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jfuh said:If the notification were after, possibly. But realistically, just the essence of there being a notification could put many girls at risk.
It's like going throwing a party at the house when the parents were out on the weekend. She may do it because she knows that they wouldn't know, but if she knew they would find out, she wouldn't throw the party. Same with an abortion, she will try so desperatly to conceal the fact she got knocked up that she may not get an abortion and delay till it's much later, or she may go to back alley abortions, putting herself at much greater risk. You can't stop kids from making stupid mistakes, that's life, but you can help to make it so that they have a healthy mindset of confronting and dealing with such issues.
Notification after the fact doesn't make sense, in my mind. Women undergoing an abortion, regardless of age, NEED support. They need counseling, and they need guidance. If a girl is that afraid of her parents that she can't share the fact that she's pregnant and wants to get an abortion, that family has more serious issues at hand. How can you even compare an issue like this to throwing a party while mom and dad are out of town? Two completely different ball fields. Regardless, notification before the procedure is performed is the most logical thing. That way, her parents will be able to help her prepare (perhaps even monetarily, so she doesn't have to go to some back alley clinic).
You're right in saying that kids need to learn by making their own mistakes....but having an abortion is a lot more than "making a mistake". That's something that is going to affect her for the rest of her life, whether or not she acknowledges it.
I stand by my opinion. If my child couldn't even see a doctor for a common cold, why should she be allowed to be placed under a local anesthetic and have that major of a medical procedure without my knowledge? It just doesn't make sense.
I don't expect to ever change your mind, you seem rather set in your ways, but think about it from a mothers' point of view, or even as a father. Wouldn't you want to know if your daughter was going through something like that? Would you really want her to deal with it on her own? I think that while sure, many parents would be freaked out, they would also be parents and be concerned for their child, and want to help them make the best decision and then get through everything that entails.