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I have found sometimes when you stop trying and looking? That is when it will happen. It is strange how we meet people when we least expect it.
Also are you limiting yourself too much? Do you have some long ass list that a girl must meet? Too picky? I am not saying lower your standards but sometimes peeps tend to set themselves up for failure in expecting way too much.
No, honestly my list is pretty short. It consists of having a good heart and being nice and smart and not too old or young. I won't date anyone older than 5 years and anyone younger than 5 years too. But that saying is part of the problem too. I stopped trying and have almost been not expecting to meet anyone and yet it does not happen. So?
I am 24.
No, honestly my list is pretty short. It consists of having a good heart and being nice and smart and not too old or young. I won't date anyone older than 5 years and anyone younger than 5 years too. But that saying is part of the problem too. I stopped trying and have almost been not expecting to meet anyone and yet it does not happen. So?
I am 24.
No, honestly my list is pretty short. It consists of having a good heart and being nice and smart and not too old or young. I won't date anyone older than 5 years and anyone younger than 5 years too. But that saying is part of the problem too. I stopped trying and have almost been not expecting to meet anyone and yet it does not happen. So?
I am 24.
No, honestly my list is pretty short. It consists of having a good heart and being nice and smart and not too old or young. I won't date anyone older than 5 years and anyone younger than 5 years too. But that saying is part of the problem too. I stopped trying and have almost been not expecting to meet anyone and yet it does not happen. So?
I am 24.
I do not know about that. I am kind of hesitate. Why? Well if were to date a 30 or above year old female she might have a job and be wondering why I do not. And she might be messed up and upset with men. Or else why hasn't she? Then there are the women younger than me. I am 24 and if we minus 5 that leaves 18. Barely the legal age and if I were to go any younger I would get into serious trouble so 18 to me has that feel that it is sort of rape.Just keep in mind that age is just a number.That 5 year thing? You are missing out on people that could really be cool.
I do not know about that. I am kind of hesitate. Why? Well if were to date a 30 or above year old female she might have a job and be wondering why I do not. And she might be messed up and upset with men. Or else why hasn't she? Then there are the women younger than me. I am 24 and if we minus 5 that leaves 18. Barely the legal age and if I were to go any younger I would get into serious trouble so 18 to me has that feel that it is sort of rape.
I do not know about that. I am kind of hesitate. Why? Well if were to date a 30 or above year old female she might have a job and be wondering why I do not. And she might be messed up and upset with men. Or else why hasn't she? Then there are the women younger than me. I am 24 and if we minus 5 that leaves 18. Barely the legal age and if I were to go any younger I would get into serious trouble so 18 to me has that feel that it is sort of rape.
Why else hasn't she what?
well, why don't you have a job? are you still in school?
Gotten married or have at least a steady boyfriend at least. Good men are not hard to find if you look for them in the right places and this does mean you should be going to church.
Ok first thing first. I did not list the reasons because there are so many things that could be said. And I do agree with you. Maybe I am not ready for a relationship. I always appreciate your input.LMFAO
Maybe she's like me and sees no need to get married, has had a stream of steady boyfriends, but just found "the one". And is an atheist. (Trust me, my "good man" isn't in a ****ing church, that's for damn sure) Or is divorced. Who knows?
To assume that anyone over 30 and single is defective in some way is pretty retarded. Seems like you really focus on negatives and just LOOK for something wrong.
When I see a man or woman that I find attractive and I find out they're single, I don't immediately think "I wonder WHY they're single? WTF is wrong with them?" I think, "Hot damn! They're available!"
Seems as though you're just looking for reasons to say someone isn't good enough, which leads me to think perhaps you're not ready for a relationship yet.
Gotten married or have at least a steady boyfriend at least. Good men are not hard to find if you look for them in the right places and this does mean you should be going to church.
You don't need a girlfriend/boyfriend to be happy. Learn to be happy with what you do have. Invest relationally in friendships, and the right woman will come along one day. Be patient for her, and enjoy other relationships you have/can develop.
Don't look. Just live your life. Don't be cynical about it (i.e., nobody loves me, everybody hates me, I think I'll eat some worms). Just live your life. Don't NEED someone else in it. Find happiness and contentment alone. Looking too hard just makes one come off as desperate.
However, don't cut yourself off from opportunities to meet people. Take a class - whatever you're interested in. Something athletic? Cooking? Wine? Literature? Computer stuff? History? Look around your community at churches, colleges, gyms, bookstores, restaurants, etc and see if there's anything at all that interests you. Maybe something that you know nothing about that you've always wanted to learn more about. Take your lunches at local cafes, reading a book or something. Go hiking on local trails. Just do *something* that gets you out of your normal daily routine of work/home. Or school/home. Something that gets you somewhere that you will have an opportunity to meet new people.
Another option, do a speed dating thing once in awhile. Or some social night at a local club once in awhile.
Women are not something that you are supposed to devote your life to. Follow others' advice and learn to live life on your own and be content in yourself. Once you're content in yourself you will realize that you are the prize and that they have to be worthy enough to allow them into your life.
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