.
I couldn't marry someone who
-Couldn't separate love and sex
Are you planning on having an open marriage?
I don't have a criterion for whom I'd consider dating. A girl is either attractive, or she isn't. There are a multitude of factors that could lead me to be attracted to a girl. It's encoded within my DNA.
There's been a plethora of people I have been attracted to but wouldn't consider dating EVER.
But you're an extremely physically attractive individual yourself.
Not everyone gets a whole smörgåsbord of choices, you know.
Some unfortunate souls have to settle for what they can get.
There's been a plethora of people I have been attracted to but wouldn't consider dating EVER.
That's Greek to me, but to each his own. If a girl looks like Jessica Alba or Keira Knightley, you better believe I'd date them, and they'd likely be able to get away with some personality flaws.