So you watched the "Karate Kid", eh?Curbing bullying would be a simple matter if schools had proper funding to implement proper changes and parents didnt have such a phobia about violence.
We need to make self-defense training a routine and required part of education, starting as young as possible. I'm a big believer in the positive force martial arts can be for people. Not only will you get kids out and moving around, you help build self-confidence and self-esteem as well as preparing them to defend themselves if necessary. Bullying works because the target doesnt feel they can or should stand up for themselves. A self-confident kid who is willing and able to defend himself is not easy prey for a bully and bullies are like any animal; they go for easy prey.
No, actually I haven't.So you watched the "Karate Kid", eh?
I think you mis-understood what I said. I said that self-confident kids are less likely to be picked on. Poor self-esteem is a target for bullies because a kid with those kind of problems is less likely to stand up for themselves.Bully's tend to pick on the weak or those who are different because it makes them feel or look superior to others. They seldom pick on those who are their percieved equal or better. I wouldn't call that self confidence, I would call that low self esteem.
So the schools with a "zero-tolerance" rule are barking up the wrong tree?
So how are we as a nation going to combat it?
No - but I had eyes in my head. And I didn't watch the evening news then, either.
Good article Is the 'Bullying Epidemic' a Media Myth? - Newsweek
I had 3 classmates commit suicide while I was in high school. :shrug: That was 1980-84. No one blamed bullying, we blamed depression.
I had 3 classmates commit suicide while I was in high school. :shrug: That was 1980-84. No one blamed bullying, we blamed depression.
Depression can be a side effect of it.
When I was in 5th grade, kids tormented me for all sorts of reasons.
I got severe depression.
I went through the school psychologist weekly, tried peer mediation and the only thing that ended it for me (in some aspects) was punching a couple kids in the face.
Some other ass wipes tried to do again, in middle school and I had to fight them to get it to stop too.
So how are we as a nation going to combat it?
Stop raising wusses? :gunsmilie:
bingo, I was the principal's son so any time my dad got in someone's ass, they tried to come take it out on me. I think I was in some kind of altercation almost daily.
I went through the school psychologist weekly, tried peer mediation and the only thing that ended it for me (in some aspects) was punching a couple kids in the face.
So how are we as a nation going to combat it?
I'm 52 and don't watch the evening news. I do remember my own past, though. I do not remember any suicides from bullying. What's up with that.
You teach kids to suck it up, confront bullies, and have a spine.
Bullying is nothing new. The weakness of today's children is the real problem.
So how are we as a nation going to combat it?
One thing I'll say is that bullies operate in the shadows of zero tolerance. My son ended up punching someone in the face this year (the other kid started it). He hasn't been bullied since.
I do believe there are some situations between boys that escalate until the victim has no choice but to fight back and take whatever suspension the school dishes out.
You teach kids to suck it up, confront bullies, and have a spine.
Bullying is nothing new. The weakness of today's children is the real problem.
I think that part of it is that schools (and some parents) tell kids that there is never an okay time to fight. that's b.s.
Kids get the message that fighting is never acceptable. In my book, if someone starts punching you, you are allowed to defend yourself, and as I told my son (who is not very large), if someone starts with him, he has my permission to hit that person as many times as he can (but he has to stop when the person goes down).
Well, what I learned from those experiences was that adults didn't really care, as much as, they say they did.
Once I learned that school and the abuse was "optional" I became very disinterested in following the rules, when breaking them got me out of the place I hated.
It's a catch 22, if you defend yourself, you get in trouble.
If you don't, you still get bullied.
It contradicts the taught philosophy of "follow the rules and you'll be respected."
Depends on the type of bullying, I suppose. Not all bullying is physical. And this "emotional" bullying only works for the bullies if the one being bullied LETS it. The bullies get nothing out of it if the kid being bullied appears to not give a ****.
Kids don't have that directive anymore. Now it's all this "nothing is solved with violence, take the high road, everyone's a winner" bull****. Stop pampering the kids and the kids will toughen up.
Violence has resolved more conflicts than any other factor. The contrary opinion that violence doesn't solve anything is merely wishful thinking at its worst.
As a parent, I just can't wait for that to happen to my little girl. I don't know what to tell her other than to counter it with positive actions at home.Depends on the type of bullying, I suppose. Not all bullying is physical. And this "emotional" bullying only works for the bullies if the one being bullied LETS it. The bullies get nothing out of it if the kid being bullied appears to not give a ****.
As a parent, I just can't wait for that to happen to my little girl. I don't know what to tell her other than to counter it with positive actions at home.
Okay, cool. That's kinda what I'm doing now. I always give her a compliment on the way to and from school, and if she does a good job on her homework I tell her how smart she is, etc. We'll see how this turns out. Fortunately she's still at the age where she will confide in me if anyone at school is giving her ****.Kill them with kindness. Seriously. Tell her not to get upset with the "mean girls", but rather to smile at them with pity. They can only hurt you if you LET them. Foster her self-confidence and she *wont'* let them.
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