Why women fail in relationships.

[Vallista]

Why women fail in relationships. It really comes down to two things. First one, picking the bad boy. Yes, someone has to finally say it. We hear all the time about why they pick the bad boys. I can't understand why any woman that looking for a partner would pick the bad boy. In relationships, the bad boy is by far the worst person any woman could pick. Bad boys in general don't want kids, always looking at other women, rude, reckless, emotional unstable and irresponsible. I might be a little harsh, however, I'm not that off. Lets take for example how bad boys view of sex, bad boys don't view of sex as apart of the process to building a relationship. How could they? In fact, I'm in the camp of most men don't view sex as a building block towards a relationship. Women get this wrong all the time. They think because a man sleeps with them, that is means well he must want an relationship. As a man I'll tell you this, men always want to have sex. They will do almost anything to get sex. Put it this way, if a man was truly interested in getting to know you, he would have no interest in sex on the first date if it was offered. One of many mistakes women make. But most women get caught up in the Hollywood Brad Pitt sex fantasy. We all have seen this story before when a woman is in a nice relationship, but then puts all at risk to sleep with bad boy that is dark and has raw emotions. How does this story always end up? The guy was doing all of the right things is viewed as bad person because he not willing to be irresponsible, reckless, or willing to treat women like ****. While our bad boy is praised and rewarded for be reckless, rude, emotionally unstable and etc. If this is not true please correct me?

If anyone has ever read the book by Steve Harvey "How to think like a man but act like a lady", while this books gets it wrong in many ways, it does have some good points. Steve made a point of a 90 day rule before sex. While I kind of agree with the rule for women, most women pass the age of 22 hardly wait that long to have sex. They'll jump in the sack within 3 weeks of meeting someone new. In some cases, women find it ok to get pregnant before getting a marriage proposal. That I can't even begin to understand.

The second thing, women fail to be sound of mind when listening to their friends with it comes to relationships. I find it laughable with women let their girlfriends, family members and even ex partner have a say in who they pick as a partner. News flash, those people are the worst people to get advice from when it comes to relationships. Since they don't take up to 90% of their own advice. It down right laughable in most cases.

I could point out more flaws however this will do for now.

 

[lizzie]

Why women fail in relationships. It really comes down to two things. First one, picking the bad boy. Yes, someone has to finally say it. We hear all the time about why they pick the bad boys. I can't understand why any woman that looking for a partner would pick the bad boy. In relationships, the bad boy is by far the worst person any woman could pick. Bad boys in general don't want kids, always looking at other women, rude, reckless, emotional unstable and irresponsible. I might be a little harsh, however, I'm not that off.

I suspect that the reason many women seem to pick the bad boy is somehow tied in with maternal and nurturing instinct. Iow, pick the guy who needs the most help, and you can get some of your emotional nurturing needs met. I don't believe this is an any way a conscious decision, but I do think it's likely to be what's at play.

 

[Vallista]

I suspect that the reason many women seem to pick the bad boy is somehow tied in with maternal and nurturing instinct. Iow, pick the guy who needs the most help, and you can get some of your emotional nurturing needs met. I don't believe this is an any way a conscious decision, but I do think it's likely to be what's at play.

I trend to disagree. Everybody in this green earth make conscious decisions. For example, when you place your hand on a hot stove, what happen? You get burned and you retrain yourself not to do that again or lower the heat, so next time around you won't get hurt or mininize the damage. The same is true in relationships, if a woman dated a guy that didn't have a job, in her next relationship would pick a partner who did have a job or brought in some type of income.

 

[MaggieD]

Why women fail in relationships. It really comes down to two things. First one, picking the bad boy. Yes, someone has to finally say it. We hear all the time about why they pick the bad boys. I can't understand why any woman that looking for a partner would pick the bad boy. In relationships, the bad boy is by far the worst person any woman could pick. Bad boys in general don't want kids, always looking at other women, rude, reckless, emotional unstable and irresponsible. I might be a little harsh, however, I'm not that off. Lets take for example how bad boys view of sex, bad boys don't view of sex as apart of the process to building a relationship. How could they? In fact, I'm in the camp of most men don't view sex as a building block towards a relationship. Women get this wrong all the time. They think because a man sleeps with them, that is means well he must want an relationship. As a man I'll tell you this, men always want to have sex. They will do almost anything to get sex. Put it this way, if a man was truly interested in getting to know you, he would have no interest in sex on the first date if it was offered. One of many mistakes women make. But most women get caught up in the Hollywood Brad Pitt sex fantasy. We all have seen this story before when a woman is in a nice relationship, but then puts all at risk to sleep with bad boy that is dark and has raw emotions. How does this story always end up? The guy was doing all of the right things is viewed as bad person because he not willing to be irresponsible, reckless, or willing to treat women like ****. While our bad boy is praised and rewarded for be reckless, rude, emotionally unstable and etc. If this is not true please correct me?

If anyone has ever read the book by Steve Harvey "How to think like a man but act like a lady", while this books gets it wrong in many ways, it does have some good points. Steve made a point of a 90 day rule before sex. While I kind of agree with the rule for women, most women pass the age of 22 hardly wait that long to have sex. They'll jump in the sack within 3 weeks of meeting someone new. In some cases, women find it ok to get pregnant before getting a marriage proposal. That I can't even begin to understand.

The second thing, women fail to be sound of mind when listening to their friends with it comes to relationships. I find it laughable with women let their girlfriends, family members and even ex partner have a say in who they pick as a partner. News flash, those people are the worst people to get advice from when it comes to relationships. Since they don't take up to 90% of their own advice. It down right laughable in most cases.

I could point out more flaws however this will do for now.

Gals sleep with their guys too soon. If a woman wants a man to fall in love with her? She probably shouldn't be sleeping with him on the first date. Or the third.

 

[StillBallin75]

Women get this wrong all the time. They think because a man sleeps with them, that is means well he must want an relationship.

According to whom??

 

[Vallista]

If a woman wants a man to fall in love with her? She probably shouldn't be sleeping with him on the first date. Or the third.

I disagree with that. Women will jump into bed with any guy that shows bad boy traits. But it this way, its takes a nice guy 3 times as many dates to sleep with a girl than bad boy.

 

[MaggieD]

I disagree with that. Women will jump into bed with any guy that shows bad boy traits. But it this way, its takes a nice guy 3 times as many dates to sleep with a girl than bad boy.

You're hanging with the wrong crowd.

 

[Vallista]

According to whom??

According men. Most, almost all men don't consider sleeping with a woman a relationship builder. There is more to it than that. We all know it.

 

[lizzie]

I trend to disagree. Everybody in this green earth make conscious decisions. For example, when you place your hand on a hot stove, what happen? You get burned and you retrain yourself not to do that again or lower the heat, so next time around you won't get hurt or mininize the damage. The same is true in relationships, if a woman dated a guy that didn't have a job, in her next relationship would pick a partner who did have a job or brought in some type of income.

They make conscious decisions, but there are subconscious factors and needs which influence those decisions.

 

[StillBallin75]

According men. Most, almost all men don't consider sleeping with a woman a relationship builder. There is more to it than that. We all know it.

Okay, assuming you're correct, what makes you think most women aren't aware of this as well? Most of my female friends realize that most guys are just horny :shrug:

 

[MaggieD]

If a woman dated a guy that didn't have a job, in her next relationship would pick a partner who did have a job or brought in some type of income.

Would that that was true. Women have such a strong nesting instinct, they often settle. We see them all the time. They're called divorcees.

 

[SheWolf]

Why women fail in relationships. It really comes down to two things. First one, picking the bad boy. Yes, someone has to finally say it. We hear all the time about why they pick the bad boys. I can't understand why any woman that looking for a partner would pick the bad boy. In relationships, the bad boy is by far the worst person any woman could pick. Bad boys in general don't want kids, always looking at other women, rude, reckless, emotional unstable and irresponsible. I might be a little harsh, however, I'm not that off. Lets take for example how bad boys view of sex, bad boys don't view of sex as apart of the process to building a relationship. How could they? In fact, I'm in the camp of most men don't view sex as a building block towards a relationship. Women get this wrong all the time. They think because a man sleeps with them, that is means well he must want an relationship. As a man I'll tell you this, men always want to have sex. They will do almost anything to get sex. Put it this way, if a man was truly interested in getting to know you, he would have no interest in sex on the first date if it was offered. One of many mistakes women make. But most women get caught up in the Hollywood Brad Pitt sex fantasy. We all have seen this story before when a woman is in a nice relationship, but then puts all at risk to sleep with bad boy that is dark and has raw emotions. How does this story always end up? The guy was doing all of the right things is viewed as bad person because he not willing to be irresponsible, reckless, or willing to treat women like ****. While our bad boy is praised and rewarded for be reckless, rude, emotionally unstable and etc. If this is not true please correct me?

If anyone has ever read the book by Steve Harvey "How to think like a man but act like a lady", while this books gets it wrong in many ways, it does have some good points. Steve made a point of a 90 day rule before sex. While I kind of agree with the rule for women, most women pass the age of 22 hardly wait that long to have sex. They'll jump in the sack within 3 weeks of meeting someone new. In some cases, women find it ok to get pregnant before getting a marriage proposal. That I can't even begin to understand.

The second thing, women fail to be sound of mind when listening to their friends with it comes to relationships. I find it laughable with women let their girlfriends, family members and even ex partner have a say in who they pick as a partner. News flash, those people are the worst people to get advice from when it comes to relationships. Since they don't take up to 90% of their own advice. It down right laughable in most cases.

I could point out more flaws however this will do for now.

Why are men "bad" if they don't want children? I don't feel that I want children at this time, so I am not dating my boyfriend because I want babies with him.... does that make me bad???

 

[Vallista]

You're hanging with the wrong crowd.

really? ask any nice guy. How hard it is.

 

[Your Star]

really? ask any nice guy. How hard it is.

If you really are a nice guy, then having 3 dates with someone before you have sex wouldn't be that bad, because you wouldn't only want to be with the girl for her body, but for her, and those 3 dates should fly by because you enjoy being in her company.

If that isn't true then you should just buy a fleshlight, because it's probably cheaper and at least you wouldn't be wasting some poor girls time.

 

[Vallista]

Why are men "bad" if they don't want children? I don't feel that I want children at this time, so I am not dating my boyfriend because I want babies with him.... does that make me bad???

I should of cleared this up. What I meant is woman will jump head over heels over a bad boy, they assume these guys agreed to be in a relationship just because they slept with them. Bad Boys have opinions, their not looking to have children with most women the sleep with. I'll take it further and say they have several women that they are sleeping at one time. Just look at the sport athletes, they are the definition of bad boys.

 

[Vallista]

If you really are a nice guy, then having 3 dates with someone before you have sex wouldn't be that bad,

The problem with this logic, women don't give the nice guy the same features the bad boys had. Why can't the nice guy have sex on the first date like the bad boy had? Why should he have to wait? That is my point.

 

[Connery]

I should of cleared this up. What I meant is woman will jump head over heels over a bad boy, they assume these guys agreed to be in a relationship just because they slept with them. Bad Boys have opinions, their not looking to have children with most women the sleep with. I'll take it further and say they have several women that they are sleeping at one time. Just look at the sport athletes, they are the definition of bad boys.

I am a nice guy, never had a problem with being desired in a sexual way and I have done my share in screwing up perfectly good healthy relationships. I have wanted children since I am 14 years old. I was a football player and a musician. Fills in your categories I would think.

People are people, everyone makes mistakes the trick is how to overcome the damage caused by the mistakes.

 

[MaggieD]

I should of cleared this up. What I meant is woman will jump head over heels over a bad boy, they assume these guys agreed to be in a relationship just because they slept with them. Bad Boys have opinions, their not looking to have children with most women the sleep with. I'll take it further and say they have several women that they are sleeping at one time. Just look at the sport athletes, they are the definition of bad boys.

You have a very immature outlook about relationships. And so would anyone who behaved in the manner you're suggesting.

I'm betting you're 14 years old.

 

[Mya]

I'm betting you're 14 years old.

:mrgreen::mrgreen::mrgreen: yep, no more heheheheheh :thumbdown

 

[Your Star]

The problem with this logic, women don't give the nice guy the same features the bad boys had. Why can't the nice guy have sex on the first date like the bad boy had? Why should he have to wait? That is my point.

The fact that you lump in all women like there's some sort of automated protocol and act a certain way towards certain groups of people means you haven't the slightest idea of what you are talking about. Women are people, just like men, and have differing personalities and act differently from individual to individual. Perhaps if you think like this you'll have less trouble getting laid.

I swear, the best part about being gay is that people your dating don't have these messed up assumptions about you just because of your gender.

 

[Connery]

I'll take it further and say they have several women that they are sleeping at one time.

Therein lies the problem with your theory, if the several women are sleeping these "bad boys" must be pretty boring.

 

[SheWolf]

really? ask any nice guy. How hard it is.

Honestly, I am a little weary of males that consider themselves "nice guys" and therefore less likely to get the women they think they should deserve. I once dated a guy that used to that line too, and turned out to be passive aggressive and very manipulative. He also told me that one day, I would realize how great of a guy he was. Yeah, right. I still think he is manipulative, passive aggressive asshole the day I told him to get lost.

 

[ChrisL]

really? ask any nice guy. How hard it is.

Maybe you're just not as nice as you think you are.

 

[SheWolf]

I should of cleared this up. What I meant is woman will jump head over heels over a bad boy, they assume these guys agreed to be in a relationship just because they slept with them. Bad Boys have opinions, their not looking to have children with most women the sleep with. I'll take it further and say they have several women that they are sleeping at one time. Just look at the sport athletes, they are the definition of bad boys.

I still don't see how wanting children is going to make somebody a nice guy or a bad guy. I think assholes can want kids, and nice cannot want kids. An asshole will want a wife to take care of his babies, and be his arm candy... but he'll still go behind her back and sleep with other women all the time.

 

[ChrisL]

Most of the time BAD BOY is just an act.