Do you have a hard time making decisions?

[MaggieD]

I came to a number of realizations a long time ago.

If you don't make the decision, in effect you've made the decision.

and

It's much easier to focus on making a good decision than the right one.

Lastly,

The janitor knows more about whatever decision I need information on than my husband. Especially if he agrees with me.

Do you have a hard time making decisions?

 

[Fisher]

Nope. See how easy that was to decide :lamo

 

[CanadaJohn]

I don't have trouble making decisions but occasionally have trouble sticking to the decision if it wasn't an easy or pleasant one to make.

Simple decisions like buying something small, like shoes or clothes, take no time at all - it drives me bat-sh*t crazy being with someone who takes 20 stores and 6 hours to pick out a pair of shoes.

 

[GottaGo]

I came to a number of realizations a long time ago.

If you don't make the decision, in effect you've made the decision.

and

It's much easier to focus on making a good decision than the right one.

Lastly,

The janitor knows more about whatever decision I need information on than my husband. Especially if he agrees with me.

Do you have a hard time making decisions?

It depends on what the seriousness is that I have to decide on.

Minor stuff, easy.
Major stuff, I need to dissect it, analyze it, paste it back together again, review it, re-dissect it, look at long term impact, let it ferment a bit, then decide.

Never, ever, call it procrastinating. :wink:

 

[MaggieD]

Simple decisions like buying something small, like shoes or clothes, take no time at all - it drives me bat-sh*t crazy being with someone who takes 20 stores and 6 hours to pick out a pair of shoes.

Oh, I am soooo with you there.

 

[longview]

I find many people have trouble making decisions, I tend to be more proactive.
I like to think about it like this, By making a decision I am choosing my own battlefield,
If I wait, I am allowing the battlefield to choose the time and place.

 

[RDS]

I make split second decisions and it turns out to be the right decisions.

 

[Red_Dave]

I came to a number of realizations a long time ago.

If you don't make the decision, in effect you've made the decision.

and

It's much easier to focus on making a good decision than the right one.

Lastly,

The janitor knows more about whatever decision I need information on than my husband. Especially if he agrees with me.

Do you have a hard time making decisions?

Maybe (10 characters)

 

[Superfly]

The janitor??

I make decisions easily on most things. Every now and then, there'll be something up where I'll hem and haw. If I'm buying something for myself, I'll usually decide to get it and then put it back before I leave the store. :lol: My daughter? Hate shopping with her. She is the kind of person that can't have too many choices. It makes shopping impossible. If she's given a choice of 3 blouses, her choice is easy. If she's given the choice of 30, she can't decide, and then she goes back and forth until I get upset and she gets upset, and we leave with nothing. She's literally spent an hour trying to decide on one pair of jeans.

 

[MaggieD]

The janitor??

I make decisions easily on most things. Every now and then, there'll be something up where I'll hem and haw. If I'm buying something for myself, I'll usually decide to get it and then put it back before I leave the store. :lol: My daughter? Hate shopping with her. She is the kind of person that can't have too many choices. It makes shopping impossible. If she's given a choice of 3 blouses, her choice is easy. If she's given the choice of 30, she can't decide, and then she goes back and forth until I get upset and she gets upset, and we leave with nothing. She's literally spent an hour trying to decide on one pair of jeans.

Sounds like that's a good strategy to save money. Ha!

Re "the janitor," that's what my late husband used to say when I'd ask his opinion. "You never take my advice anyway, Maggie, go ask the janitor, maybe he'll agree with what you're going to do anyway."

My husband was a very insightful man, I always thought.

 

[Superfly]

:lol: Got it. Well mine says basically the same thing - "You aren't going to listen to me anyway, so why are you even asking?" Heck, I don't know - validation?

 

[marduc]

For years after my childhood and the loss of an amazing device I found it extremely difficult to make decisions. Those days are a thing of the past fortunately, I have a handy link bookmarked which is a virtual recreation of this fantastic decision making device from my childhood:

Magic Eight Ball CGI

 

[Muhammed]

For me it depends on the urgency of the decision.

If a decision needs to be made now, I do it now. Otherwise I take my available time to weigh my options.

 

[polgara]

I don't have trouble making decisions but occasionally have trouble sticking to the decision if it wasn't an easy or pleasant one to make.

Simple decisions like buying something small, like shoes or clothes, take no time at all - it drives me bat-sh*t crazy being with someone who takes 20 stores and 6 hours to pick out a pair of shoes.

Good morning, CJ! :2wave:

Words spoken by most men I know! :mrgreen: It's the "shop till you drop" gene that most women are born with. We can't help it!

 

[Mathematician]

I have such confidence in my decision making skills that I told my wife from the beginning of our relationship that I wanted to be the man of the house. She trusted me when I promised to put the safety and happiness of her and our kids before mine and she has been very happy ever since.

 

[americanwoman]

I am bad at decision making and over analyze everything. Just last night I was at the gas station debating for about 5 minutes whether to get the fig newtons or a rice crispy treat. I went with the newtons and must have gotten a bad batch cause they tasted like crap.

 

[MaggieD]

I am bad at decision making and over analyze everything. Just last night I was at the gas station debating for about 5 minutes whether to get the fig newtons or a rice crispy treat. I went with the newtons and must have gotten a bad batch cause they tasted like crap.

:rofl :rofl

 

[Ontologuy]

I score pretty much in the middle between decisive-driven ("J") judging and indecisive-easy going ("P") perceptive on the Myers-Briggs / Keirsey Sorter temperament and character evaluator, and that score is validated as accurate for me in actual practice.

Sometimes I make quick decisions on things .. sometimes I take more time to evaluate .. and sometimes I don't make any decisions at all .. .. it all depends on the subject matter, etc.

People who score strong "J" are usually uncomfortable with undecided issues and comfortable once something has been decided .. and people who score strong "P" are usually uncomfortable with quickly decided issues and comfortable when they can just "wait and see".

When you have a "J" and a "P" in a marriage, they can often drive each other nuts, the "J" wanting to take care of business and the "P" wanting to play.

 

[Fisher]

I score pretty much in the middle between decisive-driven ("J") judging and indecisive-easy going ("P") perceptive on the Myers-Briggs / Keirsey Sorter temperament and character evaluator, and that score is validated as accurate for me in actual practice.

Sometimes I make quick decisions on things .. sometimes I take more time to evaluate .. and sometimes I don't make any decisions at all .. .. it all depends on the subject matter, etc.

People who score strong "J" are usually uncomfortable with undecided issues and comfortable once something has been decided .. and people who score strong "P" are usually uncomfortable with quickly decided issues and comfortable when they can just "wait and see".

When you have a "J" and a "P" in a marriage, they can often drive each other nuts, the "J" wanting to take care of business and the "P" wanting to play.

I scored almost exactly in the middle on the E/I but on the rest I was very much at the N-T-J poles.

 

[Ontologuy]

I scored almost exactly in the middle on the E/I but on the rest I was very much at the N-T-J poles.

Being strong "J" in score, do you indeed experience being more comfortable once most things are decided?

I too score in the E/I middle on the Keirsey 5-5 .. 16-4 N over S .. 12-8 F over T .. and 11-9 P over J nearly even.

My girlfriend scores strong ENFP .. and she's loads of fun!

Also, since we're both strong "N"s we speak the same "language" of general concepts over detail minutiae, the foundational criteria for long-term mates, and our "F" match means we get each other's idealist temperament .. so we have some incredible intimate conversations on a variety of subjects. We also make each other laugh!

Even though I'm not at all a strong "J", her strong "P" lets me make a lot of decisions, some good practice for me, and she can slide her strong "E" to the right and connect more deeply with me. I'm the stronger thinker, though she too is quite intelligent, so we're typically Mars-Venus on that scale .. and that works.

So far, it's a really great match.

There's a lot to be said for Jung's, Keirsey's et al take on the matter of mating.

 

[Tigger]

I have no problem making decisions and sticking to them.

 

[Fisher]

Being strong "J" in score, do you indeed experience being more comfortable once most things are decided?

I too score in the E/I middle on the Keirsey 5-5 .. 16-4 N over S .. 12-8 F over T .. and 11-9 P over J nearly even.

My girlfriend scores strong ENFP .. and she's loads of fun!

Also, since we're both strong "N"s we speak the same "language" of general concepts over detail minutiae, the foundational criteria for long-term mates, and our "F" match means we get each other's idealist temperament .. so we have some incredible intimate conversations on a variety of subjects. We also make each other laugh!

Even though I'm not at all a strong "J", her strong "P" lets me make a lot of decisions, some good practice for me, and she can slide her strong "E" to the right and connect more deeply with me. I'm the stronger thinker, though she too is quite intelligent, so we're typically Mars-Venus on that scale .. and that works.

So far, it's a really great match.

There's a lot to be said for Jung's, Keirsey's et al take on the matter of mating.

Not exactly. I can decide on things in a very short time frame but not because it makes me feel better. I feel better when things are done which may be my manifestation of the same dynamic. I don't like things to linger. I want them done and put away so I don't have to think about them and can focus on other things. I am pretty good at anticipating things, so often the decision is made ahead of the time for the decision to be made which makes me a tad lot impatient when it comes to professional/work things. In my private life, I could care less about most of the things that people care about like where to eat, what color to paint a wall, etc. I spend very little time thinking about the past as I am more future-oriented.

 

[CanadaJohn]

Good morning, CJ! :2wave:

Words spoken by most men I know! :mrgreen: It's the "shop till you drop" gene that most women are born with. We can't help it!

Good morning Lady P.

It's not so much the "shop til you drop" gene that ticks me off, it's the "shop til you drop and never decide to buy anything" gene that gets me. If I go shopping, I know what I'm in the market for and when I find it, I buy it - I don't look in 50 other stores to see if someone is selling it for $1 less or decide to wait because it may be on sale next week, etc. Ughhhhhhhhhhh.

 

[Ontologuy]

Not exactly. I can decide on things in a very short time frame but not because it makes me feel better. I feel better when things are done which may be my manifestation of the same dynamic. I don't like things to linger. I want them done and put away so I don't have to think about them and can focus on other things. I am pretty good at anticipating things, so often the decision is made ahead of the time for the decision to be made which makes me a tad lot impatient when it comes to professional/work things. In my private life, I could care less about most of the things that people care about like where to eat, what color to paint a wall, etc. I spend very little time thinking about the past as I am more future-oriented.

Yes, that makes sense, all of it .. and I'm similar in my profession, comfortably making decisions all the time, very structured as well .. but when I'm done with work and ready to play, I'm ready to just hang loose and let things happen!

 

[Fisher]

Yes, that makes sense, all of it .. and I'm similar in my profession, comfortably making decisions all the time, very structured as well .. but when I'm done with work and ready to play, I'm ready to just hang loose and let things happen!

I have the hardest time with some of my employees who just cannot make a decision alone, especially when they are new. They act like I am testing them when I say "I don't really care. You decide." The most recent example of this dealt with my business cards. The stock I use is no longer available so I told a lady to just meet with the rep and pick one. As long as it was white and the ink is black, I didn't care anything else about it. It took her like 3 days to decide which paper to order and involved her polling everybody else in the office and then presenting me with the results of her poll and like 30 stock samples for me to decide. I asked her which one she liked, and went with that in like two minutes, reminding her that when I say "I don't care. You decide" I mean "I do not care. You decide." Some people just do not do well without micromanagement. My favorite employee is one who tells me what to do when something needs to be done ASAP and never asks me what she should do because she doesn't need any detailed direction ever which saves me a ton of time.