@Amyishere
I found mine! I hope you find yours!
2nd marriage for me; 3rd for my mate. Nine children between us; the last one together.
My mate straightened me out in 2010. I have children with 3 women. She called me a free spirit who made up rules on the go. She insisted on monogamy. Said if I didn't follow along, she'd join the list of women who hated me. You'd figure I'd have learned this basic important issue of intimacy earlier in life! Oy vey! Changing my ways to an earnest commitment added unprecedented quality to our collective lives! Like you, I live the Serenity Prayer, one day at a time! All grins!
LIke a good garden, my relationship needs constant attention and adjustments. Our bounty can quickly turn barren and weed infected if neglected.