At 24 you shouldn't even be worried about meeting that someone. You should be having tons of fun and meeting lots of people. I wouldn't even begin to worry about settling down until 30 if I had it to do over again.
Kali said:Got a girlfriend yet?
I am 24.
Got a girlfriend yet?
Grey, when I was 27, I had just ended a relationship that wasn't very healthy. I decided that for 2 years I was just going to have an absolute blast dating, and I wasn't going to get serious with anyone for at least those 2 years. Within a month of making that decision, I met my husband. Only I didn't even think about him that way. I knew he was special, but he was just another guy I was dating. If he called too late in the week, I was already taken for Saturday night. It didn't matter to me because I was having the time of my life. There was no pressure. During those 2 years, it became more and more obvious that this one guy was head and shoulders above everyone else. I really do believe if either one of us had been looking for something serious, the other one would have run. However, the way we both went into it was so casual that we had a chance to fall in love naturally and slowly. It was nice because by the time I really loved him, I knew exactly who he was, and I knew he wasn't a jerk.
See that is a nice story. Me I do not have stories like that. I am a very introverted guy. Extremely shy and withdrawn I was put on medications by my parents during highschool for depression. And the pills did not work but ended up ruining my mental health so my parents and I decided to quit that. Throughout my life I have wanted to be loved and love in return. I try to live my life but it is not easy when you only have yourself in it. And I mean it is really only yourself. I do not make friends easily and I have not had a single friend since middle school.Grey, when I was 27, I had just ended a relationship that wasn't very healthy. I decided that for 2 years I was just going to have an absolute blast dating, and I wasn't going to get serious with anyone for at least those 2 years. Within a month of making that decision, I met my husband. Only I didn't even think about him that way. I knew he was special, but he was just another guy I was dating. If he called too late in the week, I was already taken for Saturday night. It didn't matter to me because I was having the time of my life. There was no pressure. During those 2 years, it became more and more obvious that this one guy was head and shoulders above everyone else. I really do believe if either one of us had been looking for something serious, the other one would have run. However, the way we both went into it was so casual that we had a chance to fall in love naturally and slowly. It was nice because by the time I really loved him, I knew exactly who he was, and I knew he wasn't a jerk.
You have had much sex though. It is hard when the only time you have had sex has been with prostitutes or women just being nice. I dated this really hot chick who I knew had a serious bf before me. Ended up being that she had never broken up with that bf.Exactly. I just think too many people are looking SOOO hard that every person they meet, they're immediately sizing them up as a lifetime partner. Looking for plusses and minuses, etc. Instead of just sizing them up as a companion for tonight. Or tomorrow. Or this weekend. Or the weekend after next. They put so much damn pressure on themselves AND every person they meet that, IMO, it just sets them up for disappointment or disaster. They scare the other person away, or disregard them because they don't meet some model of perfection they've established in their heads. Folks just need to relax, take a chill pill. Deal with TODAY, deal with right now. Have fun NOW. Tomorrow will come later.
And hell, even if you don't think that cute girl or guy is "the one", there's nothing wrong with enjoying the weekend with them and then remaining friends. Maybe his/her roomate is "the one". Their sibling. Their friend. A friend of a friend. People lose the value of networking when all they see in people is the possibility (or impossibility) of them being their lifelong partner.
See that is a nice story. Me I do not have stories like that. I am a very introverted guy. Extremely shy and withdrawn I was put on medications by my parents during highschool for depression. And the pills did not work but ended up ruining my mental health so my parents and I decided to quit that. Throughout my life I have wanted to be loved and love in return. I try to live my life but it is not easy when you only have yourself in it. And I mean it is really only yourself. I do not make friends easily and I have not had a single friend since middle school.
I do not wallow or anything, I just do not get myself fully. I have not been able to find anyone who I can spend my time with. I do not really want male friends because they come and go but I do want a serious gf. Not like what I have had before. I do not know you know the only women I have been able to talk with are women who are older than me but are single mothers. And really I know that these women would have hated to talk with a guy like me when they were my age and younger. And chances are they hate me but no guy wants them because they are single mothers. idk.
I try to live my life but it is not easy when you only have yourself in it. And I mean it is really only yourself. I do not make friends easily and I have not had a single friend since middle school.
...I do want a serious gf. Not like what I have had before.
Throughout my life I have wanted to be loved and love in return. I try to live my life but it is not easy when you only have yourself in it. And I mean it is really only yourself.
I got a cat after my divorce. There were a lot of nights during the "long dark teatime of the soul" that the cat kept me from going over the brink. She was warm, friendly, funny, and she wanted my attention.
I got a cat after my divorce. There were a lot of nights during the "long dark teatime of the soul" that the cat kept me from going over the brink. She was warm, friendly, funny, and she wanted my attention.
I got a cat after my divorce. There were a lot of nights during the "long dark teatime of the soul" that the cat kept me from going over the brink. She was warm, friendly, funny, and she wanted my attention.
And sometimes they look at you like they honest-to-God know what you're going through.
Mine looks at me like I'm an illiterate dunce who can't speak meowish.
"Oh, my god, how many times do I have to tell you..."
I have no problem with women if that is what you are getting at. Anyone I meet has to qualify themselves to me before I accept them into my life. I don't see what is wrong with that; it's my life, after all. In fact that is how everyone should live their lives.
I'm not going to go jumping through hoops just to win some girl's number.
In a world of abundance there is choice.
Really, we should all have his attitude. It's a sort of knowledge of your own worth, and what you deserve.
Hi(most of you do not know me)
But I have a question. I have given up on love and I was just wondering if it were the best thing to do. I don't have too many friends and my siblings are all grown up. So we do not have much of a relationship. I rarely go out because what is the point? Anyways, I have been looking for work and am doing hobbies(videogames, not much of a hobby i know) and my success with women is low.
Its like this, the women I am interested in are almost always taken. And I do not mean they are just good looking because I am interested in girls that vary on the looks scale. But basically the women have to be the ones who show interests in me and real interests. Because all the women who I am talking about when I ask what their relationship status is they all tell me they are either married or in a relationship. I like to act like I am all happy and **** but I am not. I am in misery because there goes one more girl who I can never be with aside from a friendship.
This is probably the worse forum to ask for advice because the majority of you are married or old or in relationships. But any clues as to what I should do about relationships with the opposite sex? And no hookers/strippers, i want a serious relationship.
It is a hassle to go out and be around other people. Many people are pissy and the easiest thing will set them out and they will chew you out, etc. OR if they see you in and you are being bullied they come and participate. Basically many people do not like to be emotionally abused with but when it comes down to it. They willl be the ones who abuse you emotionally. Its ok though because they are human after all. I just wished people would stop and think what they are saying or doing. No one on this planet is great.When it becomes more of a hassle than anything.
Am I cynical? You bet your rear I am.
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