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Studies have shown a correlation between High IQ, liberalism, Atheism, and Sexual Exclusivity in Men..
Studies have shown a correlation between High IQ, liberalism, Atheism, and Sexual Exclusivity in Men. I definitely have a very high IQ, I am an atheist, a liberal, and I definitely prefer sexual exclusivity. Not that I don't do one night stands ever, but it's fairly rare. The thing is, I'm 33 and I'm still single. In fact I really haven't had any serious relationships at all(more than about 3 months).
Now I'm really not trying to make this thread about me the individual, but rather about guys like me in general. I also don't want to sound like I'm bragging here at all, but I'm not sure how else to illustrate my point here without stating some facts. If you'd like to ignore my personal story feel free to skip down past the spoiler.
A lot of straight men are pigs. No cute way of dressing that up. When women are on apps like Tinder they get constantly assaulted with rude AF messages.Normally people assume that women do the judging, and it's the mans job to jump through hoops to try and convince her that he's worth it. I think this happens because women are generally the more sexually exclusive sex and men are generally viewed as wanting to **** anything moves.
I'd doubt it. :/ Even though not many people realize this about their own behavior, but we're very much programmed to only care about objects and things that are immediate and will directly benefit us. And why not? There's hundreds of thousands of people in your geographical vicinity - around 6 billion on the planet. If anyone took the time and energy to chase after or even barely acknowledge every single person that they came across in life, they'd have literally no time to do anything else.This strategy has yet to work out quite well given that I'm 33 and regularly single, but I feel like as more single women start to approach their 30's and the numbers game starts favoring men like myself more it might have better success. I wonder are there other guys with similar approaches? I feel like most women just assume that a guy is only going to get worse the more you get to know them, and so if the first impression isn't spectacular they run for the hills.
I'm saying that I would prefer monogamy and long term relations rather than simply trying to sleep with every woman in sight. I prefer quality to quantity. I would prefer one really good match to many less than great matches.Good luck with that. And I hope you've been to the dentist lately and you're not diabetic - you'll see why below.
When you say "exclusivity", is that referring to the overall number of women...or the specific type(s) of women you hope to attract?
Sure, it's not like I'm posting my IQ on Tinder or bringing it up on dates. But I feel confident that the more people get to know me the more the recognize that I know that I have my **** together. However the problem is that I don't always make a great first impression with people. I feel like I'm very good at picking out good people and seeing through bull****, so I'm looking for a woman who can do the same.As far as IQ itself goes, I have found it counterproductive to discuss mine in the past - the only ones who know it are my wife and my youngest son (and that was not intentional). I feel it's better for others to form their own opinion about my level of intelligence (or lack thereof).
I don't doubt it, but it from my experience it seems to me that the reason so many women end up with such bad experiences on Tinder is because they aren't doing a very good job choosing which men to talk to. A decent looking women likely matches with so many men that she restricts herself to what is in her mind the best of the best, but the reality is that those guys likely have hundreds of other women matching with them, and as a result they have no motivation to devote any real time to any one of them. I'm willing to bet that about 70% of the guys on Tinder are actually fairly decent guys looking for something long term, the problem is that most women are looking over all those guys.A lot of straight men are pigs. No cute way of dressing that up. When women are on apps like Tinder they get constantly assaulted with rude AF messages.
Yeah, see that's the thing though......"Most People." I get recruiters hitting me up on Linkedin almost every single day. I haven't put radically more effort into my linkedin profile than I have into my Tinder account, but because people with my qualifications are in high demand they seek me out. It seems like there are so many women I hear from on a regular bases are complaining about how there are no decent men left, so you'd think a guy like myself would be in relatively high demand with women as well.Instead what I think you should mull upon is the idea that job hunting and dating are very, very similar.
Most people aren't offered well-paying jobs out of the blue. Instead they have to create the most convincing, short one-page summary of their life; and then practically beat employers over the head with it.
There is also a small percentage of men who are incel, and thus have low to none sex drive just because of their circumstances.
Studies have shown a correlation between High IQ, liberalism, Atheism, and Sexual Exclusivity in Men. I definitely have a very high IQ, I am an atheist, a liberal, and I definitely prefer sexual exclusivity. Not that I don't do one night stands ever, but it's fairly rare. The thing is, I'm 33 and I'm still single. In fact I really haven't had any serious relationships at all(more than about 3 months).
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This strategy has yet to work out quite well given that I'm 33 and regularly single, but I feel like as more single women start to approach their 30's and the numbers game starts favoring men like myself more it might have better success. I wonder are there other guys with similar approaches? I feel like most women just assume that a guy is only going to get worse the more you get to know them, and so if the first impression isn't spectacular they run for the hills.
Studies have shown a correlation between High IQ, liberalism, Atheism, and Sexual Exclusivity in Men. I definitely have a very high IQ, I am an atheist, a liberal, and I definitely prefer sexual exclusivity. Not that I don't do one night stands ever, but it's fairly rare. The thing is, I'm 33 and I'm still single. In fact I really haven't had any serious relationships at all(more than about 3 months).
Now I'm really not trying to make this thread about me the individual, but rather about guys like me in general. I also don't want to sound like I'm bragging here at all, but I'm not sure how else to illustrate my point here without stating some facts. If you'd like to ignore my personal story feel free to skip down past the spoiler.
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This strategy has yet to work out quite well given that I'm 33 and regularly single, but I feel like as more single women start to approach their 30's and the numbers game starts favoring men like myself more it might have better success. I wonder are there other guys with similar approaches? I feel like most women just assume that a guy is only going to get worse the more you get to know them, and so if the first impression isn't spectacular they run for the hills.
Studies have shown a correlation between High IQ, liberalism, Atheism, and Sexual Exclusivity in Men. I definitely have a very high IQ, I am an atheist, a liberal, and I definitely prefer sexual exclusivity. Not that I don't do one night stands ever, but it's fairly rare. The thing is, I'm 33 and I'm still single. In fact I really haven't had any serious relationships at all(more than about 3 months).
Now I'm really not trying to make this thread about me the individual, but rather about guys like me in general. I also don't want to sound like I'm bragging here at all, but I'm not sure how else to illustrate my point here without stating some facts. If you'd like to ignore my personal story feel free to skip down past the spoiler.
I'm not really interested in debating the merits of the study itself that much. If you're really interested you can read about it here.So you provided no reference or link to support your claims that 'studies show..'
Well that's kind of the point though. See I generally hate talking about that stuff, and I wouldn't if I was on an actual date, but I think that's kind of the problem. Guys like myself don't really like to show off that much even though we can. It's kind of like how women hate guys who post shirtless selfies on dating sites. Or how when you see some guy driving around in a ridiculously flash sports care squealing his tires, or some unnecessarily jacked up truck you generally think he's making up for a tiny dick. Or conversely with women there is a tendency to think that women who show to much skin and dress to provocatively are doing it for attention because they themselves are insecure.... you then go on to say how you don't want to brag but then pretty much spend all your time talking about yourself and even include your height and weight and how smart you are
I'm tall and smart and don't **** random women either, you're not as special as you think you are.
It's doubtful that intelligence is a positive indicator of people's proclivities. Within my lifetime I've met who I would consider to be geniuses who range from monogamous to full on hedonists.
Yes, usually when I can get a woman out with me and I like her this is not a problem. However it's the first impression that is the issue. In general I try not to be too funny or too charismatic all the time because I don't want to pull a lot of women in. To me this would be like a woman who was always dressing scandalous and being flirty with every guy she met. Yes, I would get more attention, but I wouldn't want most of it.I know what you're missing.
Can you make em laugh? I don't mean like knock knock jokes.
I mean, can you make them really laugh, to the point where they are disarmed and their guard is down?
You didn't make her laugh, you didn't make her curious, you didn't intrigue her and she hasn't even asked what you look like yet.
And trust me, I am no prize so clearly SHE isn't THAT hung up on looks to begin with!
Again I wasn't suggesting that I was. My intent here is to determine if an approach like mine is common and if it's something women think about.
Yes, usually when I can get a woman out with me and I like her this is not a problem. However it's the first impression that is the issue. In general I try not to be too funny or too charismatic all the time because I don't want to pull a lot of women in. To me this would be like a woman who was always dressing scandalous and being flirty with every guy she met. Yes, I would get more attention, but I wouldn't want most of it.
Again, this is not a dating profile here. I'm not really trying to impress women, and I would hope that a woman wouldn't want to date me for those reasons alone. Just like a woman wouldn't want a guy to date her just because she look hot in a bikini alone. I'm looking for a deeper connection because I prefer something that will work long term, as a result I specifically do NOT emphasize any of these things that I know a lot of women fall for early on because I want a woman to like me for less shallow reasons.
I feel like most guys expect women to play a little coy and pretend to be a bit more conservative at the outset so they don't let it deter them, but I'm not sure women really expect this from men. That's really the point. I feel like my approach to dating is more like a typical woman's is than it is like the average man's.
No it's not. Your intent is to show the internet how special and amazing you are without outright saying you're special and amazing. It's the sort of thing teenage girls do.
How exactly do you think one would go about having a conversation like this without sounding vain exactly?
As a side note, many researchers are now saying that having a high, or very high IQ score is not always synonymous with having a high level of applied intelligence.You don't sound like you have a high IQ -
Perhaps back up your assertion with other data besides your unverifiable anectdotal claim that you have a very high IQ score and that those with this characteristic are tend to be sexually exclusive?
No, I have not met any people with below average IQ scores with Computer Science degrees.Such as? Do you know a lot of dummies with bachelors in Computer Science?
I would neither affirm, nor reject such a posting.If I told you something like my ACT score would you even believe it?
I think it has merit. And yes, I think you are correct.I'm willing to bet most of the people I'm interested in having this discussion with agree it has merit.
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