I could never marry someone who......

[Tashah]

- is lousy in the sack / sexually boring
- is a liar or a cheater
- is an alcohol/drug abuser
- is lazy and unkempt
- is fiscally irresponsible
- is politically incompatible
- has no sense of humor
- is a workaholic
- is averse to mental/physical challenges
- is too traditional and unwilling to walk on the wild side
- doesn't like music / can't dance / has no appreciation of the arts

 

[Thorgasm]

- is lousy in the sack / sexually boring
- is a liar or a cheater
- is an alcohol/drug abuser
- is lazy and unkempt
- is fiscally irresponsible
- is politically incompatible
- has no sense of humor
- is a workaholic
- is averse to mental/physical challenges
- is too traditional and unwilling to walk on the wild side
- doesn't like music / can't dance / has no appreciation of the arts

Geez Tashah, you could have just told me "No." :2razz:

 

[Aunt Spiker]

Before I met my wife, I had imagined a very different person to spend my life with. It turned out that my wife was the one for me and in meeting here there were many surprises in terms of life philosophy, temperament, personality, and intelligence. I had mentally written down a set of standards that ultimately she did not meet. However, while not meeting those standards, she was also able to exceed them and teach me things I had previously not understood.

The lesson is to not limit yourself in what might make you genuinely happy because to do so is to deny that you will change as a person as you grow and so will the people you have a relationship with.

I agree completely!

My husband and I found ourselves in that same situation.
And YEP - after my first marriage when down the ****ter so quickly I actually wrote a 'qualifications' list before I dated anyone else - and I actually did refer to that in the following months post divorce.

Funny thing is that I let it go - and years later met my husband - and he wouldn't have 'qualified' according to that list. . . but I didn't care

 

[Marilyn Monroe]

.....I'm not physically attracted to
.....is lazy
.....is not thoughtful
.....is not considerate
.....doesn't like giving or receiving massages
.....doesn't like animals
.....is controlling
.....is a procrastinator
.....is too liberal, or too conservative
.....doesn't like me, and love me unconditionally
.....is obsessive about sex
.....is religious (can believe, just keep it to himself generally)
.....is not helpfull ( I guess that would fall under thoughtful & considerate)
.....does not empathsize with me

I can't think of anything else.

 

[Laila]

.... wasn't religious. The religion of the person doesn't matter as much as them actually having faith. No atheist or agnostics for me .. because you know there will be trouble when children get involved.
.... wants dogs in our house.
.... doesn't understand or at least tolerate the family dynamic within my culture.
.... didn't have his own hobbies separate from mine or wouldn't like to travel.
.... drank alcohol excessively or did drugs.
.... didn't want children.
.... no sense of humour/adventure
.... the usual which has been named in previous pages, not caring/honest/considerate etc.

 

[Dav]

I don't get all these people who say they could only marry someone they didn't disagree with politically. I'm not exactly experienced in this, but marrying someone you always agreed with would just strike me as being soooo boring.

 

[Laila]

I don't get all these people who say they could only marry someone they didn't disagree with politically. I'm not exactly experienced in this, but marrying someone you always agreed with would just strike me as being soooo boring.

Yeah, I'd like opposite political views or at least differences within our outlook otherwise it would be like agreeing with myself and that would make me lose interest quickly.

 

[Gipper]

...wears a bra below C.

 

[TheGirlNextDoor]

I could never marry someone who...

... has a history of violence
... is controlling
... can't problem solve
... doesn't have a strong sense of right from wrong
... who couldn't see life has many gray areas
... who didn't enjoy exploring each other sexually (who had hangups)
... who didn't believe in working for a living (more than just a job)

 

[Josie]

I don't get all these people who say they could only marry someone they didn't disagree with politically. I'm not exactly experienced in this, but marrying someone you always agreed with would just strike me as being soooo boring.

I think it would be quite peaceful. Although, I don't think it's possible to marry someone who always agrees with you. There's always something.

 

[Thorgasm]

I think it would be quite peaceful. Although, I don't think it's possible to marry someone who always agrees with you. There's always something.

Most women like to communicate a lot more than "Yeah, me too."

 

[Josie]

Most women like to communicate a lot more than "Yeah, me too."

Of course. You can have many interesting conversations with people you agree with. One of my good friends is pretty much the male version of me. We can talk forever. And, yes, we still disagree on some things.

 

[Thorgasm]

Of course. You can have many interesting conversations with people you agree with. One of my good friends is pretty much the male version of me. We can talk forever. And, yes, we still disagree on some things.

Ah, but you two aren't married are you?

 

[monomything]

My liberalism is innate and gut-deep, and permeates every aspect of my life and every decision I make. My revulsion for conservative ideology is boundless.
My family is an important part of my life, and they would never accept a conservative either, which would isolate me from them.

Contradictions be damned!!!!

 

[monomything]

I could never marry someone who......

... is a hairy person.

 

[digsbe]

I couldn't marry someone who didn't share my faith.
I couldn't marry someone who didn't want kids.
I could never marry a pro-choice woman, I would never approve of an abortion in our family.
I could never marry a woman who is not independent. I want a wife and friend, not a slave or an insecure woman who feels she must impress me and others.
I could never marry a woman who wants to have extra-marital sex or bring others into our sexual relationship (threesomes, porn, etc.)

 

[Dav]

Suffice it to say, I would only ever be compatible with a liberal.
My liberalism is innate and gut-deep, and permeates every aspect of my life and every decision I make. My revulsion for conservative ideology is boundless.
My family is an important part of my life, and they would never accept a conservative either, which would isolate me from them.

I can't really express how much I despise this attitude. It is essentially the seeds of hatred, which in turn is the seeds of nearly every horror that plagues mankind.

A family that would isolate a member who marries a conservative is every bit as bad as a family that would isolate a member for marrying someone of a certain race.

I could go on, but I'd probably just be repeating myself. A person's politics is irrelevant. People who insist otherwise are dividing the human race and spreading bigotry within it.

 

[rivrrat]

I couldn't be with someone who was overtly religious.
I don't think I could be with someone who felt it was the government's place to control my reproductive system and I don't believe I could tolerate being with someone who felt it was the government's place to control what I put into my body. I could possibly be okay with these stances as long as they weren't vehement about them, I guess.
I couldn't be with someone who wasn't at least a little adventurous.
I couldn't be with someone unintelligent.
I couldn't be with someone who had issues with my independence and/or wanted to change that. (That includes co-mingling all monetary accounts)
I couldn't be with someone who couldn't accept that I require time to myself.
I couldn't be with someone who lacks self-confidence.
I couldn't be with someone who lacks a sense of humor (including the ability to laugh at themselves)
I couldn't be with someone that I'm not sexually compatible with.

 

[Marilyn Monroe]

I don't get all these people who say they could only marry someone they didn't disagree with politically. I'm not exactly experienced in this, but marrying someone you always agreed with would just strike me as being soooo boring.

Political either means you're kind or not kind, or so the libs say about cons, and cons, I don't know what it'd be, maybe if they were a lib they'd be pro-choice, or a woose, something the cons don't care for or about. You can be different in some areas, but not sexually (either too much, too little, or not willing to try new things), religiously, or politically.

 

[Dav]

Political either means you're kind or not kind, or so the libs say about cons

Which is exactly what I'm saying the problem is.

I'm from Northern Virginia, I've been surrounded by liberals all my life. My entire mother's side of the family is liberal (though she is not). They're all good people, or at least no less so than conservatives, and their political views are indicitive of nothing else except for their political views themselves. Ditto for conservatives. People who are only close to people they mostly agree with really ought to make an effort to change that, if only to realize that people on the other side of the political spectrum are really no different at all. Unfortunately, many would rather make an effort to do the opposite, and keep their clan within an ideological range. This makes it very easy to demonize the other side, to feel superior to them, and to act as if they must be different for having such wildly different political views.

 

[SgtRock]

I couldn't marry someone who

~ has bad hygiene
~ dosn't like the outdoors
~ bitches to damn much
~ dosn't enjoy watching football
~ isn't proficient with fire arms
~ couldn't field dress game or clean fish
~ refuses to swallow

 

[1069]

I can't really express how much I despise this attitude. It is essentially the seeds of hatred, which in turn is the seeds of nearly every horror that plagues mankind.

A family that would isolate a member who marries a conservative is every bit as bad as a family that would isolate a member for marrying someone of a certain race.

I could go on, but I'd probably just be repeating myself. A person's politics is irrelevant. People who insist otherwise are dividing the human race and spreading bigotry within it.

Sorry. My family is comprised of staunch democrats.
They despise republicans. They would never welcome one into the family. That's how it is.

 

[SgtRock]

Sorry. My family is comprised of staunch democrats.
They despise republicans. They would never welcome one into the family. That's how it is.

Thats messed up. most families include people from both sides of the political spectrum. I am conservative but my father is a bleedin heart pos liberal. I love him just the same.

 

[TheGirlNextDoor]

Democrat - Republican. What's the difference.

 

[1069]

Democrat - Republican. What's the difference.

Big difference to my family. They think republicans are heartless. Evil.