I really hate those words. What do those words really mean? What did I say/do wrong?
I'm going to say that I probably did something wrong and that I don't understand everything, but some insight would be nice.
You sound like your kind of young. So, let me tell you how it is.
Guys basically work like this this:
If we sleep with a woman, from then on, she is one of two things to us:
1. An Object - As in I did her, it was fun, but I don't I don't care if my friend sleeps with her next week, or who does for that matter.
Or.
2. A possession - As in I did her, so she is mine.
Now that is not a very PC way of putting it, but thats how guys are wired up. Guys are wired up to be incapable of being just friends in the normal sense of the term with a chick we have or are sleeping with. Anyone that tells you any different is either lying or delusional. Its just how we evolved or something and its as reliable of a law as gravity is.
Women however are quite different in this regard. They can actually be friends with guys they have slept with (they don't always get that ultimately its a one sided friendship, but thats neither here nor there). So, when a girl says lets just be friends, all is not lost. Now granted, you are not going to be able to have a relationship with her, but you might could still sleep with her if thats what you are looking to do.
You see, most guys are practically married before they sleep with a sober woman. So where you ****ed up was when you hit on her when she had not had a couple of drinks. So if you are still wanting it, thats got to be your angle. You need to wait until she has had 2 or 3 drinks before you start flirting with her. Then what ever hangup she has about you could very well be temporarily dampened out by the alcohol, and in that case you might have a chance at it. That said, if you do that, you got to make sure a bunch of her friends are not around. You especially want to make sure that no fat purse holders are around as they are pretty much the ultimate **** blocker (that is other than them having a gay friend with them). Which brings me to another point where guys and women are just completely different. Your guy friends love to see you get drunk and sleep with a chick that they know you are going to regret sleeping with once you sober up. We think its funny. Chicks on the other hand will do everything they can to keep one of their friends from making a mistake like that.
Anyway, those are a few pointers for you that I wish I knew when I was high school age. Good luck.
A final note: None of this advice as Tongue-in-Cheek as it obviously is, should be construed as advising you to get a girl you are interested in so drunk she doesn't know what she is doing.