Would you forgive your significant other if he/she cheated on you?

DeeJayH · Jun 25, 2009

Reverend_Hellh0und said:
It has never happened to the Good Reverend, and never would. Obviously.....

Pride cometh before a great fall

seriously, hopefully you are one of the lucky ones
I have trust issues, and assume everyone will eventually **** me over, because most everyone I have given trust, has burned it :shrug:
I know another guy who had never had a woman cheat on him. I thought it was a right of passage in youth/early adulthood

Tucker Case · Jun 25, 2009

hiswoman said:
Definitely the feelings become less intense as time passes, though they are replaced with something deeper and more abiding.

Pretty much sums up what I said earlier, just without the gassy dump part.

DeeJayH · Jun 25, 2009

Tucker Case said:
I'd like to add that I would not get angry over it, regardless of the scenario.

I do have a very bad temper, but it really doesn't come out when people do things to me such as this. If I were physically hit, my temper would rise, but emotional hits don't get me angry.

I've got a weird temper though. I've got a long fuse in many ways, and a nearly invisible fuse in others.

its an Irish thing dude :drink :rock
took me until my early 30's to totally reign it in. I do not miss all the fights or holes in the walls
did make me get pretty good at sheetrocking :lol:

repeter · Jun 25, 2009

celticlord said:
You're wrong.

People can and do fall out of love. Sucks massively when it happens, but it does happen. Relationships are complicated that way.

Don't lose any sleep over the not having had a girlfriend bit. You'll get one soon enough, you'll lose one soon after, and in between you'll do a fun bit of growing up.

People should choose better, more often. I was actually over at a friends place, and she showed me this site called fmylife.com. There is some messed up **** people do to one another...

Frankly, I don't want to grow up in that sense. I'd much rather have innocence ( which I don't have) then having to deal with this part of life, because I feel it is all consuming. It takes up to much of people's lives, and I'd much rather focus on working, and studying. Call me a geek

celticlord · Jun 25, 2009

repeter said:
Frankly, I don't want to grow up in that sense. I'd much rather have innocence ( which I don't have) then having to deal with this part of life, because I feel it is all consuming. It takes up to much of people's lives, and I'd much rather focus on working, and studying. Call me a geek

You're a geek.

And you'll grow out of that too!

Tucker Case · Jun 25, 2009

celticlord said:
You're a geek.

And you'll grow out of that too!

I didn't grow out of it.

repeter · Jun 25, 2009

celticlord said:
You're a geek.

And you'll grow out of that too!

I don't really want to grow out of it. I find it very useful, as in girls understand I won't go out with them and they ( if "they" exist) don't ask me out. It allows me to concentrate on working and studying.

celticlord · Jun 25, 2009

Tucker Case said:
I didn't grow out of it.

This explains the post with the gassy dump.

Tucker Case · Jun 25, 2009

celticlord said:
This explains the post with the gassy dump.

Nah, that one is explained by my love of scatology.

Goshin · Jun 25, 2009

From my perspective, if you're married and have exchanged vows with an expectation of exclusivity, then any sort of sexual or romantic affair with another person violates those vows, breaks that covenant, and will probably end the marriage.

So, if by "forgive" you mean will I keep her, the answer is no.

If by "forgive", you mean will I eventually get over the pain, no longer despise her or loathe the very sight of her, or wish her ill, yes.

Unfortunately I have experience with this one.

G.

repeter · Jun 25, 2009

Goshin said:
From my perspective, if you're married and have exchanged vows with an expectation of exclusivity, then any sort of sexual or romantic affair with another person violates those vows, breaks that covenant, and will probably end the marriage.

So, if by "forgive" you mean will I keep her, the answer is no.

If by "forgive", you mean will I eventually get over the pain, no longer despise her or loathe the very sight of her, or wish her ill, yes.

Unfortunately I have experience with this one.

G.

Finding out for yourself is always the worst....

jallman · Jun 26, 2009

aps said:
The question is: Would you forgive your significant other if he/she cheated on you?

For me, it would depend. If I had been rejecting my husband emotionally and/or physically, I could see myself forgiving him. It would also depend on the extent to which he was unfaithful. Did he just kiss this other person? Or did he go all the way without a condom--putting me at risk? If he put me at risk, it wouldn't matter if I had emotionally or physically ignored him. I couldn't forgive his putting me at risk. Although I'm not sure I could forgive him if he had sex or oral sex with another woman. The thought of that repulses me, and I'm not sure I could ever get that image out of my head.

Sex is just sex to me. I don't really care what Joshua does when I'm not around and I doubt he really cares what I do either. It's just sex. As long as my laundry is washed, folded, and put away and the loft stays clean, and my dry cleaning is picked up, I don't really have much other input into what he does while I am at work or we are apart.

However, if I find out that his little toy on the side got a better birthday or christmas present than I got...well, then it's on.

repeter · Jun 26, 2009

jallman said:
Sex is just sex to me. I don't really care what Joshua does when I'm not around and I doubt he really cares what I do either. It's just sex. As long as my laundry is washed, folded, and put away and the loft stays clean, and my dry cleaning is picked up, I don't really have much other input into what he does while I am at work or we are apart.

However, if I find out that his little toy on the side got a better birthday or christmas present than I got...well, then it's on.

Your profile says male....and Joshua is a guy right? So you're....

ARealConservative · Jun 26, 2009

repeter said:
Your profile says male....and Joshua is a guy right? So you're....

"queer as blazes"? :mrgreen:

kaya'08 · Jun 26, 2009

jallman said:
Sex is just sex to me. I don't really care what Joshua does when I'm not around and I doubt he really cares what I do either. It's just sex. As long as my laundry is washed, folded, and put away and the loft stays clean, and my dry cleaning is picked up, I don't really have much other input into what he does while I am at work or we are apart.

However, if I find out that his little toy on the side got a better birthday or christmas present than I got...well, then it's on.

What?? You honestly dont mind if your boyfriend was having sex with some other guy? How about if you caught him? Dont you at least expect him to be faithful to you, and be yours only? When i love someone, i want them all to myself and expect them to be faithful to me as would i. I know its just sex but it means alot and i would be heartbroken if someone i loved had sex with someone else.

Your profile says male....and Joshua is a guy right? So you're....

Gay, is that shocking?

Jerry · Jun 26, 2009

aps said:
The question is: Would you forgive your significant other if he/she cheated on you?

For me, it would depend. If I had been rejecting my husband emotionally and/or physically, I could see myself forgiving him. It would also depend on the extent to which he was unfaithful. Did he just kiss this other person? Or did he go all the way without a condom--putting me at risk? If he put me at risk, it wouldn't matter if I had emotionally or physically ignored him. I couldn't forgive his putting me at risk. Although I'm not sure I could forgive him if he had sex or oral sex with another woman. The thought of that repulses me, and I'm not sure I could ever get that image out of my head.

In my case, I don't know if the term "forgive" is accurate...but I could 'live with it' for the sake of my children.

ARealConservative · Jun 26, 2009

jallman said:
Sex is just sex to me. I don't really care what Joshua does when I'm not around and I doubt he really cares what I do either. It's just sex. As long as my laundry is washed, folded, and put away and the loft stays clean, and my dry cleaning is picked up, I don't really have much other input into what he does while I am at work or we are apart.

However, if I find out that his little toy on the side got a better birthday or christmas present than I got...well, then it's on.

An open relationship also means protection....making sex less enjoyable IMO.

DeeJayH · Jun 26, 2009

repeter said:
Your profile says male....and Joshua is a guy right? So you're....

you dont miss much do you? LOL

kaya'08 · Jun 26, 2009

Jerry said:
In my case, I don't know if the term "forgive" is accurate...but I could 'live with it' for the sake of my children.

You have children? Poor things. :lol:

Jerry · Jun 26, 2009

kaya'08 said:
You have children? Poor things. :lol:

rof This isn't a topic I'm going to find much humor in.

jallman · Jun 26, 2009

repeter said:
Your profile says male....and Joshua is a guy right? So you're....

Just a little harder now and you'll get there. Come on, you can say it...

Tucker Case · Jun 26, 2009

kaya'08 said:
You have children? Poor things. :lol:

That one crosses the line, Kaya.

jallman · Jun 26, 2009

ARealConservative said:
An open relationship also means protection....making sex less enjoyable IMO.

I think condoms are hot. Always have. :shrug:

Jerry · Jun 26, 2009

jallman said:
Just a little harder now and you'll get there. Come on, you can say it...

Harder...HARDER!!!!

Tucker Case · Jun 26, 2009

jallman said:
Just a little harder now and you'll get there.

Even if the pun wasn't intended, that's still funny as hell.

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