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I would like others to chime in. I could understand if they were requiring an amount to handle the transaction because a person was not reliable , so the intervention was court ordered - but hell, that ain't right if the person has been reliable with support.
That's my take on it, too, but all child support goes through the agency. And those "collection fees" are deducted from the court-ordered amount the child is to receive. I don't think that's right.
I looked on a California law site, and it states most transactions are person to person without such intervention.
I am curious, can you go on a legal site for your state and find the info?
The payment of child support under all Kansas child support orders is paid through the Kansas Payment Center.
Its not primarily about a scumwad and his lies. It normally starts with lots of good faith and an understanding Momma, but then that good faith gets quickly tested by the real world of '**** creeks and short paddles' Dad gets in a financial bind, starts sending partial payments with all good intentions to 'make it up next month', that neither side does a great job documenting the 50 bucks he says he gave on the 22nd four months ago. Mom gets in financial bind and starts getting increasingly pissy, especially when she sees the new car Dad drives over, with a blond in the passenger seat. Dad hears Mom got a promotion and now has moved in a sketchy border to sublet the basement and notes the kid has torn jeans and shoes with holes . There is often a real value to an independent party collecting the payment and documenting the completed transaction. Once the state has decided as a matter of policy that child support is an obligation that benefits both the child directly and the community at large by stabilizing income in single parent households, its a small step for the state to decide that monitoring compliance is to the same benefit as well.Originally for the few who had children but didn't want to assist. But, communities found a way to capitalize on the issue, and started having child support payment routed through their offices, skimming a bit off the top, of course, for their troubles. I'd be willing to bet that 80-90% of the men and women who must pay would do so without the courts watching them. I believe most people are honest.
Howard, this isn't how this works. It normally starts with lots of good faith and an understanding Moma, but then that good faith gets quickly tested by the real world of '**** creeks and short paddles' Dad gets in a financial bind, starts sending partial payments with all good intentions, that neither side does a great job documenting. Mom gets in financial bind and starts getting increasingly pissy, especially when she sees the new car Dad drives over, with a blond in the passenger seat. Dad sees that the kid has torn jeans and shoes with hole and hears Mom got a promotion and now has moved in a sketchy border to sublet the basement. There is often a real value to an independent party collecting the payment and documenting the completed transaction.
Its not primarily about a scumwad and his lies. It normally starts with lots of good faith and an understanding Momma, but then that good faith gets quickly tested by the real world of '**** creeks and short paddles' Dad gets in a financial bind, starts sending partial payments with all good intentions to 'make it up next month', that neither side does a great job documenting the 50 bucks he says he gave on the 22nd four months ago. Mom gets in financial bind and starts getting increasingly pissy, especially when she sees the new car Dad drives over, with a blond in the passenger seat. Dad hears Mom got a promotion and now has moved in a sketchy border to sublet the basement and notes the kid has torn jeans and shoes with holes . There is often a real value to an independent party collecting the payment and documenting the completed transaction. Once the state has decided as a matter of policy that child support is an obligation that benefits both the child directly and the community at large by stabilizing income in single parent households, its a small step for the state to decide that monitoring compliance is to the same benefit as well.
I think you can assume all three interested parties Mom, Dad and the State begin this dance with good intentions, and still recognize that any of the three can end up tainted and corrupted.
Oh I see your point. Duh! of course you are right!I get that -- but why should the collection fee come out of the money the judge ordered to be awarded to the child. It seems like the fee should be added on so the child isn't the one who ends up paying it.
Yeah sure, it was easy to locate.
https://www.kansaslegalservices.org/node/1576/faqs-about-child-support
We can't be the only state that does that.
I do not accept that one gender should have a privaliged life style. Which is why i object to some men pleading that they have a right to act without caring for the consequences of their actions.
Nor am i pretending any such thing of men and women enjoying the same form of due process of law as equals. Men do not get pregnant so have no right to claim that they are the equal of women who do.
And once again it must be pointed out that no one is forcing men to become parents. They are just being told that they must face up to their own actions and take responsibility for them. The law is not the same because we have two different things going on here. One is women having the right to choose and the other is men being held accountable for what they do.
So men are getting extorted?
Women dont opt out of parenthood, they have a medical procedure, or not.
Wrong. A pregnant woman can opt out of parenthood in a couple of different ways. She can take a pill. She can get an abortion. She can put the child up for adoption with or without permission from anyone else.
Medically or not, women have options. Men have no options, which is why we call it forced fatherhood when it is involuntary. The state chooses when and where men become fathers, but the same cannot be said for women.
So then men can opt out of parenthood too...not having sex, using a condom, having a vasectomy....
Pregnancy is a biological consequence of being female. There is enough medical knowledge to treat the condition from beginning to end. So is prostate cancer, although it is less well understood. If I have a problem with my prostate, then I don't require a former sexual partner to solve that problem. The very idea is ridiculous. What is clear is that the "privileges" of being cared for and having choices are enjoyed by women.
Parentage is another matter entirely. We know that the circumstances of parentage vary greatly. Children need not depend on their biological parents, if they are adopted. Children in the foster care system are not dependent on their biological parents. Forced fatherhood is executed at the convenience of the state, and its sole purpose is to benefit the state by threatening fathers with incarceration and extortion.
Yep
So then men can opt out of parenthood too...not having sex, using a condom, having a vasectomy....
Women have one biological option men dont. No law can change that
So then women can opt of motherhood. Don't have sex. Use a condom. Have a hystorectomy.
Either you have made an argument against abortion or you believe women are superior to men. You are a bigot.
You just pointed out that it's equal. What is bigoted about that? Women can do all those things. So can men. No one prevents men from taking any or all of those actions to protect themselves...men are not victims.
What an absolute bull**** analogy.
Where as all you want is to never have anyone question your actions or demand that you be held responsible for your actions.
As far as you are concerned being held responsible is the government forcing you to do something.
You are not being asked to be a parent. You really need to stop begging for pity by using that word. All that is being asked is that you have a financial responsibility for your on actions.
Well said.
There is a play for victimhood when they are no longer entitled to have sex without consequences...which women cannot and never have been...yet some claim it's unequal! Yes, it is....the balance is still much more in favor of men.
Women get a extra choice post conception. That is unfair and a violation of civil rights
Men also do not have to take on the biologically unfair burden of pregnancy and/or decision to have an abortion, and/or the threat of harm to her body, including death.
She need not take on that burden at all. Everyone on here is talking about how men can use contraception to avoid any of his potential financial problems....contraception also works for women
Being pregnant is a burden, so as soon as that happens, she is facing a larger burden than he is and your "equality" claim fails.
Being pregnant is a burden, so as soon as that happens, she is facing a larger burden than he is and your "equality" claim fails.
Paying 18 years for a child you never wanted is also a burden. They keep telling me there is a way out of this burden for women....we should have one for men too.