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Poll for straights

Would you have a same sex relationship? (see OP)

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Question for heterosexuals-

If you were single and met someone of your own sex, who has all the qualities of someone you are looking for as a partner, and they confesed they were gay and wanted you to start a relationship with them, would you?
 
Yes, I think I would. If she was someone who I really felt a connection with and really liked, I would start a relationship and see where it would go from there.
 
I don't think I could
 
americanwoman said:
Question for heterosexuals-

If you were single and met someone of your own sex, who has all the qualities of someone you are looking for as a partner, and they confesed they were gay and wanted you to start a relationship with them, would you?
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While I consider myself bisexual, I unquestionably lean hetero, so I am answering the poll.

The answer is no. I can't even explain why. I just know I would not do it.
 
americanwoman said:
Question for heterosexuals-

If you were single and met someone of your own sex, who has all the qualities of someone you are looking for as a partner, and they confesed they were gay and wanted you to start a relationship with them, would you?
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Not sure that a man can have a vagina... or my children...

Honestly I'm just not attracted to men, so a man could not possibly have "all the qualities." If you're talking about any qualities other than sexual attraction, why not just have a friendship?

I couldn't date a girl I didn't find attractive either, nor would I see the point. No one should ever have sex with someone they don't want to, and a sexless but otherwise close relationship is a friendship IMO.
 
You need to be a woman to have children.

no.
 
I always describe myself as "straight... at the moment".

I have no aversion to gay people or homosexuality in general. But I have no particular interest in a gay relationship at this time. Things could change, perhaps, but they haven't yet.

It should be noted, however, that the primary criteria in a relationship, for me, isn't sex. It's important for me to have a sexual relationship, but that doesn't have to be my primary relationship either. So it would be entirely possible for me to have very important relationships based on other, non-sexual, needs, while simultaneously having a rather unimportant relationship which is based on sexual needs. In fact, I've had that very thing - I've had male "best friends" who fulfilled many of my intellectual and emotional needs (and it would not be incorrect to say that I loved them - I tend to love everyone in their own way) while I've had a very superficial (non-love) sexual relationship with a woman who met none of my intellectual or emotional needs.

At the moment, however, I happen to be happily married to a woman who happens to be also my best friend.
 
americanwoman said:
Question for heterosexuals-

If you were single and met someone of your own sex, who has all the qualities of someone you are looking for as a partner, and they confesed they were gay and wanted you to start a relationship with them, would you?
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Why does such a friendship need to include "sex?"

I would have a relationship with them. A deep, meaningful love for them and with them. Where does sex HAVE TO enter into that relationship? Would that make me gay? To love them, even without sex? I don't think so... If it does, I'm totally gay.
 
americanwoman said:
Question for heterosexuals-

If you were single and met someone of your own sex, who has all the qualities of someone you are looking for as a partner, and they confesed they were gay and wanted you to start a relationship with them, would you?
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It seems to me that the manner in which the OP is written suggests a relationship that would eventually include sex.

All I can say is that it wouldn't work for me. Friends... yes. Bedmates... no.
 
Tashah said:
It seemed to me to be implied. hetero meets gay meets relationship meets ?
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I guess it does seem to be implied. What I am more looking for is would you be willing to give someone a chance, given they are of the same sex, at a relationship. It may lead sometime down the road to sex but it is more of a question of would you give a homosexual relationship a chance, based on a friendship you have developed with someone.

I truly didn't think of the sexual aspect of a relationship as I wrote this, because I was trying to imply something of a friendship that may lead to a more meaningful (that may or may not yet include sex) relationship.
 
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americanwoman said:
I guess it does seem to be implied. What I am more looking for is would you be willing to give someone a chance, given they are of the same sex, at a relationship. It may lead sometime down the road to sex but it is more of a question of would you give a homosexual relationship a chance, based on a friendship you have developed with someone.

I truly didn't think of the sexual aspect of a relationship as I wrote this, because I was trying to imply something of a friendship that may lead to a more meaningful (that may or may not yet include sex) relationship.
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Okay. My reply remains unchanged. We can be friends, even close friends, but never lovers.
 
americanwoman said:
I guess it does seem to be implied. What I am more looking for is would you be willing to give someone a chance, given they are of the same sex, at a relationship. It may lead sometime down the road to sex but it is more of a question of would you give a homosexual relationship a chance, based on a friendship you have developed with someone.
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I have friends that are gay, very close friends but I highly doubt I would ever have sex with them.
 
One of my best friends is gay. We have a "relationship" that includes a sort of platonic love (Platonic = not in a gay way)). I sure as hell wouldn't blow him though.
 
americanwoman said:
Question for heterosexuals-

If you were single and met someone of your own sex, who has all the qualities of someone you are looking for as a partner, and they confesed they were gay and wanted you to start a relationship with them, would you?
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I'm not gay, my boyfriend is.
 
americanwoman said:
Question for heterosexuals-

If you were single and met someone of your own sex, who has all the qualities of someone you are looking for as a partner, and they confesed they were gay and wanted you to start a relationship with them, would you?
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To answer the question: No, I have psychological and emotional needs only a woman can fulfill.


In return, I might hook him up with a woman who has all the qualities he was looking for, confess that she was striate, and see if he went for it.
 
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I had a close friend who turned out to be gay, and finding that out didn't really change my opinion of him, or regret our friendship. I don't think there would be any problems with us being friends again if we crossed paths. But no, I would never give him a shot at a relationship that would grow into anything beyond just friends. Even if my best friend said he was gay, our relationship wouldn't go past where it is now.

When it comes to intimacy, females are the only answer for me. And intimacy is a quality I would look for in a partner.
 
hard wired to like tuna, not sausage
just like homosexuality it was not a choice i made
but as Popeye says, 'I yam what I yam'


now if this question is now meant to mean would i dump a friend i found out was homosexual, seems like a baiting question to uncover bigots
a person being gay has no bearing on whether or not we strike up a friendship
unless he makes the mistake of hitting on me more than once
I let it slide once, since their gaydar could need recalibrating
 
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