What do you think about apologies or saying "sorry?"
What do you think about apologies or saying "sorry?"
Now, consider that the apologies I'm talking about are not necessarily from senators or presidents or leaders, but from you and me too. Are apologies things that help with growth and strengthening your confidence/dignity? Or are they last resorts that show weakness and instability in your self-esteem? Or something else?
I knew a lot of kids my age back in high school who thought saying "sorry" was a weak move by anyone. And I still know many adults who think the same way. You always "gotta be a man" or "be strong" and "fight back" or some useless bull like that.
Is that the case in politics? When political leaders apologize for a mistake is it a sign of weakness or a sign of strength?
lots of people are sorry... sorry they got caught
Apologies are a sign of strength--no question about that.
I have had to work on learning to apologize. My mother, for the most part, was a very loving mother. However, if I upset her and apologized, she would say, "You're not sorry." In other words, she would reject my apology. The constant rejection of my apologies slowly caused me to develop a difficulty with apologizing. Sigh.
That is one thing I will NEVER do to another person.
Were you actually sorry for what you did and remorseful when you apologized to your mother or did you apologize because you do not want your mother to apologize.
So you would take a "I'm only sorry because I was caught so please take mercy on me" apology or a" I'm only sorry because I did something to piss you off and I do not want you mad at me anymore" apology?
One of the things wrong with society is we teach children to apologize for things they are not sorry for with the idea that someone saying I'm sorry makes things better. Thats why we have pedophile scum who murdered and raped children offering bogus apologies at a trial to the loved ones of that child he raped and killed and preachers offering bogus apologies when they get caught doing something they shouldn't.
I'm confused by the second option? I apologized to my mother because I didn't want her to have to apologize to me?
Anyway, I was probably sincere initially when I apologized. I stopped showing sincerity when my apologies were consistently rejected and not intentionally (i.e., I wasn't intentionally not showing sincerity--it was a defense mechanism). That likely only added fuel to the fire.
My mother believed (and I think she still does to some extent) that a parent should never have to apologize to their child. Give me a break.
My point on that was made based upon an apology that was sincere.
What do you think about apologies or saying "sorry?"
Now, consider that the apologies I'm talking about are not necessarily from senators or presidents or leaders, but from you and me too. Are apologies things that help with growth and strengthening your confidence/dignity? Or are they last resorts that show weakness and instability in your self-esteem? Or something else?
I knew a lot of kids my age back in high school who thought saying "sorry" was a weak move by anyone. And I still know many adults who think the same way. You always "gotta be a man" or "be strong" and "fight back" or some useless bull like that.
Is that the case in politics? When political leaders apologize for a mistake is it a sign of weakness or a sign of strength?
I changed it, it should read-
"Were you actually sorry for what you did and remorseful when you apologized to your mother or did you apologize because you do not want your mother to be mad at you?"
Your mother probably saw your apologies the same way mother saw my apologies when I used to get in trouble in school for fighting or something else followed by the usual "I promise I won't do it again, I swear I won't get into any more fights". When you constantly do the same thing and apologize for it it, that apology looks fake.
If its for disciplining a child then you shouldn't. That reinforces the idea in the child's head that the parent is wrong for punishing the child and therefore renders the parent's discipline useless since it will only be seen in the eyes of a child as the parent just being mean or just being angry.
When your apologies were actually sincere as you claim, where they because you were sincerely remorseful for your actions towards your mother or were you just sincerely trying to just make her feel better or make peace?
Does it really matter?
I really can't see how apologizing can be anything even near to 'showing strength'.
Yes one is genuine and the other is fake. The general basic definition of apology is a written or verbal expression of remorse or sorrow for having wronged another. Simply apologizing to make someone feel better or to get on their good side is not a genuine apology. Apologizing because you actually feel genuine regret(not regretting the consequences,for example a someone in prison,someone who doesn't want their loved one to be pissed at them and etc) for your actions that have wrong another is what apology is supposed to be.
I think it would depend on the facts. Say I see a picture of Michelle Obama and I say, "I hate her dress." Jane Doe, a friend of mine, owns that dress and gets offended. Clearly, my words were not meant to insult her, but she feels insulted. Do I regret I said that? NO. I think her dress is ugly. Do I regret that Jane was insulted by it? Sure. In that circumstance, I would apologize so that she wouldn't be mad at me. I don't think that apology is fake.
If the apology is for saying you think Mrs Obama's dress sucks then it is still bogus because you do not feel remorse or regret for saying what you said.
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